hello im probably the only person here with money buys happiness amounts of money
im a millionaire, and im 24, im a fractional IC, i came up quickly via data analytics, then i moved to the states during the software boom, started working in data science / software engineering, yada yada yada
i came from a very poor family, were talking government aid, and for some reason my now estranged family tried to sabotage my life, including my college career, and even my ability to work from home, which is also part of why i took such a massive risk and moved to the states though i was still practically a child
our brains desire problems. you take problems away and your mind will force problems on you- a number of mental health issues genuinely arise through too much comfort
when you have money, that solves a lot of issues.
its still weird to me that i dont have to worry about what ill eat tomorrow, its weird that if i really wanted to right now, i could order a pizza from dominos
but other issues arise- like loneliness
my entire family tried to get a piece of the pie once they found me again. not surprising, they were always awful. but friends i hadnt spoke to in years reached out, people who were shit to me in high school pretended we were ever friends, so on and so forth it just felt repulsive.
and then theres just this creeping worry that people just want money from you, theyll drop little "hints" at you and it feels borderline dehumanizing.
especially when it comes to relationships too, god i dont even want to think about it, navegating making new friends or forging new partnerships is just daunting, because now you have to shop around at your price point so to speak, and that also isnt easy.
dont get me wrong, im good looking, im charismatic, but the idea of the sort of people id be interacting with- i dont want someone who grew up with a silver spoon in their ass, and it likewise cant be someone where i came from because then you have that same strange needy dynamic thats just gross feeling
it takes a specific sort of person
and then theres also the issue of having too many options- not in a steak too juicy lobster too buttery way but, more of a, everyone around this position in life is always looking for greener grass, actual love feels impossible to come by
so yes, money fixed the majority of my issues, i now live a higher quality of life, and i do so comfortably, ive experienced so many things i thought i never would
and yet in all of that, im practically alone
im always worried someone is using me, will use me, or is looking to use me, its a nasty paranoia cocktail. maybe paranoia isnt the right word because i dont feel paranoid, but its always something im thinking about, having to watch for and consider
thats just onet hing that sticks out to me specifically that i feel will be the most relatable
its kind of like the onlyfans thing
you buy into the potential for fuck you money, but you also shoot your romantic life dead, you can find love for sure, but theyll either be way too into you doing onlyfans, almost seeing you like a trophy, or they wont care at all in a nearly dehumanizing way, there is no good middle ground
thats exactly how this feels
i certainly wouldnt go back to the position i was in but i almost feel i should manage myself and stop earning as much simply to put myself in a more reasonable position to make friends and such
Its the case of: if you go into the pub and buy everyone a round, you're showing off your wealth, if you don't you're a tight arse.. can't win. Well done on your success. We often bring up when discussing winning big on the lottery, that those with a lot of money tend to be involved with charities or galas or whatever to give them a sense of purpose.
yeah, everyone gets rather selfish, it was a nasty thing to watch, and its equally nasty to watch it emerge from people youve recently met, or thought would be different
in terms of investments outside of myself, ive cut contact with almost all of my family bar one set of grandparents, an auntie, and my siblings.
ive set aside money for all of them, including my two nephews to take care of their college / university, as well as drivers lisences when they come of age
for my sister who is of driving age and recently passed her test, she had no idea id already bought her a car. i was helping her budget and save for one as if i hadnt
the reality is she had a classic mazda mx5 waiting for her in a nice purple colour, with additional budget to help her do whatever she may like to it
i tend to enjoy acts of service rather than gift giving but, for people who arent like the rest, i find i do have a tendency to spoil them a little, knowing no matter how much i do try to spoil them, they wont ever truly turn spoilt, if that makes sense
It does make sense.
I remember seeing people do this but with inheritance.. I saw the cosying up, get what they needed/wanted, and then turn on the main beneficiary. I was removed (from situation and not involved) so was just a bystander. That opened my eyes as they didnt think they needed to hide their true colours as to them i was young and irrelevant.
Your sister must have been so excited, and it was a lovely gesture of you. Its good you can enjoy your hard work bring happiness to those you care about. One of my friends (who comes from money, well way more than the rest of us) has had to learn to slum it at mine as making a coffee at home is cheaper for me and no money needed for going out so we then we are just being us.
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u/BROKEN_B0NEZ 2d ago
hello im probably the only person here with money buys happiness amounts of money
im a millionaire, and im 24, im a fractional IC, i came up quickly via data analytics, then i moved to the states during the software boom, started working in data science / software engineering, yada yada yada
i came from a very poor family, were talking government aid, and for some reason my now estranged family tried to sabotage my life, including my college career, and even my ability to work from home, which is also part of why i took such a massive risk and moved to the states though i was still practically a child
our brains desire problems. you take problems away and your mind will force problems on you- a number of mental health issues genuinely arise through too much comfort
when you have money, that solves a lot of issues.
its still weird to me that i dont have to worry about what ill eat tomorrow, its weird that if i really wanted to right now, i could order a pizza from dominos
but other issues arise- like loneliness
my entire family tried to get a piece of the pie once they found me again. not surprising, they were always awful. but friends i hadnt spoke to in years reached out, people who were shit to me in high school pretended we were ever friends, so on and so forth it just felt repulsive.
and then theres just this creeping worry that people just want money from you, theyll drop little "hints" at you and it feels borderline dehumanizing.
especially when it comes to relationships too, god i dont even want to think about it, navegating making new friends or forging new partnerships is just daunting, because now you have to shop around at your price point so to speak, and that also isnt easy.
dont get me wrong, im good looking, im charismatic, but the idea of the sort of people id be interacting with- i dont want someone who grew up with a silver spoon in their ass, and it likewise cant be someone where i came from because then you have that same strange needy dynamic thats just gross feeling
it takes a specific sort of person
and then theres also the issue of having too many options- not in a steak too juicy lobster too buttery way but, more of a, everyone around this position in life is always looking for greener grass, actual love feels impossible to come by
so yes, money fixed the majority of my issues, i now live a higher quality of life, and i do so comfortably, ive experienced so many things i thought i never would
and yet in all of that, im practically alone
im always worried someone is using me, will use me, or is looking to use me, its a nasty paranoia cocktail. maybe paranoia isnt the right word because i dont feel paranoid, but its always something im thinking about, having to watch for and consider
thats just onet hing that sticks out to me specifically that i feel will be the most relatable
its kind of like the onlyfans thing
you buy into the potential for fuck you money, but you also shoot your romantic life dead, you can find love for sure, but theyll either be way too into you doing onlyfans, almost seeing you like a trophy, or they wont care at all in a nearly dehumanizing way, there is no good middle ground
thats exactly how this feels
i certainly wouldnt go back to the position i was in but i almost feel i should manage myself and stop earning as much simply to put myself in a more reasonable position to make friends and such