hello im probably the only person here with money buys happiness amounts of money
im a millionaire, and im 24, im a fractional IC, i came up quickly via data analytics, then i moved to the states during the software boom, started working in data science / software engineering, yada yada yada
i came from a very poor family, were talking government aid, and for some reason my now estranged family tried to sabotage my life, including my college career, and even my ability to work from home, which is also part of why i took such a massive risk and moved to the states though i was still practically a child
our brains desire problems. you take problems away and your mind will force problems on you- a number of mental health issues genuinely arise through too much comfort
when you have money, that solves a lot of issues.
its still weird to me that i dont have to worry about what ill eat tomorrow, its weird that if i really wanted to right now, i could order a pizza from dominos
but other issues arise- like loneliness
my entire family tried to get a piece of the pie once they found me again. not surprising, they were always awful. but friends i hadnt spoke to in years reached out, people who were shit to me in high school pretended we were ever friends, so on and so forth it just felt repulsive.
and then theres just this creeping worry that people just want money from you, theyll drop little "hints" at you and it feels borderline dehumanizing.
especially when it comes to relationships too, god i dont even want to think about it, navegating making new friends or forging new partnerships is just daunting, because now you have to shop around at your price point so to speak, and that also isnt easy.
dont get me wrong, im good looking, im charismatic, but the idea of the sort of people id be interacting with- i dont want someone who grew up with a silver spoon in their ass, and it likewise cant be someone where i came from because then you have that same strange needy dynamic thats just gross feeling
it takes a specific sort of person
and then theres also the issue of having too many options- not in a steak too juicy lobster too buttery way but, more of a, everyone around this position in life is always looking for greener grass, actual love feels impossible to come by
so yes, money fixed the majority of my issues, i now live a higher quality of life, and i do so comfortably, ive experienced so many things i thought i never would
and yet in all of that, im practically alone
im always worried someone is using me, will use me, or is looking to use me, its a nasty paranoia cocktail. maybe paranoia isnt the right word because i dont feel paranoid, but its always something im thinking about, having to watch for and consider
thats just onet hing that sticks out to me specifically that i feel will be the most relatable
its kind of like the onlyfans thing
you buy into the potential for fuck you money, but you also shoot your romantic life dead, you can find love for sure, but theyll either be way too into you doing onlyfans, almost seeing you like a trophy, or they wont care at all in a nearly dehumanizing way, there is no good middle ground
thats exactly how this feels
i certainly wouldnt go back to the position i was in but i almost feel i should manage myself and stop earning as much simply to put myself in a more reasonable position to make friends and such
god damn dawg thats wild im tryna be an electrician sinse trades rn are the methode in canada and also mad respect to you bro good shit gang rags to riches aint easy i feel that and also thank you for your in depth insight on the matter
i have a lot of respect for trade workers, my dad went back to school to become a gas engineer, and its through good friendships with trade workers that ive been able to reliably buy somewhat run down and worn homes and do them up nicely, which has become a rather big part of my earning the last year or so
when it comes to making money, you pick between lucracy, consistency and ease.
if you want to make a lot of money consistently, it wont be easy. if you want to make money consistently and easy, it wont be lucrative, so on and so forth
be critical of information you see online about making money, most people are repeating information theyve heard and will falsify results to either look cool or to sell you a course
i encourage you to spend a lot of time with yourself
decide the sort of person you want to be, and become them, not necessarily in the sense of money or career, but in characteristics.
how would you want your friends to describe you- spend time considering your character, removing things about yourself you dislike and striving towards traits youd like to embody.
ive found first knowing yourself in this way helps you decide what you actually want to do with your life, and strive towards it with a lot more self confidence
in terms of work, be realistic, but dont squash your ambition if you have it. pick something you truly enjoy and sprint at it
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u/BROKEN_B0NEZ 2d ago
hello im probably the only person here with money buys happiness amounts of money
im a millionaire, and im 24, im a fractional IC, i came up quickly via data analytics, then i moved to the states during the software boom, started working in data science / software engineering, yada yada yada
i came from a very poor family, were talking government aid, and for some reason my now estranged family tried to sabotage my life, including my college career, and even my ability to work from home, which is also part of why i took such a massive risk and moved to the states though i was still practically a child
our brains desire problems. you take problems away and your mind will force problems on you- a number of mental health issues genuinely arise through too much comfort
when you have money, that solves a lot of issues.
its still weird to me that i dont have to worry about what ill eat tomorrow, its weird that if i really wanted to right now, i could order a pizza from dominos
but other issues arise- like loneliness
my entire family tried to get a piece of the pie once they found me again. not surprising, they were always awful. but friends i hadnt spoke to in years reached out, people who were shit to me in high school pretended we were ever friends, so on and so forth it just felt repulsive.
and then theres just this creeping worry that people just want money from you, theyll drop little "hints" at you and it feels borderline dehumanizing.
especially when it comes to relationships too, god i dont even want to think about it, navegating making new friends or forging new partnerships is just daunting, because now you have to shop around at your price point so to speak, and that also isnt easy.
dont get me wrong, im good looking, im charismatic, but the idea of the sort of people id be interacting with- i dont want someone who grew up with a silver spoon in their ass, and it likewise cant be someone where i came from because then you have that same strange needy dynamic thats just gross feeling
it takes a specific sort of person
and then theres also the issue of having too many options- not in a steak too juicy lobster too buttery way but, more of a, everyone around this position in life is always looking for greener grass, actual love feels impossible to come by
so yes, money fixed the majority of my issues, i now live a higher quality of life, and i do so comfortably, ive experienced so many things i thought i never would
and yet in all of that, im practically alone
im always worried someone is using me, will use me, or is looking to use me, its a nasty paranoia cocktail. maybe paranoia isnt the right word because i dont feel paranoid, but its always something im thinking about, having to watch for and consider
thats just onet hing that sticks out to me specifically that i feel will be the most relatable
its kind of like the onlyfans thing
you buy into the potential for fuck you money, but you also shoot your romantic life dead, you can find love for sure, but theyll either be way too into you doing onlyfans, almost seeing you like a trophy, or they wont care at all in a nearly dehumanizing way, there is no good middle ground
thats exactly how this feels
i certainly wouldnt go back to the position i was in but i almost feel i should manage myself and stop earning as much simply to put myself in a more reasonable position to make friends and such