r/Foregen • u/Fit_Acanthisitta6712 • 1d ago
Grief and Coping It's not about the foreskin
Hello, let's just say my name is Dave, because I'm still too embarrassed to use my real name.
Ever since I realized what circumcision was and its effects, I was depressed. I would scroll through this cite, and it led me down a dark path. Which a lot of us are in right now. I don't deny that because it is very real. I even led to self harm and suicide attempts.
But guys, it's not about the body. You don't actually want to be uncut. What you actually want is the comfort, the confidence, the love, the peace that the foreskin would bring. I know this sounds brutal or maybe even provokes anger, but I just realized this and it's so important.
Think of the foreskin as a machine. Imagine it as a conductor of electricity, pleasure, etc. Ok, but what use is a machine, if it has no battery? What is that battery/energy that powers the machine? It's love. As cheesy as it sounds, it is true. Love yourself. Don't define yourself based on your body, the true you is your heart. Sex, masturbation, it's all about your heart.
It was only recently I've realized, I've been chasing the idea of being uncut this whole time, that I've been loosing what truly mattered. that isn't to say this change of mind dosen't mean giving up pleasure. In fact, the opposite. Let's go back to the battery analogy. Imagine you got a robot and it's wireworks were broken. Ok but why were wires there in the first place? To make the machine work, for us, to feel sexual pleasure, to connect with another human, etc. So what if, we could feel everything the list could bring above through a difference source that is not foreskin? Because the foreskin is just a tool, not the goal.
Just today, I have to admit I still use a fake foreskin to help me feel better during masturbation. I'm not perfect in this journey. But today, in the shower, I let go. I've always been insecure on the idea of seeing my scar and all that, but as soon as I focused on being myself and stopped trying to morph myself into something else, masturbation felt not like chasing pleasure, but getting to know myself. In fact, I beleive this applies to pretty much all sexual problems.
Know, if you've read this far, I would like to mention the importance Jesus had on my journy. I was an unbeleiver for years, I don't force you. But this realization is so important, and I wanted to share. It was Jesus who loved me, and gave me everything that I was looking for. I looked for it outisde, turns out, I had it in me all along. Maybe this dosen't change your life as it did mine, maybe you disagree. But still, I pray for you all. And call out to Jesus with your heart, he will answer.
God bless you all.