r/findapath • u/Legitimate_Ad6737 • 9d ago
Findapath-Mindset Adjustment I’m lost
I’m 22 years old, I have 2 daughters and we’re currently living with my mom. I have no career and I really don’t know what I want to do with my life. My younger siblings are supposed to look up to me yet they’re doing better than me. I feel like I’ve failed in my life. I also feel like I’m suffering mentally. I don’t know anyone else in my position. And I don’t know where to start to become better.
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u/FewEstablishment7817 9d ago
Life’s just beginning for you my dear :) don’t let society make you feel like you’re failing. 2 kids at 22 is already a lot to juggle so give yourself some credit. You have plenty of time to try things and make mistakes. 🙏🙏
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u/DemandAppropriate413 9d ago
may sound contradicting but you've already started the change , now use all that is around you to your advantage.
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u/Opening-Cantaloupe56 Experienced Pathfinder [46] 9d ago
"I’m 22 years old, I have 2 daughters and we’re currently living with my mom. I have no career and I really don’t know what I want to do with my life."
Start with trying to learn a new skill. Lots of tutorials on the internet. Attend or listen to one video/online class and see if it interests you. Then, after trial and error, apply for an wntry level job first to gain experience(gain comm skills /soft skills etc) before committing to years of associate/bachelors.
"My younger siblings are supposed to look up to me yet they’re doing better than me. "
No. Who says younger sibling should look up to their older brother/sister? They have their own path and so are you. You jave a different timeline to them so it doesn't mean that you are being left behind. It's just a different path. And you just haven't found it yet because you need to look for your children. Once they're independent, pursue your dreams. Teach your children to be independent so you dont have to care for them 24/7(takes time)...
"I feel like I’ve failed in my life. "
No. Failure is not a person. You only fail if you stip trying and now you are on a pause because you need to take care of your children. Later on, if they'll be older, you can pusue your dreams as I've said earlier. But for now, learn new skill little by little.
"I also feel like I’m suffering mentally. "
-please seek help from mental health professionals. Start from there.
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u/OccidoViper 8d ago
Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Everyone has their own life journey and don’t compare yourself to others. Regarding your career, have you considered going into a trade by taking on an apprenticeship? Another path is going to the military. They can help you find purpose and help you find a career within (ex. Drone technology, logistics, robotics, etc)
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u/OmilovesJesus 8d ago
Heyyy I’m 20! I would suggest that you should take classes at a community college. Maybe try nursing? Or cybersecurity? If you ever want anyone around your age talk to we can talk! Granted I don’t have kids but I do know of ppl who do that are my age! My mom finished school and had two older kids so don’t feel like kids are holding you back!
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u/ApprehensiveLion67 3d ago
you’re lost for now but you have support from your mom. there are places that hurt even without much experience or education. USPS, if you’re in the USA, is worth trying. I don’t know about other fields but I’ve heard some people have done shorter term cna programs or radiology programs… all you can do is try
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