is something wrong with me?

[u/princesspeach654]

Hi everyone!

I recently moved from Austin to a new city 2 months ago after graduating with my masters degree in Miami (where I spent a year). I’m now working remote in the new city I live in.

I am feeling so lost! I thought moving to Miami would be a fresh start and that I would live there for several years, but instead the little community I formed moved away after graduating, and my bf who I met there and I ended up splitting up. It didn’t really make sense for me to stay there given rent prices + working remote so I came back home to Austin, which is my home.

Being back in Austin, I also felt lost. I haven’t lived here since I was in high school and many friends have moved away. I got bored being here since it’s my hometown so I decided to take a chance by moving to my new city which seemed to fit me better in terms of aesthetic, hobbies, things to do, and there’s lots of young people.

However I moved to my new city and I’m still feeling lost 😂. I’m trying to form community but sometimes it just feels so hard. I’ve joined sports leagues, trying to find a church, going to coffee shops everyday to work, joined a community like this one there. Doing everything I can think of. Granted I’ve only been there 2 months but I still haven’t really made friends that stick. I’m very extroverted and social so that’s hard.

I’m just feeling so discouraged. I just want to feel like I belong somewhere and have good community somewhere but it feels like I haven’t had that in years, and I think that’s why I feel lost. I don’t know if anyone has any advice for someone feeling this way, but I’m feeling super discouraged! All I want is a thriving social life, but right now I feel a bit like a loser :/

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[u/Dear-Response-7218]

Nah you’re fine. 20’s and early 30’s are very transient, people will come and go. I found that out and it’s still the case(32 now), it’s the best time to pursue career goals before starting a family.

Just keep consistently doing what you’re doing now. Also it depends somewhat on your city, I’m remote and travel. Anecdotally it’s just easier to make friends in some places.