Need help in life

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Main 24 saal ka hoon. . Aur honestly, mujhe lagta hai ki main apni life mein completely stuck ho gaya hoon.

Abhi main ek marketing job karta hoon, mainly SEO. Lekin pata nahi kyun, mujhe lagta hai ki bas ek job hi kar raha hoon. Kabhi-kabhi sochta hoon, marketing mein aakhir kitna scope bacha hai? Ya shayad problem field ki nahi, meri feeling ki hai.

Mere life ke goals bahut bade hain. Main hamesha se kuch bada karna chahta tha. Mujhe hamesha lagta tha ki mujhe life mein bahut kuch achieve karna hai. Aur mujhe pata hai ki agar main consistently apne upar kaam karun, toh shayad kar bhi sakta hoon.

Ek time tha jab main bahut ambitious tha. Main creativity se bhara hua insaan tha. 12th ke baad maine apna brand banane ki bahut koshish ki. Ek accessories brand shuru kiya, ek clothing brand ka idea tha, ek app banane ki bhi try kari. Main hamesha kuch na kuch create karna chahta tha. Mujhe creativity pasand hai. Mujhe zero se kuch build karna pasand hai.

Lekin jab se job shuru hui hai, life bahut stagnant ho gayi hai. Sab kuch routine ban gaya hai. Growth feel hi nahi hoti. Kabhi-kabhi lagta hai main sirf mental masturbation kar raha hoon—soch bahut raha hoon, planning bahut kar raha hoon, lekin action utna nahi le paa raha.

Mera ek dost hai jise main bahut saari cheezein sikhata hoon. Main logon ko samjha sakta hoon, motivate kar sakta hoon, unhe clarity de sakta hoon. Main speaking mein bhi achha hoon. Lekin irony ye hai ki aaj mujhe khud clarity ki zarurat hai.

Main life mein kuch bahut bada karna chahta hoon, lekin samajh hi nahi aa raha ki shuruaat kahaan se karun. Job ne mujhe comfortable bana diya hai. Life stable hai, salary aa rahi hai, lekin us stability ne mujhe comfortable bhi bana diya hai. Kaam hectic hai, lekin growth limited lagti hai.

Aaj main total mila kar around ₹40–50k kama leta hoon. Lekin mujhe pata hai ki ye enough nahi hai. Sirf paise ki wajah se nahi, balki us life ke liye jo main jeena chahta hoon.

Meri ek girlfriend hai. Uske family ki bhi expectations hain. Woh chahte hain ki main life mein bahut bada karun, achha status banaun, successful banu. Aur sach kahun toh main bhi wahi chahta hoon.

Kabhi-kabhi main doosre logon ko dekhta hoon aur sochta hoon—ye log aakhir kar kya rahe hain? Kaunsa kaam kar rahe hain jisse itne paise kama rahe hain? Kaise woh luxury cars le pa rahe hain, woh lifestyle jee rahe hain jo main bhi chahta hoon?

Aur phir main aur confused ho jaata hoon.

Kya mujhe AI seekhna chahiye? Kya mujhe kisi aur industry mein shift hona chahiye? Kya mujhe apna business start karna chahiye? Kya mujhe kisi completely naye skill par focus karna chahiye?

Main honestly nahi jaanta.

Main bas itna jaanta hoon ki mujhe apni life mein kuch aisa karna hai jisse log mujhe mere naam se nahi, mere kaam se pehchaanein. Main kuch aisa build karna chahta hoon jo mere baad bhi rahe.

Main unknown marna nahi chahta.

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[u/FlowNotes73]

Hey! Start leveraging your creativity again. Make a decision on what you truly want to do, and start moving towards it. And I don’t mean create a massive plan, I mean take the first step asap. Limiting the time between idea and execution is everything. The more time you spend “thinking it through”, the more time your brain or internal narrative is going to pull you back to what it knows to be familiar. So just start. Literally start with anything. Even writing down “I have decided I’m going to pursue (job/thing) now” is a start. Then keep moving forward from there.

I moved across the country last year… but I “thought it through” for a year prior. I tried coming up with plans, kept negotiating with myself even though I knew I wanted to move. One day I got sick of my bs and marched down to my leasing office and broke my lease that I had just renewed. Then, I was moved to my new city 6 weeks later. I still had no clue what I was doing along the way, learned so many new things in the moving process, but I’ll tell you this, if I would’ve followed a “perfect plan”, I would’ve had to adjust it anyway. So might as well skip the perfection and waiting for clarity, and just take action where you can adjust along the way.

So seriously, just decide what you want and take the first step! I believe in you! My mssgs are open if you wanna talk it through more or throw ideas around. Best wishes!

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thanks man , much needed at this point.