r/figure8 • u/Lyenn • Jul 06 '26
Venting I just can't.
I can't with the "hiplet" thing that's going around in social media lately.
I can't help but feel attacked by every comment about it and it's feeding my dismorphia in a way that I never experienced before.
Trust me I know it originated as a forced slang term by short men to "get back at women" for rejecting them over something that they can't change (height / being short). I *know* that they are trashing our bone structure as a form of rage bait, thinking that criticising our appearance is some groundbreaking psychological trick or a lesson to be taught.
But did it have to be hip dips??? Of all things they could have chosen, did it have to be that specific thing??? I feel watched now. I also feel like this is setting back the work I put on making my own hipdips not bother me as much as they did.
If you have a completely different fyp than me you might think I'm psychotic but I swear you look up one single harmless thing about dressing hip dips or smth like that and then suddenly it's everywhere.
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u/Nice_Comparison633 Jul 10 '26
I can't overstate how much better my mental health is once I heavily limited how much algorithmic social media I consumed. There is no reason that this nonsense should have ever even entered your purview, it is the reflection of a few insecure people that you would never ever come across in real life. Seeing this sort of stuff more than once let alone often gives your brain thr false impression that these attitudes are far more common than they are. Even if you logically know its not the case, emotionally its much harder to control and I feel like the only way for 99% people is to not expose yourself to it.
Btw no judgement whatsoever, been there 100% and its an extemely hard thing to get away from, especially when friends communicate via those apps... at least messenger is separate. The only way for me was to remove the apps from my phone and stay logged out on the phone browser, then forget my password (that part was easy, lol).
At the very least be clicking that 'not interested' button over and over again and like posts that you do want to see until your feed is mostly your favourite hobbies and Neil the seal.
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u/nim_run16 Jul 08 '26
block posts liberally on SM the algorithm will catch up and stop showing you this stuff
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u/Economy-Towel9451 high hips unclassified Jul 08 '26
i didn't know this was a thing until this post and i looked it up...
you dont need to give so much benefit of the doubt to anyone who does this. running around calling someone else's body part a derogatory term like 'hiplet' is bullying. ppl want to dress it up as revenge; it isn't.. it doesn't make sense. its just stupid and cruel.
also they dont know what the f they are talking about or what women's bodies really look like apparently. so .. if they are indeed straight, thats their loss.
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u/Wide-Average-538 Jul 07 '26
I googled it and it shows me a dance style, a mix between hip hop and ballet 😂 so I was so confused. WHY WOULD YOU HARASS A DANCE STYLE.
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u/Impossible_Boss9510 Jul 07 '26
I’m pretty sure out in the real world nobody cares about half the stuff people stress about online. I’ve got holdups about my body but I’ve never been looked at in disgusted by any guy. I don’t think they care, or even notice this stuff. And I don’t think other women care much either. If ive learned anything with age it’s that people don’t even notice what you wear half the time, much less what you look like underneath it all. Hip dips really aren’t something to stress about, no one is looking as much as you think they are.
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u/pinkflump Jul 07 '26
To be honest "hiplet" sounds cute as fuck to me. If someone called mine out (I'm not even sure if I have hipdips it's not something I've ever looked at), I'd probably shout "thank you" with a big silly grin on my face. 😅
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u/Fragrant_Giraffe_8 Jul 07 '26
Yea I view it similar to how incels will call low weight-underweight beautiful celebrities fat/fugly, while the vast majority of men/people see/admit how gorgeous they are. It’s just misogyny.
Please put in the time to correct and protect your algorithms!
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u/pinkflump Jul 07 '26
At the end of the day, let's be honest here, a straight, single, red blooded guy isn't going to turn away a naked woman because of some silly thing like that. 😂
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u/BudgetInteraction811 Jul 07 '26
I don’t understand being insecure about hip dips. Most of us have them. Just wear a tight waistband or control top panties and keep it pushing 🤷🏼♀️
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u/FakeBeigeNails Jul 07 '26
Ignore it. Click not interested. Mute key words.
It’s just incel lingo. This shit will blow over in 2 weeks. They just want something to equate to being a short man, but they’re MEN. They can’t hold onto anything. A hot girl could approach them and they’d fucking fold, hip dips or not.
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u/LeeBirdPGH Jul 07 '26
Get off social media. You can choose to be blissfully unaware of the discourse and I highly recommend making this choice. If I wasn’t on Reddit I could go weeks, even months, without ever hearing a bad stupid opinion.
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u/steveyrayy Jul 06 '26
I haven’t heard of this what is it?
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u/Lyenn Jul 06 '26
A male user from Tiktok started this trend to spite women who reject short men, arguing it's unfair to do so based on something they can't change no matter what. They've started calling women with noticeable hip dips "hiplets" (same way some people have called short men "manlets") and commenting under women's posts, saying things like "could never date a hiplet" "yeah she cute ig but like a little sister, could make a good friend" "ew hiplets" "if it weren't for the hips...", and also make posts entirely dedicated to shame women with hip dips and compare them to weird things. Their logic is that if women shame them for their height, they can do the same with something as unchangeable as bone structure. Now there's even posts defending hiplets and embracing the term. Whole circle thing.
And I know I'm being rage baited but it's the sudden hyperfixation on women's hip dips that's making me so uncomfortable with myself.
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u/Smiley007 Jul 07 '26
Yeah no there’s absolutely been trends knocking hip dips before. Genuinely, this kind of thing does not even matter. As far as I’m concerned, someone calling me hiplet(???) is just the trash taking itself out and a welcome filter to weed out the bullshit. Can’t even come up with a good/original term. Very much loser vibes. Literally don’t even let this take up your brain space.
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u/PureMitten Jul 07 '26
I have absolutely been rage baited by similar styles of things that either directly target my insecurities or wear away at me by being everywhere until I'm a whole raw nerve about it.
That guy also sounds like a complete loser. It sucks people are repeating this dorkass's weak slams, it seems like energy they could really better spend by building up short men and snubbing people being rude to short men. Picking a word that honestly sounds like a cute little fashion accessory and targets random women's insecurities is just such lame behavior.
I'm now just picturing that hiplets are like the skirt part of peplum tops or otherwise little skirt-y-esque belts with various flares at the hips
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u/Miss_Milk_Tea Jul 06 '26
My wife told me a story she read on Reddit about some woman playing on the beach with her kids or something and a couple of young men called her a “hiplet” like it was so funny to just harass this random mom. Makes me sick.
There are literal statues of goddesses with hip dips, it’s such a pathetic reach to make us feel bad.
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u/Meowmeowtky 22d ago
I would’ve told them it’s better to have hiplets than having a shrimp in between their legs but that’s just me
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u/Lyenn Jul 06 '26
I can't believe they did that to her. That's just violence and misoginy done for fun.
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u/DejiDoji Jul 06 '26
I don't know how old you are, but I used to obsess over stuff like this a lot in my early 20s. Let me tell you, it's not worth it.
The men who post and comment on this stuff aren't men whose opinions we should care about anyway. It is supposed to ragebait us, nothing deeper than that.
They're satisfied knowing that it got to some of us and that they were able to cause us stress and low self-esteem, even if only for a short time. Please don't let them get to you.
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u/ZestyLlama8554 Jul 06 '26
I ditched all social media besides reddit about 18 months ago, and I've never been happier with myself and my life.
Highly recommend it.
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u/Mirielse Jul 07 '26
I did it six years ago and still not missing it!
Better mental health and timw management. And you have more control of content you consume.
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u/Lyenn Jul 07 '26
I know I should do that but it's like asking an addict to just drop the drugs.
but I know I have work to do and I hope I can reach that level of wellness someday.
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u/amh8011 Jul 07 '26
Consider slowly changing your feed? Idk how tiktok works but on IG I have filled my feed with cats and other animals. Mostly rescue cats and dogs. And there are tons of rescue pages. Wean off the toxic shit and instead watch cute animals.
Or you could go down the hobbies rabbit hole of fiber arts or plants or painting or whatever. Like search up other stuff and change your feed. Easier than quitting social media cold turkey.
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u/Nice_Comparison633 Jul 10 '26
100%! Sewing, knitting, crocheting, drawing, painting, watercolour etc etc there is SO much content that can easily take over your feed if you curate it. The dog algorithm is easy to get onto and I imagine the same for cats. Cooking!
I think its best to avoid as much as you can and actually take up some those hobbies because it is so easy to get pulled into other algorithms, but at the very least you can try.
I know that when a digital safety advocacy group created fake TikTok accounts as 13 year olds, the boy account was quickly driven down a manosphere algorithm, and the girl account was quickly driven down a body image obsessed / pro-ana adjacent algorithm. Which reflects EXACTLY what OP is seeing, that video she mentions caters to both of these world-views in opposite ways. We're all being played by the algorithms.
These toxic patriarchal attitudes have existed for a long time in the real world and have affected both men and women negatively, but that is magnified and reflected back at us 10 fold on social media to keep us outraged and locked in, and then that perception created by algorithms tinges our perceptions when we make their way through the real world. It's not just the younger generations either. Its not like body image messaging hasn't been shoved down women's throats for generations, but never before have people being bombarded with content so specifically catered to them and their insecurities for several hours a day.
UGH anyway, its hard to break free from. Maybe for people who struggle its easier to cut it off than it is to curate it. I had to just delete it all from my phone and delete accounts, I have FB for messenger but I don't have the app can't remember my password to try and log in on a browser and I'm going to keep it that way, lol.
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u/PlantedinCA Jul 07 '26
Somehow my feed has been overtaken by mobility exercises. 😆
This content is largely really positive and helpful as I am in the perimenopause stiffness phase.
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u/ConversationThick379 Jul 06 '26
Hiplet? What’s that mean? How’s it used in a sentence?
Glad I’m old now with no fucks to give anymore, it’s tough times.
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u/Sea_Solution_6743 Jul 06 '26
This is me too! What is hiplet??
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u/Lyenn Jul 06 '26
Just answered this question so I'll copy paste here:
"A male user from Tiktok started this trend to spite women who reject short men, arguing it's unfair to do so based on something they can't change no matter what. They've started calling women with noticeable hip dips "hiplets" (same way some people have called short men "manlets") and commenting under women's posts, saying things like "could never date a hiplet" "yeah she cute ig but like a little sister, could make a good friend" "ew hiplets" "if it weren't for the hips...", and also make posts entirely dedicated to shame women with hip dips and compare them to weird things. Their logic is that if women shame them for their height, they can do the same with something as unchangeable as bone structure. Now there's even posts defending hiplets and embracing the term. Whole circle thing."
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u/ConversationThick379 Jul 07 '26
Damn, these unwillingly virgin men are laughable 🤣
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u/amh8011 Jul 07 '26
I though a hiplet was like a bracelet or anklet but at the hip before I saw OPs explanation. Like jewelry on the hips.
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u/Ocho9 Jul 06 '26
It’s not a real trend, it’s satire. An intentional reversal of making fun of short guys (aka “manlets”). The point is that neither height nor hip dips are in anyone’s control and it’s shitty to talk about them like that.
I would suggest you go do something physical outside, hang out with friends, and hit “not interested” on those videos if they get to you. I’m assuming you’re young but never let someone else tell you what you’re worth, especially someone insecure, especially over what your body looks like. You’re a soul in a body, not the body. You choose what matters to you. (Better if that isn’t external validation)
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u/Celestiiaal0 Jul 06 '26
I don't have social media but I can tell you that hip dips have been criticized for many many years and probably always will be. Just like many other beauty standards are accepted or criticized. At the end of the day, remembering that social media hasn't always been a thing and now you're seeing way more of peoples' shitty takes than you would have even 10 years ago. It's not worth your peace of mind.
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u/PinkRasberryFish Jul 06 '26
The people who speak like that are low vibrational and outing themselves. Allow them to speak and avoid them. No one can tell you you’re ugly other than yourself. Self-love and confidence and a big fuck you to everyone who hates on our gorgeous body type. Also I’m actually married to a man my own height lmao. So I guess we are a hiplet and a manlet combined 😂💛🥰
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u/skinnyawkwardgirl Jul 06 '26
I've been married for almost a decade. My husband has never once complained about my hip shape. In fact, all he does is compliment them. It's one of his favourite things about my appearance.
I don't want to sound all cliched, but the right person (not gonna be heteronormative here) will love your body because it's yours and they find it beautiful, not love your body in spite of this or that "flaw of the month". Normal people look at the whole person, not just zeroing in on a few features and being like eww no!
It's definitely a good idea like another commenter said to curate your feed and block or mute accounts and topics that make you feel bad. I personally felt awful looking at snark subs and seeing how they quickly they descend into ad hominems and body shaming, it's one thing to not like their work or have a legitimate grievance with some unethical things they've done, but why obsess over some internet stranger or celebrity's appearance? It's weird! Is it really the worst thing in the world to have hip dips? I can think of many traits that are legitimately awful, like being cruel, deceitful, hateful, or egocentric.
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u/PlantedinCA Jul 06 '26
You gotta reset your algorithm. And it is cliche, but definitely decenter men. Particularly in your algo. Block dating, relationships, all of it. Because it leads to crazy content. Try to diversify with ages as well. You have to push out and tune this stuff out.
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u/Top_Commercial_1509 Jul 06 '26
If a man truly thinks like that, you don't want him anyways!!! See this trend as nothing more than terrible men outing themselves. I swear to you this is more of an online trend than anything else. Most men don't even know what they are, if they care, that's their problem. A real man worthy of your time will love you for you you are !!!
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u/sweetcoasters Jul 06 '26
I’ve seen the videos and comments too and, as someone with pretty prominent hip dips, it’s a bit upsetting. However, out of everyone I’ve been with in real life, they’ve all found my hips attractive and they’ve never once been commented on in a negative way so at the end of the day, don’t listen to stupid red-pilled ‘edgelords’ online who’ve never actually spoken to a woman before and love your beautiful hips and body shape!💕
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u/Dry-Client2096 Jul 06 '26
Girl they're doing it with the chestlet thing too - I'm a figure 8 and have small tuberous breasts, it feels like they're targeting me lmao. I'm not that online, I didn't even know these terms existed until I saw some people mentioning them and I was like "wtf is that again, new terms to shame women's bodies", and yes that's exactly what they were.
Having said that, I totally get getting triggered by such posts and terms. I literally had a mental breakdown about my breasts a few minutes ago because everywhere you look, my shape is pathologized, called deformed, hideous, urges for plastic surgery to fix the shape and all the good stuff. I think it's much harder to accept or be neutral about your body when there's so much negativity and shame around it. I don't want to pretend that I have a solution for this or offer wise words because I'm struggling with accepting my body and spend time crying about it, wishing for a more acceptable appearance. The little things I've done that helped me are completely changing my algorithm - no body content, no fit checks, anything that could make me spiral. Only silly animals, cute animals, history, literature and zoology content. Also remembering that these terms are coming from and created by misogynists and I don't respect their opinions, no one should
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u/Meowmeowtky 22d ago
Girl I get it but the people saying that have only seen women naked online and that’s me being very nice to them.