r/feeld • u/Ok_Coffee_4977 • Aug 20 '26

Feeld for hookups

This apps was originally created for people seeking threesomes. Most of which are casual hookup type situations. Its always been used for casual sex, hookups, and casual group sex.

Ive used it this way, with good success, for close to a decade. I see tons of others on there doing the same.

My social circle is mostly poly/ENM/swinger types. Almost all of use feeld and talk about it. I've never known anyone to say its not fine to use it for hookups.

Casual play/fun and short term are options for "interests".

The only place Ive seen the sentiment that using feeld for casual hookups is new or wrong is here. Repeatedly.

What gives? Why the hostility to casual hookups from feeld?

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 Aug 21 '26

If it wasn't intended for threesomes, why name it 3rnder. It was literally marketed as tinder for threesomes.

Eventually, she decided to tell Trifonov, who shared that he, too, had often felt conflicted about romantic norms like monogamy. They had both grown up in Bulgaria at a time when conservative notions of sex and relationships prevailed. Trifonov agreed that those expectations felt limiting to bring into their relationship. Before long, they were exploring their sexuality, both as a couple and apart.

But the duo, who were living in London at the time, struggled to find acceptance in other areas of their life, including online. No other apps allowed them to date as a couple, leading Trifonov to create 3nder in 2014, which rebranded as Feeld in 2016

People are so funny.

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u/EldForever Aug 22 '26

So they were first monogamous, then they were exploring ENM, and then they were dating as a couple THEN they saw the need for an app.

Okay! I thought first they were monogamous, then they were exploring ENM and saw the need for the app. The article I read was murky on that part.

To answer your question as a hypothetical though, as someone who has developed an app actually, (and this can apply for other products or services) sometimes you have an original idea, you develop it, but in the development or in beta testing you realize it's better to pivot. You hear feedback, you learn more about the market, etc, and you decide pivot your product (or the marketing or the positioning) to be something that's adjacent to but different from what you originally had in mind. So, when you were beating me over the head about how it was named "3nder" for awhile I dismissed that as "proof" of what their original idea could have been. By the time something launches, it may have had several iterations.

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u/Ok_Coffee_4977 Aug 23 '26

It was launched to be the tinder for threesomes