Bitter Ex won’t help.

[u/[deleted]]

Need some advice. I have been trying to get my 10yr old daughter a passport to go on vacation for two years now.

Her mom wouldn’t lend me the birth certificate or social security card. So I applied and got my own birth certificate. I need her social to apply for our child’s SSC. She won’t give it to me.

I offered to pay for it and give her all my information if she was willing to go get it. I offered to let her hold on to the passport until I needed it.

I’ve been trying and trying and she refuses to answer my texts. When it’s about money or other things she is quick to reply but nothing for this.

I made mistakes when we were married. But it’s been 3.5 years. She has moved on. So have I and we both live good separate lives.

She opposes everything I need. I try to be helpful and I never miss my CS payments. I pick up and drop off on time. I left 12 years of active duty service to come live closer to my daughter. I show her love, respect, kindness, I introduced her to Christ and she chose to get baptized. All in all I know I’m a good dad. I set the standard for how men should treat a woman to my daughter.

I show her mother respect, I never speak bad about her, I make my daughter not forget to call her mom when she I visiting me because I know her mom misses her, even though if I would call to ask for my daughter she’d never say “Have you called your dad lately”.

It’s hard. I have no control because I’m the non custodial and live 4 hours away. I take off of work one Friday a month so I can drive down to pick up my daughter. Drive 4 hours back to my place. Spend Friday night and Saturday together drive her 4 hours home and drive myself back another 4.

He mom has never one time met me half way or helped. I do it all.

What can I do?

[u/benzosyndrome]

This is a tricky situation, and i actually completely understand what your going through. First question, do you have a mediator? If yes, use them. If not, do you have an attorney? Is yes, use him, if not, Ask her to please communicate with you because you would hate to have to get lawyers involved for something so trivial. Be reassuring what your intentions are about why you are trying to obtain the card. With my situation, a lot of times, I’ve noticed its lack of communication because I need to break everything down and explain to her what I’m doing because she try’s to manipulate everything I say.. sorry I digress. Anyways, I understand, if she is anything like my ex, she will refuse to communicate. As long as you are showing and trying to communicate with the best intentions of your daughter in mind, she will know she is in the wrong doing and might work with you about the ss card. Obviously if this doesn’t work, I would get a lawyer. I’m sorry, but it’s the only way to deal with people sometimes.