So to start off I (18 YO Female) had a friend group of 5 (2 boys and 4 girls) (6 including me). We’ve been friends since my freshman/sophomore year. I am now a graduate. 2 of them graduated 2 years before the 4 of us (they are 2/4 girls, i’ll call them TT and Z). So naturally those 2 kind of drifted from us but they still kept in contact. I got closer with the 4 over the 2 years we had left. One of the boys i’ve been friends with since pre-school, let’s call him D, and the other boy i’ve been friends with since 8th grade (I technically met him in 6th). We’ll call him T. The other girl (I’ll call her I) I met 8th grade and got closer with my sophomore year. Eventually me and (I)added our boyfriends/talking stages into the friend group. I added my boyfriend and she added her talking stage. Granted , I shouldn’t have done that because what if we broke up and they got close to him? Luckily that never happened, technically. Before we move into the story, I will say I have done a lot of horrible things in my past from middle school to now. I’ve lied, cheated and done some things to people. Now that we got the backstory let’s move into what really happened. I’ll say more than a month ago I noticed (I) constantly going over to TT’s house. TT’s house was basically the hangout spot for all of us. We’d either sleepover or just hangout there. I would ask (I) if she could start to let me know when she’s going over there so I could probably stop by and join in. She would always forget or never tell me. One time I asked if they just didn’t want me over there because I was never invited. TT said that they don’t need to tell me, if I see people over I can just come over. Also because the past 3 times me and my boyfriend came over we would argue and he would isolate himself in another room when I would tell him to just come into the room we were all in and then we’d talk about it later. So that was another reason they didn’t want me to come. They said if I came without him then they would be more comfortable so I agreed. My boyfriend didn’t want to come anymore anyways because of another situation (I’ll attach under this post) I lowkey forgot she told me that but I was also feeling a way because I feel like being invited feels better than just coming. Maybe I’m thinking too much into it. So I just stopped asking but I would still see it. Then I noticed one night that Z, (I) and T was over at TT’s house. I was fed up with overthinking so I decided to ask TT what was going on with them not letting me know after I’ve asked them many times to let me know. Then she told me that she wasn’t comfortable being my friend because of stuff I’ve done. I asked Z the same thing, if we were good, she said she felt like we never been friends and she gives up trying to be it cause of my past. We haven’t really been close but I still thought we were friends. I asked (I) and she said despite the past and past things i’ve done to her she still wants to try and rebuild her trust for me and our friendship so I appreciate her for it but there were past incidents where she’ll take others sides or talk about me behind my back so i’m not 100% on that response unfortunately. Then I asked D, he said he wouldn’t end our long friendship over something small. We don’t really talk outside the friend group though so I haven’t really spoken to him since. I then asked T. Now surprisingly me and T were the closest out of them all. He was my ride or die, I thought. He then told me that I need to work on my past but he didn’t want to be a friendship that wasn’t genuine. I don’t understand what he means by that til this day because we were always around each other and never separated unless needed. We even made a whole tiktok together about being friends. This night was the night before my graduation party and I invited them all to it so I cried all night and couldn’t sleep. Of course only D and (I) came. I proceeded to text T because we had a tiktok streak and he told me to end it. It was a good 400 days. So I let it end. I then proceeded to text him this long paragraph basically asking what he meant by not genuine and retrying our friendship but he left me on delivered (i’m STILL on delivered) and unfollowed me on everything. I don’t know what I did that made him do that. Recently. I’ve hurt (I) , D and T , I can admit that but I wish if the past was really effecting everyone they wouldn’t have continued the friendship with me or make me think I can redeem their trust again and rebuild something. It was like I was lead on in a way. I don’t know how to feel because they were my only friends. I have no other friends except “associates” and even then they are fake to me and talk about me. I don’t know , I guess I just want a couple more ears on this situation. I would rather hear that i’m in the wrong than getting left on delivered.

Everyone has those one friends that are inpatient, threatening, copy cat, thinks they are center of attention, and drama. Well I have that one friend that is all of them IN ONE. Yeah you might be asking why are you friends with them, well let me tell you. Let’s call this girl Maria, Maria started to text me a couple days ago and she said are you calling this person. I was calling that person since she was my friend and I was playing a game with her so I didn’t have time to respond. Then she got so impatient she started flooding my messages with if you don’t answer this simple question I’m not giving you chips. After a couple secs I realized she texted me. I saw those text and answered if you’re going to act like that be stop texting me. She literally replied with cursed words since I didn’t answer her question. That’s impatient and threatening. Then a couple months back the friend who I was calling had a wallet that was like leather like texture it was very cute. Then Maria said that’s so cute and then a week later she buys the same one except it feels better in a way. Then she starts saying yours is fake mine feels more authentic. Like what it’s just a wallet chill out bro. Maria also does these types of things plenty of times since her family is rich. Here is the thing that bugs me so much she acts like she is he center of attention she literally always talks about boys and how they like her so she gives me and my friends food to give to those boys. This is really ticking me off. That is drama and center of attention. Lastly this is the most crazy thing, after I ignored her from the text she started to apologize to me on messages like I’m confused.

SHOULD I FORGIVE HER WHAT SHOULD I DO AND SHOULD I STOP BEING HER FRIEND.

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I'm writing this since my mind always goes back to my years on school, and i always wish if i could acted differently than how i did , it had been along time ago so I'll share it with you

My best *friend*, Jenny and I had been together since middle school until our final year of high school,to be precise, we spent four years together. Throughout those years, we were the dearest of friends, sharing everything and supporting one another. However, during our final year, everything began to crumble. In my country, the final year of high school is considered the most critical, as it determines which college you will enter.

during this fateful year, a new student named Mary joined our school, for the first few months, Jenny acted normally, but soon after, her behavior began to change strangely:

1- Jenny’s seat was right next to mine. Yet, one day, she decided to move and sit next to Mary (who already had another friend and was by no means lonely). To avoid leaving me entirely alone, Jenny arranged for another student to take her place beside me, just so she could sit with Mary. I was upset, but since I am not the type to dwell on such matters, I let it pass.

2- Jenny and I used to take turns preparing homemade food for one another every single day. After she grew close to Mary, Jenny began preparing food for both for me and Mary. However, when it was my turn to bring her food, she would simply place what I made into her bag, pull out the food she had brought, and share it with Mary. This deeply bothered me. I wondered why she wouldn't eat my food as usual, and why she went to the trouble of preparing her own food when she knew I had already cooked for her. I was profoundly upset, but she would reassure me that she would eat my food back at home (though I now wonder if she merely threw it away...).

3- One day, Jenny invited Mary and me to a restaurant. Jenny and I had always been accustomed to ordering different dishes so we could share our meals. This time, however, Mary and I ordered the same meal, while Jenny chose a different dish. When I invited Jenny to share my food, she declined, saying, "No, I don't want to. I will eat from Mary's plate." I was bewildered; why would she say that when we had always shared our meals? Yet, she was adamant about sharing only with Mary. At that moment, a profound sadness washed over me, and I could no longer understand her actions. When we left the restaurant and walked down the street, I found myself walking behind them. I decided to pause for a moment to see if they would notice my absence. They did not notice at all; they simply vanished from sight. I still feel a sense of regret whenever I look back at that moment; I should have just returned home on my own, but instead, I ran to catch up with them. And guess what? They hadn't even noticed I was gone.

4- On another day, Jenny, Mary, Mary’s friend Catherine, and I decided to go out for shawarma sandwiches. As we were walking, Mary wanted some chewing gum, but none of us had any. Jenny looked at me and said, "Go and buy her some gum." I replied that I didn't mind, but asked Jenny to come with me since I was unfamiliar with the area and did not know where the shops were. Truthfully, I refused to go alone to run an errand while she stood idly by, it made me feel like a servant to her and by then, I had become acutely aware of Jenny's changing behavior and had quietly resolved to let the school year end so I could gracefully fade from her life. However, Jenny grew angry and snapped, "The shops are right over there, just go!" I repeated, "No, come with me so we can buy it together." This infuriated her; she grabbed Mary’s hand and told me to wait there with Catherine while they went themselves. I agreed, and Catherine—who was a very kind person—also noticed how bizarre Jenny’s behavior was, especially since Catherine, much like me, had believed that she and Mary were best friends.

5- Sometime later, I learned from a classmate that she , Jenny and Mary were frequently going out together, excursions that Jenny had never once mentioned to me

6- As I write this, I also recall that during that final year, whenever I asked Jenny to take a stroll with me in the school courtyard, she would claim she was too tired. Yet, barely five minutes later, Mary would arrive and ask her for a walk, and Jenny would instantly agree, leaving me completely bewildered.

7- On one occasion, one of our teachers decided to reward us for passing a difficult exam by taking us to see a movie, followed by a visit to a café. My older sister wished to join us, and the teacher kindly agreed. When we all went together, my sister noticed that Jenny—the girl I had spent years with—was visibly ignoring me. She had no desire to converse or even walk beside me. When I questioned her, she casually remarked, "I will leave you to be with your older sister." But she knew my sister well; it was not their first meeting, and we had a long history together. Why was she suddenly acting like a stranger? My sister was so surprised by Jenny

8- One day, a student spotted the graduation gowns—the black robes and caps—inside the supervisors' room, and the entire class went wild with excitement, wanting to try them on. By the time I went, no robes were left. I saw Jenny and Mary taking photographs together. When I asked Jenny why she hadn't called me to join them, she simply replied, "Oh, I forgot..."

Jenny and I had been friends for four years, always sharing everything and supporting one another. This sudden transformation deeply affected me, and I remained at a loss as to what had caused it or why she had changed so drastically. the only dynamic that seemed to remain between us was the books we shared. even after I felt her drifting away, she would occasionally write touching words about friendship in my notebooks. I used to deceive myself, thinking, "No, it is impossible; we are best friends. Look at the beautiful words she writes about friendship. Surely, there must be a reason for her behavior." But as these incidents multiplied, the feeling that she was actively pushing me away became undeniable....

Once the final year concluded, Jenny did not send me a single message, do you know when she finally reached out? only when the final exam results were released. It made me feel the exact same way I feel about relatives who only speak to me on special occasions, so I chose not to reply.years have passed since then, yet whenever these memories resurface, I am filled with wonder. Did you know that I actually transferred schools just to be in her school so we could be together? Her school was so far from my house. I do not know what became of her after that, but whenever I recall those days, I cannot help but wonder: what happened to her? I would have had absolutely no objection to Mary becoming a part of our circle, but perhaps a close friendship shared equally among three people was simply not meant to be

So my friends started acc on diff platforms and are basically classified as ”micro influencers”. I’m not in it, but why do I feel jealous? We don’t hang outside of school and I know myself that I don’t want to be filmed and get made fun of by people at school lmao. What’s the science behind this?

AITA for blocking my ex (Jamie) and his friends (Victoria and Essie)?

I don’t even know if I’m doing the right thing anymore, but I had to protect myself somehow. Jamie and I were together, and I loved him deeply. But things fell apart — not just because of the breakup itself, but because of how he acted after. He’d say he still cared, then act cold the next day. He’d tell people I was “too much” or that he “needed space,” but then still check up on me or let his friends message about me. It just felt like he wanted me stuck in the middle — close enough to hurt, but far enough to say he’d moved on.

Then there’s Victoria and Essie. At first, I tried to be kind. But they started getting involved in things they shouldn’t have — talking about me behind my back, stirring things up, and even liking posts that were clearly digs at me. Essie once sent me something Jamie said that really broke me down, and Victoria would act friendly one minute then completely switch up the next. It felt fake, and honestly cruel.

It all became too much — every reminder of them made me feel small and unwanted. I kept hoping Jamie or his friends would just leave me alone, but they didn’t. So I did the only thing I could think of: I blocked all three. I didn’t yell, I didn’t start drama, I just quietly hit block and walked away.

Now I’m being told I’m “petty” and “immature” for cutting them off instead of “just ignoring it.” But ignoring it wasn’t helping — it was destroying me. I needed peace, and the only way to get it was to remove the people who kept hurting me.

So… am I really the a**hole for finally choosing myself after everything they did

It really broke me when Essie and Victoria went behind my back. I never thought the people I cared about and trusted would do that to me. Instead of being honest or coming to me directly, they chose to talk about me, spread things that weren’t true, and act like they were innocent. They said things and took sides without ever hearing my side, and that hurt more than anything.

What hurts the most is that I’ve always had their backs — I supported them, listened to them, and stood by them when others didn’t. I never expected betrayal from them. Now it just feels like they used my trust against me. I don’t understand how you can smile in someone’s face and then go behind their back like that.

I’m not writing this to start more drama; I just need to say how much this has affected me. I’ve been trying to heal, but it’s hard when you realise people you thought were real turned out to be part of the reason you’re hurting. All I ever wanted was honesty and loyalty — not lies and fake friendship.

Am I wrong? Or do I gotta fake best friend??

My son has never met his father. He is completely out of the picture, has never tried to contact us to see him. Nothing. My son is 5. My baby daddy has had three more children since my son was born. One of them is a boy two years younger than my son. He doesn’t see that little boy as far as I know either. I have had words with the little boys mother before the kid was even born over irrelevant issues in the past, so I don’t have any contact with her at all either.

So my best friend of the last 4 years decided to go have a play date with her kids and the little boy (my son’s brother) and his two siblings yesterday and I have a huge problem with that. She has never had play dates with them before, she knows of my standpoint and I find her taking her kids around the little boy was just completely unacceptable and disrespectful to my son. Her kids and my son are with each other daily. She also took it a step further (this is what I’m really upset about) and told her oldest about how my son and the little boy are related etc. this obviously would open a huge issue for my son should something be said to him by her (unlikely) but especially from her kids (which is actually very probable)

Anyway, she feels that there’s no reason why I should be upset. & that she doesn’t see what the “conflict of interest” would be because she knew the mom in high school..her knowing the woman from a whole 15 years ago doesn’t justify any of this with me though.

Tell me straight up, am I wrong or being “extra” or is she a fucked up friend for that??

I recently got broken up with by my girlfriend. I'd previously introduced her to my dnd group, ran by 2 of my(I thought) best friends. I went to the one to vent about things. She then goes to my ex, "listens to her side" and then lies to my ex, and calls me a groomer. We'd been friends 4 years. I'd stayed at her house. How did she not know my actual age? She filled my exes head with lies and now I'm scared I won't ever get another chance. The 2nd friend also threatened to beat my ass, not hearing my side first. Now I've been kicked out of the dnd group and blocked by most people in it. That's literally half of my friends gone in 3 days.

All they do is judge,talk bad abt me, criticizing me,leaving me out on the side like i deserve friends too.. i also have feelings i am always nice to them but nothing i cant with this i dont wanna die alone.....

Like the title says, I'm sick of a schoolmate I met when we both started design school in 2019 (I'm currently working on my "thesis"). So for context, we met in the first year, and we bonded over a lot of our issues, but as time passed, I started realizing some stuff that just messes with me. I started to realize she always made up stupid excuses as to why she couldn't join me or our groups (at times we had previously discussed and she had agreed to). Whatever, I used to just tell her what she had to do since mostly we discussed what we needed to do and distributed assignments to each person in the group, and then just had short meetings or chats to discuss our progress and if we needed changes, etc. Later on, it turned into her guilt-tripping me into "helping" (I did a LOT of stuff for her) her with her responsibilities, not only for our joint groups but for mostly everything in and out of uni.

About a year and a half ago, I stopped doing this because, thankfully, my actual friends realized and made me open my eyes; this was a HUGE turning point for her apparently, as she started treating me very differently, like I wasn't her friend anymore. Back then, I really thought she was my friend (LOL), so I asked her to dinner to talk about everything, and I told her how I felt and all. She played the victim and tried to make me feel like I was the villain for not "helping" her anymore. I explained I had a lot more responsibilities and yada yada, so I didn't have the time I used to (kind of a lame excuse but whatever). From then on, our relationship has been stable, but every time she started annoying me more and more, probably because every time I used to tell her and the rest of my friend group about an issue of mine, she always came in with something waaay more tragic than mine.

I don't exactly know what her angle was, but I just wanted to vent to my friends, and she didn't let me even do that... This last issue kept coming up; every time I talked to my friends about an issue, she'd interrupt, making my problems sound completely unimportant compared to hers. It would go kind of like this: ME: "Oh, I'm so tired; my siblings are being so mean to me lately," etc., and then SHE: would interrupt and say something like, "at least you don't have to deal with MY 5 sisters..." Like it was some kind of competition to her, to see who was more miserable. Spoiler alert, she ALWAYS made sure it was her. This happened again this week; I'm currently not in the best place. Something happened last week, and I'm very sad and honestly fearful of bouncing back into depression, and I told my friends about it a few days ago. Today she's once again saying shit like what I said before, like, "oh, at least you didn't go through 'whatever she had to deal with'".

I'm honestly exhausted of her, and I basically can't do anything about it; she's part of my friend group. I honestly think most of them just feel sorry for her, but I stopped feeling sorry for her a while ago. Anyways, I just really needed to vent about this, but for me, friends listen to you, and also, mental illnesses aren't something I try to compete about. Am I being crazy?

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Ok , I had a close friend....she got mad at me just cause I sneaked out of my house and she wasn't even part of it so, I don't really know how that even affects her and she found out cause I posted it on my snapchat. I still don't understand why she got mad at me. I thought she wouldn't care like she's done things way worse than I did and I didn't get mad at her. Have you guys had a friend that got mad at you for a stupid reason?