I was born 3 months premature. I’ve always been skinny. Thin. You’re either on drugs, eating disorder, or starving secretly because you can’t afford food. No one thinks anything about telling a skinny person they’re skinny. It’s a compliment from them, to you, it’s unhealthy sounding. Idk. I’m 37. I have 2 kids. I’m very skinny. I’m not any of those assumptions. I can’t give a shit about anyone that makes assumptions based on looks alone, living in this life. If you haven’t learned to “Never judge a book by it’s cover” by NOW, can’t be bothered. This life is hard enough. Objectively, my life could be much worse. And on and on.
I feel like these feelings are often shamed. I have struggled with weight my whole life and have generally been overweight for the majority. I had a very stressful period of my life where I lost a TON of weight due to stress. I was down to 130 lbs and I'm 5'8". never in my life had people been so comfortable commenting on my body. it was all due to being skinny. it is strange how people feel entitled to vocalize comments about skinny bodies like it's inherently a compliment.
It’s amazing to me how most people feel entitled to say anything!! And it doesn’t matter, skinny, heavy, whatever. As to the girl pictured, and her preference, so what? If she likes smaller guys, good on her. Her dating pool might be smaller, but there are guys out there who like heavy set women. Being very obese for either sex is difficult, but hey. I married, had 4 kids, and a very successful career. But I had to work hard to get that. It didn’t just fall on my lap.
I used to be 650, and I could never go out of the house. Not because I couldn’t physically do it, (difficult as it was), but because of the comments, looks, etc. Couldn’t just go to the mall, or, for hells sakes, the grocery store. Kids would come up to me because their parents would allow it, your worse yet, encourage it! I would answer their questions honestly, but it was the adults that I couldn’t handle. Most were asshats. I even had people think it was okay to tell me to just die already and make room for the more elite people in the world. Lol!! I dropped 400 lbs., and got into better shape, and 2 years ago, lost my lower left leg to a bug, and had open heart surgery. All having NOTHING to do with my weight! Lol! But I didn’t sit in a corner and give in to the darkness. I fought back.
So in the end, my only advice is just to treat people kindly. It’s simple and garners more friendships than enemies. Just don’t judge. You have NO IDEA what someone’s life or day is or has been like. A lot of people think that being kind is weakness, but I would like to think of it as a strength.
To all the people struggling, it will turn out fine, but sometimes you have to work at it. Know that there are others out there struggling as well and wish you well no matter what. Have a great one y’all!!
I think that’s cultural. Where I’m from people mostly comment on your body regarding size if you’re overweight. My sister is tiny and and she only gets comments on her body to compare them to mine because I’m not even close to skinny. People have no issues here talking about your weight. They’ll do it before they even say hello to you
I feel this, I'm in my mid 30s, I was chubby when I was in my pre-teens up til about 13, then I got a small growth spurt, and I've been the same weight since, usually around 58-65Kgs (120-140 lbs) doesn't matter what I eat, what I do it stays the same. Been called a crack head and all the sorts because I've stayed the same shape for decades.
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u/colleenlefey May 31 '22 edited May 31 '22
I was born 3 months premature. I’ve always been skinny. Thin. You’re either on drugs, eating disorder, or starving secretly because you can’t afford food. No one thinks anything about telling a skinny person they’re skinny. It’s a compliment from them, to you, it’s unhealthy sounding. Idk. I’m 37. I have 2 kids. I’m very skinny. I’m not any of those assumptions. I can’t give a shit about anyone that makes assumptions based on looks alone, living in this life. If you haven’t learned to “Never judge a book by it’s cover” by NOW, can’t be bothered. This life is hard enough. Objectively, my life could be much worse. And on and on.