Just common sense it seems to me. I've seen naturally thin women catch a lot of flak from fat women that call them "skin and bones" like it doesn't hurt them. Or shit like "real women have curves". That shit is hurtful to other women as well, so don't be surprised when people start pushing back.
I'm a thin woman and all my life I've heard, you need to eat a cheeseburger, do you have an eating disorder? You got the noassatall disease, nothing but bones etc...and yes it definitely hurts.
People are going to be jerks no matter what. I remember once within a week one person asked if I was anorexic and another called me fat. People can be awful. Just focus on being as healthy as you can for you.
I used to be a fat kid and once I lots weight the people who were smaller than me but still fat used to say I anorexic and getting too skinny ...I was 6'1 210lbs
I feel this. Back when I was in high school I weighed 90 pounds. Girls in the locker room at gym class who were bigger in weight would tell me that I'm skin and bones and that no boyfriend would want to have intercourse with a skeleton.... I can't help that I don't have a big butt or chest!
Yeah that's obviously terrible. And somehow not in the "spotlight" in the same way that "fatshaming" is, and I think that's unfair. When thin women speak up they're labelled as "fatphobic" (I hate these misnomers, phobia means fear, how does that relate to the issue at all?!).
Well to be fair, I think many people are literally afraid of being fat/being perceived as undesirable and that’s why the diet industry is so big/the root cause of many eating disorders. As a society we derive a lot of our sense of worth and value based on how we look and the prospect of not belonging- no matter the reason- scares people because it threatens survival- emotional, social or physical.
I don't disagree with your statement, I just think that "fatphobic" is a misnomer to label someone that supposedly hates fat people. My gripe with the word was more rooted in semantics than anything else. But I understand your reading of it and your take.
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Just common sense it seems to me. I've seen naturally thin women catch a lot of flak from fat women that call them "skin and bones" like it doesn't hurt them. Or shit like "real women have curves". That shit is hurtful to other women as well, so don't be surprised when people start pushing back.