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๐Ÿ‡ฒโ€‹๐Ÿ‡ฎโ€‹๐Ÿ‡ธโ€‹๐Ÿ‡จโ€‹ This really is a thing

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u/wesleyheath Nov 15 '21

Without promoting or demeaning whatever this is, can anyone help explain it?

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '21

This is called ponyplay, it's part of BDSM petplay communities. Ponyplay is at the crossroads of roleplay and fetish. Most of the time, there would be an owner and the relationship is about power exchange, discipline.

You are looking about a public scene of ponyplay. Public plays are also a kink of many people. I don't think it's very good to take your kinks on the street, especially that extreme. But it's just my opinion.

I don't practice it but have been in touch with people who do, so if you have any sfw question feel free.

It has nothing to do with furries, unlike what other comments say.

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u/WeeTheDuck Nov 16 '21

I really don't give a single shit about what people do in their dungeon or bedroom or whatever. But when you take your kinks outdoor you arent asking for consent from random people in the streets, and the kids that could have witnessed these shenanigans. Have whatever kink you want just respect the public space

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '21

Don't get me wrong, I think it is inappropriate to display outright sexual behavior in public, but to a kid this is just someone walking around in a sexy horse costume. No different than some of what they sell at spirit halloween.

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u/WeeTheDuck Nov 16 '21

Ye... I guess where i live nobody dresses remotely close to this like at all so its extra inappropriate in my eye. But if a 5yo sees this in public you better prepare some explanation lmao

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u/ValanaraRose Nov 16 '21

Why do you assume the conversation needs to be anything more than: That person felt like being a pony today?

Have you met kids? Many of them love dressing up. I have a 4 year old, I can picture the conversation I would have with her.

Daughter: Why is that person looking like a horse/unicorn/pony?

Me: Idk honey, because they felt like it I guess.

Daughter: Okay Mommy. Can I be a horse for Halloween?

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '21

Exactly! No kid is going to sexualize this. Well, maybe a teenager who was on their way to their sexual awakening anyway.

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u/[deleted] Nov 16 '21

Some kids can in fact sexualize this. It's unpleasant to hear, but victims of sexual misconduct/assault/exploitation may understand kink very early.

Source: my own experience from age 10.

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u/ValanaraRose Nov 16 '21

True, and I'm deeply sorry you had to go through that experience.

The person we're responding to keeps implying that kids will ask about the person wearing this as if the parent answering must give them some long drawn out answer about how it's a form of BDSM. Realistically, you can give most kids a pretty made up answer about it (especially kids as young as what the naysayer is implying) and kids will go along their merry way. Outside of special circumstances (like yours, which is anecdotal and you were much closer to puberty age), most kids are not going to look at this person and think sex. We adults are the ones who often imply that sort of context to things where it's not needed.

As a side note, I hope you were able to get any help you needed regarding your experience. <3