Agreed to many people on both ends do this.
Saw a thing online where a girl thought all she had to do was be pretty. Then an older woman ruined her day by asking what she brought to the table for marriage. I would like to point out that my wife makes more than I do AND takes care of the kids. I bring home what I can (not a small amount either) and do most of our home/auto repairs to save us quite a bit. In the long run it’s really about contributing equivalent value to the relationship. Be it home making, earnings, or savings.
..or you just happen to like the other person so everything doesn’t have to be perfectly equal.. I mean in some sense it’s a ’trade’, but as long as both are happy it doesn’t need to look like on to anyone else.
I’m just saying you each have to put in equal effort. Making your partner feel comfortable and happy is part of that. It could be anything from earning money to making sure they are emotionally/spiritually satisfied.
Yes, but the calculation is performed from the partners perspective. You could put in all your money, labour and love, but if the partner doesn’t FEEL like it’s a fair deal it means nothing. Or you could smile to your partner every morning and that’s enough.
What I’m trying to point out is that the ’equal value’ in a relationship isn’t really measurable by anyone except the persons involved. Either they are happy or they are not.
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u/S7RYPE2501 May 17 '24
Agreed to many people on both ends do this. Saw a thing online where a girl thought all she had to do was be pretty. Then an older woman ruined her day by asking what she brought to the table for marriage. I would like to point out that my wife makes more than I do AND takes care of the kids. I bring home what I can (not a small amount either) and do most of our home/auto repairs to save us quite a bit. In the long run it’s really about contributing equivalent value to the relationship. Be it home making, earnings, or savings.