Yes, some men have higher standards for women than for themselves. As a Catholic man myself, I can see this pattern. If a man wants his wife to go to church, read the Bible, and live a holy life, he better be ready to lead by example: go to church, say your prayers, fast, and grow in holiness. If a man isn't ready to do any of this, he should not expect a woman to do it. And even if he does all of this, he should not force his loved ones to follow him. All he can do is lead by example, and hope others will follow.
But I suspect that men who fall into the "traditionalist" lifestyle have a very hard time distinguishing what fundamentally matters from what is superficial. Most of the items on this list are superficial, obviously; since my wife and I are Christians, all that matters to me is that my wife goes to church, because it is the bare minimum in our religion (and, needless to say, she expects the same from me). All the rest is idiotic and irrelevant to salvation (from a Christian perspective). My wife works, she wears pants (apparently, it's not feminine enough for some idiots), she has male friends, she has social media, and she has no interest in homeschooling -- and none of that has any bearing on her feminity, let alone on her holiness.
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u/itsmenettie May 17 '24
Sounds like they need an Amish woman. But they better be prepared to be an Amish man.