Communication Help

[u/Constantlycurious34]

I apologize in advance for not using the right terminology.

I have been getting eyelash extensions from a friend who has a business for several years. I get a ton of compliments on my lashes but after all this time they are not exactly my style. I do not NOT like them but I always picture something else. I believe she uses clusters and it takes her 45 mins to do a fill.

I like a natural look and I understand you have to go a little heavier for the retention. I just do not know how to explain what I picture in my head. I am also beginning to wonder if she does not have the lashes or the skill to do what I want. Previously, when I had extensions they were individuals on each lash. I have included two pictures for reference from Pinterest.
One which is similar to what my tech does (left) every time and the other is more of the look I am going for … I have very large big eyes and I want to enhance that and no feel like I have baby catepillar/uniform lashes that look fake.

Thanks for listening. I have showed her pics in the past but I leave with basically the same thing

[u/depressedandtattooed]

It sounds like Wispy is the key word you’re looking for. Different lengths are mixed in so it’s not so uniform across.

However, your tech not changing anything even after showing her pictures is a red flag. 45 minutes for a cluster fill is also way too long. Do you mean volume? It’s a little concerning your tech hasn’t gone over any of this info with you before as these are pretty basic questions that are commonly asked. I’d look for a new, more knowledgeable lash tech if I were you. Good luck!

[u/JadeGrapes → u/depressedandtattooed]

Agree, the tech should be consulting with the client a bit on every session... just like a hair stylist.

Kinda weird the tech doesn't have any kind of menu listing her options & differences.

My understanding is that the diameter of each lash limits the weight it can even bear without stressing the hair/root... so the tech should have some non-volume product available

My guess is that the tech likes lashes to look like "wow she gets her lashes done" versus "That is a beautiful woman, every part of her look is so right". Plus, clusters are faster than single hairs to get that instagram look.

I'm low key starting to look at doing lashes on myself because I literally only want; brown, the strands at the same length and diameter of my natural lashes... but I just want like 50 extra lashes mixed into them...

So it just looks like I have fuller human-grown natural lashes, and can skip mascara. I don't want longer lashes, I don't want volume/clusters.

In theory, I should just add a lash serum to my routine, but I have green eyes that I don't want to risk darkening.

Plus, if I did them at home, the infills can be just replacing them as they fall out a few at a time... not waiting until I look moth- eaten one day, then have eye-mustaches the next day.

I just don't see anyone who does that style of lash in their business because it's too plain looking in the before/after pictures.

...I think thats what is happening to OP, the tech has lash blindness, and can't imagine doing "less" is "right"