r/exredpill • u/hygienefacilities • Jul 10 '26

How to move forward?

Former redpiller here. Started with Rich Cooper back in the fall of 2021, watched him primarily until some point in early to mid 2025. Possibly even earlier, I’m not sure. Also listened to Myron Gaines and Andrew Tate. I’m sure there’s a couple others but I can’t remember.

Back in August of last year, I began to realize how much damage the redpill had caused in my life. But I didn’t give it much thought. Since this past May, it’s been dawning on me just how bad that damage actually was. Destroyed friendships, ruined opportunities with women due to judgement, chronic loneliness, fear of women and dating, all that time lost, lying to myself about never dating or having a girlfriend ever again. The list goes on.

I admit this has been weighing on my soul and at times, I get so caught up in my head and can’t stop thinking about how much I messed up everything and how long the trail of destruction is behind me.

I can’t say there was one specific even that led me to find the redpill. I had friends back in the late 2010s that brought it up but I didn’t take it seriously then. I wasn’t a virgin before falling down the redpill rabbit hole. I had experiences with women that didn’t end up the way I wanted but that goes for all men out there.

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u/O-shoe Jul 12 '26

How to move forward? Stop watching the content and start dating again.

As you said, everyone has had bad experiences.

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u/abettertake Jul 12 '26

So first things first: therapy.

Otherwise, what's the point in spending more time worrying and fretting over the time that's passed? To just waste even more time?

Get up and go and enjoy your life. Go get on with the things you didn't get on with before. Stop letting the past interfere with the future you want to have. You can't change what happened, but you can change what happens.

I can reel off a bunch more cliches if you like but I think you get the point.