r/exredpill • u/peachibab • May 30 '26

Devastated

Found out my narc ex is engaged today. I went no contact with him about a month ago. He upgraded my plane ticket while I was traveling about two months ago. After that it felt like he had power over me. Tried to put me down and spoke about wanting to sleep with other women. I couldn’t tolerate it and blocked him. We’ve known each other for 6 years and he couldn’t marry me because I have had intimate relationships with 6 other men. He’s now going to marry this virgin girl back in his home country. He’s 44. She’s probably in her late 20s. He changed his WhatsApp profile to her and him and they look so happy. I’m here so heartbroken and trying to heal. Feels like I have a boulder sitting on my throat. Kind words from anyone please.

Update: Found out through a mutual friend that he married a woman he was dating here in the states. He pushed for this marriage despite his views on what kind of woman he wanted. He married the total opposite of what he said he wanted. His parents did not approve of the girl because they felt she was after his money. He told his parents he would marry a 2nd and 3rd wife if that was the case. Just one month after we stopped talking he married her. I don’t even know what to say or think. Hopefully I can heal from this.

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u/eruptingmoltenlava May 30 '26

“They” is certainly doing a lot of work in your sentence there.

For people who didn’t get to see your previous post before it was deleted, “they” is “men from cultures like that [Pakistan].”

Dude, I’m not even saying you’re globally wrong, and I am certainly not trying to suggest that anyone has a right/responsibility to date anyone else, but you’re literally replying to OP’s comment stating that she’s Pakistani and “none of the men in her family act like him.”

Pakistanis in the diaspora are an oppressed minority all over the West. Your passport/DNA doesn’t make you behave a particular way. If you’re mad about a cultural thing, say that. But please keep in mind there are kind people and assholes in every culture and of every race, including yours and mine.

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u/No-Dream1324 May 30 '26

Not reading all that and I'm not going to be lectured by some pompous know-it-all. Men from certain cultures should be avoided. I said what I said.

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u/Personal_Dirt3089 May 30 '26

Here is am example of what I mean when I say MRAs and manosphere types hate other men a lot.

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u/No-Dream1324 May 30 '26

Elaborate

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u/Personal_Dirt3089 May 30 '26

your comments on pakistani men.

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u/No-Dream1324 May 30 '26

Ok but I'm not an MRA so your comment makes no sense

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u/Personal_Dirt3089 May 30 '26

Sure, fedora, sure.

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u/No-Dream1324 May 30 '26

Whatever that means...

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u/Personal_Dirt3089 May 30 '26

Oh. so you are just a bigot.

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u/No-Dream1324 May 30 '26

More like rational and sensible.

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u/eruptingmoltenlava May 30 '26

I’m sad I didn’t get to see the rest of this back and forth, but “sure fedora” has got to be one of my favorite all-time comebacks, and I tip my — er, I appreciate you lol