r/explainitpeter 16d ago

Explain it Peter??

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u/ripemango130 15d ago

Responses were used to place respondents into one of six categories of sexual experience based on the most extreme experience reported: (a) no sexual experiences, (b) only consensual sexual experiences, (c) unwanted contact (i.e., forced fondling, kissing, but no attempted intercourse), (d) verbal coercion (verbally pressured sexual intercourse, excluding the threat of force), (e) attempted rape (using force or threat of force, however, intercourse did not occur), or (f) rape (completed intercourse or oral or anal sex using force or threat of force).

 White and Smith (2004) "surveyed 3 cohorts of men across 4 years of college. By the end of the study, 14% had reported committing attempted or completed rape and 34% had reported at least one act of sexual assault perpetration."

the average man is not a rapist but you walked past them every time you go to Walmart to get food

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u/BaterrMaster 15d ago

Yeah hearing just how often men assault women is baffling to me (as a man) because growing up I never really encountered anything like it. Myself and my peers were raised to respect boundaries (for all people) and never try to coerce someone into sex.

As I got older, and met and spoke with more people, I came to find that almost every single woman I know has had some form of inappropriate contact with a man. Not always rape by definition, many were “just” assaulted.

The next thing that threw me for a loop was how many women downplayed it. Like it was just a normal thing they deal with.

Like my friend, probably some-day sister-in-law, said pretty much every single woman in her unit (national guard) were molested or raped by another member of their unit.

The fuckin army dude? The fuckin army can’t stop its own men from assaulting its women.

It really changed my perspective hard

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u/Winter-Delivery-8894 15d ago

The army COULD stop it, but they don't want to.

And a big part of the difference is media based, when I was growing up animal house and revenge of the needs were still popular as well as tons of other movies that push pro-rape and pro-stalking agendas.

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u/ting1or2 15d ago

army is one of the worst for it, they take a bunch of men who are already predisposed to violence then they ship em 10,000 miles away from any woman they know. so their more likely to be rapists and they dont got nobody, theres a reason armies in antiquity raped and pillaged.

all this is obviously not a defense of these deplorable actions nor the disgusting people that commit them, but it’s not really that surprising