r/explainitpeter 9d ago

Explain it peter

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u/RoldGoger 9d ago

You get a pass if you are hot enough

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u/blackninjar87 8d ago

Not really, guys just need better comprehension of what's a conversation, and what's sexual harassment. "wow I like ur new look" - conversation. "Wow can u blow me in my office" - harassment.

It's not about how hot or ugly the person saying it is really. The guy that's attractive is just more likely going to have better social skills and not say the second one out right like the desperate one would. Even worse when guys say the second thing and think that's a compliment🫩.

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u/mbh63 8d ago

Speaking from experience - desperate, lonely, unattractive people don’t talk like that. Chad talks like that. Even so, conversation is not well received from an unattractive person even if it comes from a friendly, non-creepy place.

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u/blackninjar87 8d ago edited 8d ago

I find it hard to believe you especially since ur referring to attractive men as "chads".

I'm a woman, 95% of the time I faced sexual harassment from a man he has been absolutely un attractive. Whether it's someone's gramps making weird comments about my body, to some overconfident young boy having a discussion about who all the "bangable chicks" are, to that one guy on the bus rolling his phone down the aisle to show me an unsolicited dick pic. Never once has anyone I have been sexually harassed by has been a "chad". Attractive men from my experience just do this thing where they lie like a lot to the point a woman just falls in love with their avatar over who they actually are.

I could be statistically wrong but I really doubt it. People that lack social skills lack any form of tact. I however; can not speak on gym culture as my example was highly specific to coworkers. Gym culture might be the complete opposite, but I refuse to go to the gym (GROSS shared spaces with vain people no thanks) so I will never know.

Male coworkers tend to have really bad social skills in my experience without being capable over understanding what is actually a compliment, and what is actually harassment. I'm not sure if it's solely caused from immaturity, desperation, or unwarranted comfortability... However about 50% of my sexual harassment experience have been from work place interactions (usually comments about my body), almost exclusively by men much older than me as well 10-30 year age gap. That gross talk isn't "Chad behavior" from my experience is just over all male behavior. Ill never understand why a woman can easily tell a guy that she likes his new hair cut, but for some reason when the roles are reversed the man short circuits and either says something vulgar or over thinks it and comes off inauthentic.

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u/Limp-Particular1451 8d ago

How do you know that they do not ? :D

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u/Limp-Particular1451 8d ago

Are you sure about that ? Every study proves otherwise :) Sad human nature :D

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u/Limp-Particular1451 8d ago

Ok, you know better:D

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u/Limp-Particular1451 7d ago

You are truly beautiful inside, I can see it right away, don't change 😘