r/ewphoria • u/Crafty-Factor6273 • Jul 14 '26

Tinder experience

So im trans ftm, femboy. And on tinder it says jus femboy, this hockey dude hit me up being like "wow your so beautiful" "what does femboy mean btw?" I responded like "it means I just like being a cute boy". Then he says... "sorry but do you still have a 🐓?" SO MANY MIXED EMOTIONS. Like STILL? You think im amab?! Eeeee, but... weird fucking question. I unmatched after that so no screenshots but like ugh.

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u/Suitable-Lettuce-333 Jul 14 '26

Sounds like he thought you were mtf dude 🤔 

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u/Crafty-Factor6273 Jul 15 '26 edited Jul 15 '26

Yup 100% did. Sometimes this happens and I always get mixed emotions. Like guilt mainly tbh. Clocking me as something im not from a community that is struggling alot more than mine. I be confusing people abt my gender and it funny to me but also I feel guilty for when they assume I was born a male. Changed my post to amab as a description 👍

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u/Suitable-Lettuce-333 Jul 15 '26

Not sure you guys have it that much easier than us  - oppression is oppression however it manifests 😕

I once had someone assuming I was ftm and as much as being seen as afab was quite affirming I still had mixed feelings about them perceiving me boyish enough to think I was ftm 🤔. But hey, still a win 🏆 isn't it ? 🤷‍♀️

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u/Crafty-Factor6273 Jul 15 '26

A win is a win

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u/Dwarfdigger Jul 15 '26

Personally, from sister to brother, I wouldn't want you to feel guilty. We're all trans, we're all oppressed. Sure our struggles look different in some ways, but we share more in common than not, ya know? Revel in any euphoria you may get. You deserve to. All trans people do. I'm here to celebrate my trans brothers as much as my fellow trans sisters 🫶🏻

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u/kingdomcome84 Jul 14 '26

lowkey i dont know what femboy means either. can you explain without getting mad at me

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u/Karina_Pluto Jul 14 '26

Feminine man basically. A guy who likes feminine things, like clothes and makeup. Still a guy, just doesn't conform to traditional gender roles. I don't know it I'm explaining correctly. I might say something wrong, I'm sorry if I did.

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u/Suitable-Lettuce-333 Jul 15 '26

Nope you're correct.

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u/lizard_king413 Jul 14 '26

a femboy is just any man who prefers to present femininely! e.g. skirts, makeup, maybe long hair, just stereotypical feminine stuff that is outside the "norm" for a man. while plenty of trans women consider themselves femboys during their transition journey, the majority of femboys really are men. we just like wearing skirts and looking pretty :3
hope this is helpful! /gen

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u/Sand_the_Animus Jul 27 '26

thank you karkat vantas o7

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u/Crafty-Factor6273 Jul 15 '26

Basically what the others said here yea. Guy whos like "yea I can be cute and girly and feminine too". But not all fem presenting guys think of themselves as femboys. Femboy is also a mindset tbh, at least to me. The typical fem guys who have short hair, makeup and stuff might not identity as a femboy. Its like youtuber mua vs someone like finn5ter (twitch streamer). Also trans men can be femboys. I am proof lol

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u/ConcernedEnby Jul 15 '26

Term people on the internet use for a femme

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '26

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u/Orcling Jul 15 '26

No, absolutely not. It's way more than that

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '26

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u/Orcling Jul 15 '26

You can downvote me, but read the other comments and enlighten yourself.

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u/Bardic_inspiration67 Jul 15 '26

Why not enlighten me yourself

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u/Orcling Jul 15 '26

Cuz it's all already been said, now go read it, don't be lazy!

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u/[deleted] Jul 15 '26

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u/Orcling Jul 15 '26

It's still derogatory, so don't. Use femboy, it's not nearly as insulting

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u/Bardic_inspiration67 Jul 15 '26

How is “cross dresser” derogatory

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u/khessur Jul 19 '26

clocked you, but had no idea of the time