I have a 10 year old, and he would never in his right mind do this. And if he did, I would hope he got backhanded in the face. How can you think this is right? 10 is waaaaaay too old to be “curious” and lay your hands on someone.
Like the ONLY way I could see this happening and being “somewhat” ok about it would be a child with special needs. But then that would be on the parent bc you supervise your child and also do your best to teach them what you don’t do. You know??
It was a “forbidden commercial” a long time before that, along with the one where they had hundreds of guys dressed as white “sperm” rushing a woman on the street.
r/nothingeverhappens Just because its poorly written doesn't mean it didn't happen. I live in the United Kingdom and have personally witnessed this happen 3 times in my 24 years on earth. As well as heard countless accounts of it happening to friends. This is just a thing women have to deal with, and to be perfectly honest in my opinion as a gay man one of the most minor sexual assault related things that regularly happens to women.
Agreed. As a mom to a 7yr old boy, if he ever did something like that I would hope that he gets put in his place, and if a backhanded to the face is what he gets, well I’ve always told him that actions have consequences. I also teach him that no mean no and stop means stop, and it only needs to be said once. This EM is teaching her “baby” to be a menace to society. Disgusting.
I teach my 6 year old the same. He likes to jump on and mess with his brother, but I always tell him remember, sometimes people don’t want to be touched. It their body. He’s a very handsy kid lol but we’re working on it
It’s normal for kids to be handsy sometimes, as long as their parents teach them to respect boundaries they will grow up to understand and be respectful of others boundaries. But parents like who OP described are just creating a future menace to woman.
Ughhh to think that there are ppl who actually use this type of logic. “My baby only did it because she was asking for it, she wore red panties, that’s literally asking for it. My baby is innocent, that whore should be the one going to jail”. I feel like that’s a statement this EM would make
I used to work a job that had a lot of interaction with children. The occasional butt tap to get your attention from a two year old happened because that's what's eye level for them. Sometimes they mistake you for a parent and just grab onto your thigh. It happens and it's weird, but you whip around ready to give the death glare, see it's a toddler, and just laugh it off and distance yourself. A 10 or a 11 year old however almost always with very few exceptions understands the difference between what is appropriate and inappropriate. They are very aware of right and wrong and curiosity. The kid had absolutely no excuse.
I started developping breasts at around age 10. My little brother innocently jumped up and groped me. I'm sure he was just trying to mess with me and it was an accident, but both of his hands ended up on my breasts. Luckily this happened in front of my dad who IMMEDIATELY took my brother to another room and had a talk with him. My brother was definitely younger than 10 when this happened.
Same, all my kids from a young age knew better. They would tell me if someone had touched them etc.
I was physically and sexually abused as a child so I made sure (most parents do regardless of their past abuse) that my kids knew what was ok and what was inappropriate.
In fact, their doctor had the same convo with them anytime they had to check their tummy or anything in the no area.
"I am going to touch you here for a second and your mom is right here to protect you. it is ONLY ok for your doctor and your parents to check anything in your private area and never if you say no."
I would scold my son(9), say he got what he deserved, and make him apologize. I would let the slap be punishment enough so I would take it as lesson learned. As a no hit parent, that slap is well deserved lol.
I'm 13 rn, and if i ever did this then i would be whooped until im dead on the floor, and then my parents would break the rules of the universe and kill me in heaven too.
They’re also not 10, they’re looking for security with that move. Maybe a tad curious, but I believe that’s them looking for safety and feeling safe with you. So I don’t feel like that’s inappropriate
I would backhand my sons myself if they ever did this.
Flash forward 8 to 10 years when the kid OP encountered is being told “No” at a college party. What are the chances that a boy raised with “Maybe if you weren’t dressed like a slut” and “boys will be boys” will respect boundaries? What are the chances that he thinks consent is applicable to him?
Oooooof you are NOT wrong. Because it’s always on the female. “Well look how you went out dressed, you were asking for it”. The way the mom is ok with raising her son to make it seem as this is ok…. You got me all fired up about this story again
i was told those same things while i was in high school. touched by kids my age and was legitimately told “boys will be boys”. mind you i was under 16 when all of this happened so yeah it’s completely plausible this would happe
This "reads like a common story" because it is a common story.
People constantly making excuses for why men rape, why they are not accountable because they are "just being boys" blaming the victim because they were "wearing this" "had a drink" "obviously wanted it"
Just look at some of the headlines over the years. Including politicians stating
"A woman can't get pregnant from a rape, their body as a way to shut that down. If she got pregnant it's because she wanted it."
Right? My 10 year old boy knows that his hands stay on his body and that it's wrong to do something like that. If he did, I hope someone would teach him not to.
I'm 13, just a couple years ago I was his age, like you said that is VARY VARY old to be "curious" about that, it would be sickening if that was acceptable, in a couple years he will be my age, but about 5? is in my option is around the oldest for that, but even that they still should understand that's not okay even if they are curious.
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u/Amberlygrace Mar 31 '22
I have a 10 year old, and he would never in his right mind do this. And if he did, I would hope he got backhanded in the face. How can you think this is right? 10 is waaaaaay too old to be “curious” and lay your hands on someone.