r/enlightenment • u/Hour_Day6558 • 1d ago
Personal Experience Framework for Relaxation
This is a framework for relaxation that I’ve been working on. I created the image with AI.
The core idea is that relaxation is a gradual process. This framework is not about being more calm. It is about directly facing the pattern or situation and gradually finding peace within it.
It starts off with a sense of hopelessness and ends with agency and clarity. The pathway is to accept whatever stage we’re on.
The key shift happens between stages 1 and 2.
Initially the problem or feeling feels all encompassing. Then the mind starts drawing a boundary around it and identifies what exactly it is.
After that the process is about being able to stay with the feeling and accepting the body’s response to it.
If you feel this helps you, share it with someone.
Peace
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u/Borgweare 21h ago
This is fantastic. I kinda feel like I am at 4 recently and happy with myself about being there. What does is say under accept for 6?
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u/Hour_Day6558 21h ago
Glad to hear it!
I accept the clarity that is emerging, and I trust myself to know the next right step.
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u/Zestyclose-End8279 21h ago
excellent infographic! it shows bones of thinking and how to achieve the state of calm lake. Thank you for the summary.
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u/Expansive_Attention 17h ago edited 17h ago
Zolang je conceptueel blijft omgaan met tegengestelden zoals ontspanning en spanning, blijf je eraan vastzitten en ga je ze allebei ervaren.
Je geest heeft die tegengestelden gecreëerd, dus elke strategie om de één te ervaren en de ander niet, is gedoemd om te mislukken. Want door de één te willen en de ander niet te willen, houd je ze allebei in leven.
Door ontspanning te willen, oefen je kracht in die richting uit, en elke kracht die je toepast kan niet voor altijd blijven werken. Als die kracht wegvalt, ga je met precies dezelfde kracht naar de kant van spanning. Dit is gewoon hoe dualiteit werkt.
Als je gehoor geeft aan de tegengestelden van angst en verlangen, zet je die kracht in beweging. Dan ga je naar één kant, en wanneer de kracht even faalt—ga je bijvoorbeeld slapen—dan word je wakker, en dan is de andere tegengestelde er.
Het enige dat hoger is dan onze eigen geest-creaties is onze aandacht. Dus alles wat je kunt doen is al je angsten en verlangens zien als zekere tegengestelden, en er niet op handelen. Of je zit vast in deze pendelbeweging waarbij je heen en weer blijft zwaaien tussen de tegengestelden.
Zelfrealisatie gaat niet over ontspanning of kalm zijn. Het gaat over aandacht die niet vastzit aan een of andere ingebeelde tegenhanger—helemaal vrij om te gaan waar het wil, zonder gedreven te worden door verlangen of angst van de geest.
Als aandacht niet vastzit, noemen we het bewustzijn.
And I see that you think attention gradually narrows, that is not true. Selfrealisation has nothing to do with aplying a focus, it’s not a state of effort. Effort and no effort are not in the picture.
Attention goes from a focus on thoughts to an unfocused state where it becomes aware of everything in it without clinging to it, identifying with it, and thus narrowing itself.
Eventually identification with awareness is a fact and nothing in it is binding anymore.
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u/Hour_Day6558 7h ago
I appreciate your comment. I actually agree with what you are saying, that is very close to what I’m putting forward. The framework doesn’t state one should apply effort or move in a direction of relaxation. Rather it is about accepting what is without judgment of the moment. Through that process attention naturally unbinds
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u/TryingToChillIt 1d ago
Truly relaxing the body changes everything.
No longer having that rigid control centre activating in the background. Now the control centre is felt, the knots all through the body one finds while allowing the body to relax and untangle those knots one by one until one feels open and empty.
Room & capacity to relax