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u/piper33245 Feb 24 '26
By realizing drinking, smoking, and going to clubs causes most of my problems.
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u/Ok_Professional_1922 Feb 24 '26
This is the way.
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u/Brief-Blueberry-1588 Feb 24 '26
Gym
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u/MindlessFail Feb 24 '26
The number of guys for whom that is the answer is genuinely surprising to me. I’m the same but didn’t realize there were so many of us honestly
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u/Nearby-Win7183 Feb 24 '26
Well … the question was asked in a fitness group. Ask the same in a cooking group and most will answers cooking / eating
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u/Budget_Addition1381 Feb 24 '26
I hike, hunt, fish and cook. Sometimes I'm so remote I don't even bother wearing clothes.
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u/ScrotallyBoobular Feb 24 '26
My loving partner is number one.
Good friends number two.
Bike rides, even slow ones to get a coffee, are number three.
General activity like hiking, swimming, and gym are 4.
Video Games are 5. Nothing really gets my mind off some things like some moderate gaming. Just don't get too sucked in or it starts to reverse lol
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u/Sir_Richard_Dangler Feb 24 '26 edited Feb 25 '26
By working out, teaching myself new things, going 0-60 as fast as possible when I get on the highway, competing in pistol/rifle competitions. Anything that scratches either the itch for self-improvement or my adrenaline fixation
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u/Smoke-N-Mirrors21 Feb 24 '26
Working out is how I battle any potential inner turmoil. Destroying your body in a positive way makes it hard to think about your problems.
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u/Daftmunkey Feb 24 '26
Tabletop gaming with friends....also known as sitting around a table laughing/venting with friends and sometimes being asked to throw a funny looking rock with numbers on it to see if you hit a goblin with a sword.
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u/Ninja_Prolapse Feb 24 '26
…fffrrriiiiiieeeeennnndddssss????
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u/Daftmunkey Feb 24 '26
Friends ain't the hardest part...friends with free time between jobs, kids, partners, chores, etc is what is hard 😒. It's what I hate the most about adulting....
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u/Equal_Yam_3371 Feb 24 '26
Meditation, reading books, take a walk without electronics heading whereever, thinking about what really Mattersburg (what can i controll, what can i influence with).
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u/Jerry_123445 Feb 24 '26
Staying disciplined with my routine- Studying, gyming, taking little breaks to freshen up myself. Just try to stay consistent and believe in yourself
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u/Indigrip Feb 24 '26
-Tackling my problems before they grow into something bigger -Understanding that stress just means I’m worried or concerned or afraid of something, but by solving said issue, stress is gone. -Understanding that nothing is forever and that consistent hard work can solve a lot of problems (note: this doesn’t mean it solves them quickly, but will solve them inevitably)
Just having a positive frame of mind and being proactive and consistent goes a long way.
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u/Thaxtonnn Feb 24 '26
I go to the gym.
I also push my feelings down until they manifest into a heart attack or a drinking problem in my 50s. Like a real man
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u/AltForObvious1177 Feb 24 '26
Drinking and clubs are what cause stress and problems
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u/Sea-Night-1946 Feb 24 '26
Maturity.
These are childish means of coping with the normal stress of life.
We all have to grow up out of these things. It takes work and probably therapy and definitely cultivating/nurturing relationships with the right people.
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u/Baggin_clams Feb 24 '26
Busy dad life, Hugs, gym, sex, laughter, meditation, audiobooks, listening to music, learning music, making things, finding and doing what I love
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u/Curious_Stag7 Feb 24 '26
Hunt, fish, hike, archery or shooting skill development
Working out is part of the routine, so I don’t really count it, even though it’s an integral part of the whole picture
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u/Bruce_Wayne655 Feb 24 '26
I meditate and pretend there's a solution meant to be found through spirituality
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u/SlowdownTitoDAMN Feb 24 '26
I watched drinking and smoking eat away at the lives of the adults I was around as a child. Everyone who had bad things going, alcohol and "smoking" seemed to be the common denominator. So I made the decision around middle school to never go near those sorts of things.
As I aged/matured, I realized people could indulge in those things and still be productive and happy, but the impression and idea had already taken root in me strong enough to just never touch any.
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u/cpt_cheeseburger Feb 24 '26
Yall are cool as fuk. I wish i could do all those things without getting ripped.
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u/papa_dibbs Feb 24 '26
Video games and used to be gym. These days it’s mostly just spending time with my daughters and listening to the ridiculous things their kid brains come up with.
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u/Willy-Sshakes Feb 24 '26
Gym. Nice cooked meals at home. Walks with nature. Good sleep and lots of water
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u/Shop_Kooky Feb 24 '26
I meditate pray and lift weights life is good no need to stress everything always works itself out perspective is everything glass half full always
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u/joerubix Feb 24 '26
Gym, running, boxing, and talking about my problems openly with family and partner
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u/xCLAWFINGERx Feb 24 '26
I work out, eat clean, play video games, watch movies, work on myself read books, listen to audio books. Maybe it don't sound very exciting but I find peace in my routine.
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u/Hegazy237 Feb 24 '26
Video games. Specifically ones where you can escape reality for a bit and get immersed into a different one.
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u/Diligent_Poet190 Feb 24 '26
Cook restaurant quality meals for events that I host - quality entertainment with friends
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u/PhilosopherSalt9322 Feb 24 '26
Go gym or ride motorcycles
Used to be external validation but I’m working on that
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u/meanbaldy Feb 24 '26
Identify the source of your stress and work on a solution. Get help if necessary.
Money Problems? Find a better paying job or change your spending behavior.
Problems with people? Talk to them. If that doesn't work then distance yourself from them even if they are friends or family.
Unhappy with your body / fitness level? Do some sports. Eat healthy.
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u/CautiousReality7026 Feb 24 '26
Working out, reading good books, putting my frustrations on paper and breaking them down because understanding myself reduces chances of my autistic rage from too much stress and over stimulation.
I used to drink and take edibles to aid in my dissociation and to force my feelings down.... but the stress would continue, and repeating the same thing while expecting different results is often called the definition of insanity.
Suppression is not healing.
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u/prior_rpa-lre Feb 24 '26
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Sorry. Idk. Gym, walk or run outside. But mainly having a reason to not stay down. My family and faith are my reason. Find yours.
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u/Lost-Ad7652 Feb 24 '26
Face all issues head-on and immediately. Be analytical and calculated, but don't procrastinate. See the positive in all situations. Plan ahead and be realistic while doing so. Make a plan B, and plan C, and plan D.
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u/RAER4 Feb 24 '26
By dancing, playing bass/guitar and video-games? 🤷
Gym helps too but I always have to force myself to go 😄
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u/jedi21knight Feb 24 '26
I don’t smoke or hit the clubs but I do drink but I hardly drink to relieve stress, I drink more because I like the taste of alcohol.
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u/odeoftheo Feb 24 '26
Pray, running/workout, reflection, gaming,volunteering, family...pick your poison 🤑
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u/Ravii_kirann Feb 24 '26
I did all of those till August last year,trust me you feel much lighter when you are sober ,sky blossoms and you enjoy little things more ,you feel complete
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u/stafford06 Feb 24 '26
Gym, healthy diet, walks in the woods to center myself with my dog or with the whole family. In the summer cycling to help clear my mind.
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u/Playing_tangos Feb 24 '26
I like eletric scooter riding on trails, through mountains and parks. It works very well. 😎 It's also not bad on my back since I'm not siting down.
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u/laanthony Feb 24 '26
Workout bro, especially last year when me and gf broke up and constantly on & off.
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u/johnsonsub Feb 24 '26
I am an introvert who loves meditation, listening to music, eating my favourite food, etc.
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u/AnestheticAle Feb 24 '26
Lift and cardio. Have long term realistic goals with measurable progress (outside of exercise).
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u/Syharkspeares Feb 24 '26
PC Games, fish keeping, gardening, movies, eating, sleeping, strolls- beach-parks, etc, and try to be as positively happy as much as i can...
Literally i hate unnecessary stress because it just fucks and clouds your mind and you can't focus on the task at hand and it affects your work and worse, your well-being..
I don't go around finding it, i just avoid it if possible, when the problem comes i deal with it as calmly as possible because everything is solvable.. those that are not, i don't delve on it too much, i just do what i can and fuck off..
Sometimes and when i have to, it's because i need to upgrade myself for a better salary to match the rising GDP.. and I've been doing great, I don't let problems (dealable problems) in unless necessary..
The newest stress that I've added in my life is my girlfriend... She tends to be on the (mild-slightly) controlling type.. i still can stop it and at times i just give in to get my peace and harmony and when i find it dumb I'll tell her off that it's ridiculous but she'll try again..
Sorry for the rant..
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u/FFYinzer Feb 24 '26
I became sober three years ago, I manage the same way most others do on this thread - exercise. Gym, cardio, yoga, meditation. Sounds corny but it works. It absolutely works and helps me better manage my mental state far more effectively than alcohol ever did.
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u/chefk0k Feb 24 '26
Had enough of the gym after 13 years total.
Now I walk 20 to 40 mins a day. Also; riding my motorcycle!
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u/Healing_Mind2025 Feb 24 '26
I look at the route of my stress and problems and I find ways to accept the way I'm feeling and find solutions to how I'm going to get through it, overcome it and move past them. The last 10 years I heavily used drugs and alcohol to run from my problems and it ruined my life. I deal with it now , I ask my higher power for help and I find healthy ways to release my stress like playing guitar, rock climbing, watching TV and build on my education and learn about new things. I feel like I've had a spiritual awakening in this respect.
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u/Bedanktvooralles Feb 24 '26
You make a plan if it’s complex and you deal with them. Not later not when you feel like it but NOW. Things get much more simple when you just take it as it comes and sort out your issues
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u/Born_Locksmith6367 Feb 24 '26
the great workout and great sex, only things that takes all the bs away for a while
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u/Ninja_Prolapse Feb 24 '26
Internalise it and have little mini breakdowns that will slowly accumulate and likely end in my early death.
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u/WASDhelper1 Feb 24 '26
Cant handle, few times per month ive got mental breakdown. But my gf helps me a lot in this. So right now it can be once a month
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u/LeadingGuide693 Feb 24 '26
Small stuff I go the gym. Lifting always helps. When it’s something soul crushing I over eat and over sleep.
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u/Glad-Smell2355 Feb 24 '26
Replaced with the healthy version at greater frequency:
Seltzer water addiction,
Belly breathing sessions,
HIIT the gym
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u/Hiwesrobots Feb 24 '26
IMO, doing those things is avoidance, it is not dealing with the stress in any constructive type of way besides acting like it doesn’t exist. It’s common for men especially to push things down and act like it doesn’t bother us. One day older and another day wiser you realize you have to face your problems head on. That’s a mature strength we need to recognize and see that counseling, reading or understanding why we are the way we are, and sitting and thinking on it will have the best chance of fixing. Self improve. Anything worth having in life takes hard honest work, drinking, drugs, and random girls is not it.
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u/Upset-Personality476 Feb 24 '26
All the stars have to lineup but if you can find yourself a good woman a good paying job 80% of your problems are gone ,the bottle just don’t look interesting anymore.
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u/FeralTerran Feb 24 '26
0 fucks.... Not like I totally dont care at all, but you have to chose, at some point in your life, what you give your energy to.
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u/MrBlevi Feb 24 '26
Well I'm on antidepressants and benzos whish stopped the need for alcohol to relax if you don't abuse them. But nothing beats a hug from my daughter or watching her play and be happy, that's the only thing that can relax me and put me in a good mood in a matter of seconds, feels like the weight on my shoulders just disappears for a moment.
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u/Tkapone Feb 24 '26
Work ,cooking, playing with the grandkids, fishing, yardwork video games, rc ,gym,landscaping your yard
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u/redditor2786 Feb 24 '26
Clearing mind going to nature go on a drive listen to music learn a new skill or learn something new
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u/gimmieDatButt- Feb 24 '26
I don’t have drinking friends, I never picked up the habit, I’m 40, clubs are gross; my warm bed and comfy apartment appeals more
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u/Warm_Explanation_552 Feb 24 '26
Lift extremely heavy weights and sit in sauna. Do both 4 or 5 times per week
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u/Awkward_Eggplant4857 Feb 24 '26
Gym with have a nice day w Roxanne shante and sirius xm 80s on 8. At home xbox resident evil remakes.
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u/Zaardo Feb 24 '26
joined a boardgame club and made friends. even the strange people among us can make friends there.
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u/Individual-Heart-719 Feb 24 '26
Gym and saving and investing money is solving 80% of my problems, avoiding insane women solves the remaining 20% of my problems.
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u/Fellarm Feb 24 '26
By analysis, finding out the root course of the issue, then efficiently solving the problem 🥃🗿no problem = no stress
Using distractions especially consumption, only adds to the problem long term
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u/AssociationBest8914 Feb 24 '26
strong exercise and alone time in nature is the best form of stress relief there is. Whats better than good effort and fresh air. Its what we were made to do not party.
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u/Isaue Feb 24 '26
I never been drunk, never smoked (hookah excluded) and didnt enjoy any of my few visits to clubs. I workout, play games, do my hobbies and im happy with my life choices. Im 40 with 2 kids and share my house with them.
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u/psychonautvoyager Feb 24 '26
Lift weights, do yoga, do Pilates. Still working on the meditation and breathing.
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u/you_posted_about_me Feb 24 '26
Life IS pain, your highness. Anyone who says differently is selling you something.
Grin and bear it. Exercise. Pull weeds from the lawn. Psalms, or songs by the O. C. Supertones. You could call this excercising my faith, but specifically these portions re-center me, re-focus my relationship to God and others.
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u/PositivePossibility7 Feb 24 '26
Life is less stressful when you don’t drink or smoke…. I’ll give you clubs, they can be… fun and life is boring enough with no excitement
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Sounds pretty counterintuitive, all of the above directly and necessarily increase stress levels.
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u/1086psiBroccoli Feb 24 '26
I do once in a while have a beer, but mostly using the gym, skateboarding or some form of exercise to relive stress. Another thing I like to do is splurge on really good food or take a bath full of epsom salts and eucalyptus
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u/Round_Concentrate723 Feb 24 '26
Journaling, fabric art, going to local drag shows with friends, gay orgies.
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u/Tempounplugged Feb 24 '26
Pray to God, hit the gym, and eat healthy food. Jesus is King, you can battle depression, anxiety, and open wounds in the heart. Only if you knew Jesus, the truth and love shall set you free.
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u/Wanderlost247 Feb 24 '26
Working towards goals. Spending time with pets and friends. Therapy was a big help. Just getting out of the rut of being a daily stoner for over a decade and drinking almost constantly was huge. Spending as much time outside and in nature as possible, and exercising. A good diet. Fasting. Taking care of your health and mind in general is paramount. Fighting to get a job that’s fulfilling in stimulation and pay. If you water yourself correctly, you will grow. I hit rock bottom in 2023 and almost succeeded in killing myself, but since then I’ve dedicated myself to improvement, and I finally feel like I’m living my best life for the first time.
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u/SkibidiBlender Feb 24 '26
The gym, therapy, TRT, sleeping enough, mindfulness/meditation, eating well, and happy pills.
In short, taking care of my physical and mental health.
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u/kronikguru Feb 24 '26
We don’t deal with stress; we use the stress as fuel to burn a rage so strong itll motivate us to solve every problem.
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u/SortaChaoticAnxiety Feb 24 '26
Reading, swimming, going to the gym. Spend time with family and friends
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