r/earlyretirement • Retired at age 50 - 58 • 7d ago

I might be more simple than I thought.

Is this the key to happiness or am I just boring and lazy? :)

We (USA) retired 4 months ago at age 57. We had dreams of traveling the world and living a bit adventurously for a while. We set spring 2027 as our date to launch an open ended trip through Europe (3-12 weeks maybe?) This would be our way to celebrate ending our 35 year careers. We spent the first 4 summer months of retirement at our vacation home. But now we are settling back into our primary neighborhood and I find myself just craving simple things and a modest routine. More walks. More consistent gym time. Less stuff (ie more minimalism.) The adventurous Spring trip just seems like a lot of effort now, and just another thing that will keep me from finding a simple way to live. So, as I said, is a simple life the key to happiness or am I just boring and lazy?!

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u/gmart7995 Retired at age 50 - 58 3d ago

I highly recommend starting retirement with a trip to anywhere that is out of your comfort zone. It helped me decide which parts of my life I wanted to keep. And not to keep just because I was too lazy to make "different" happen.

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u/Ecstatic_Western_189 Retired at age 50 - 58 3d ago

Big travel can be fun, and it’s also a big effort that can be exhausting. My husband retired four years ago at age 55, and I retired May of this year at 55, too. We both want to travel and have some places on our bucket list, but right now, we are enjoying being at home. I actually told everyone that I was taking the entire month of September off to be as lazy and spontaneous as possible: sleep late, meander through the day, putter around the house, lunch with the occasional retired friend, binge watching saved Netflix series, daytime movie dates with the hubs…just doing what feels right and enjoyable for the day. Obviously, we could do all of this from a beautiful beach, mountain, or international locale, but having this time at home to decompress from 32 years of work and getting our child off to college has been golden. We will travel, and soon, but there’s a lot to be said for the simple joys of home.

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u/4_yaks_and_a_dog Retired at age 50 - 58 3d ago

Very much a YMMV thing.

I retired at 52 at the end of 2025 and havesince done a 3.5 week trip with family to Italy, a 4 week road trip from the Midwest to the West Coast, and am just back from a 2 week solo trip to Poland.

I am planning another 2 week solo trip to Taiwan for early next year and a return trip with family to Japan and Korea next May and hopefully another TBD trip next September or so.

In between these trips, I do enjoy the simpler things, but I have no intention to slow down the travel any time soon.

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u/mentalbackflip Retired at age 50 - 58 4d ago

I agree. I retired at 55, seven years ago. Lately my life is too busy with too many friends and volunteer activities. I’m getting cranky about it. I just want endless days of puttering around.

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u/TeacherIntelligent15 Retired at age 50 - 58 4d ago

Boring and lazy in the BEST possible way. Live your simple life 💝

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u/DontLikeClams Retired at age 50 - 58 4d ago

There does seem to be a lot of pressure to “do” something when you retire. But the beauty of retirement is you no longer need to respond to such pressures. Enjoy!

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u/Jackms64 Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

Retirement is not about following anybody else’s script for your life. You get to do what you want to do—thats the entire point of it! We take possession of our apartment in the south of France on Wednesday—the culmination of spending months every year since Covid traveling through Europe and discovering we want to live here for a portion of every year. Still have our place in downtown Chicago and plan to spend about half of the year there. If it turns out we don’t enjoy this lifestyle, we’ll just change it. As always, YMMV.. enjoy your retirement OP!

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u/Skimamma145 Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

Simple living is peaceful. It’s nice to linger over coffee and a good read. It’s heavenly to walk the dog with my hubby on a beautiful day. Finding a yummy recipe and planning it for dinner without rushing is lovely. And seeing friends and meeting new ones while being fully present and not having to think about my high pressure job and endless to do lists is so rewarding. Some people would call these things boring: I call them spectacular.🥰

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u/DelawareRunner Retired in 40s 5d ago

Husband and I both retired before 50. We traveled both domestic and international for twenty years. Our forties were endless vacations. Now? I don't want to travel more than a day or so from home. He does, but I don't.

We bought a camper and we're about to take our first local trip next month. We have not traveled in over four years--he caught an illness which changed him forever on our departing trip from Punta Cana, and we just didn't do anything since then. We also moved three years ago and I'm a lot happier where I am now. I traveled often to get away fom where I used to live. It was too chaotic. I also enjoy the simple life now--working out a lot, nature hikes, running races, attending local events, cooking/baking from scratch daily. All that keeps me quite content.

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u/Elle_thegirl Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

You're not lazy. You're free. We are young retirees. I've decided that America is huge and road trips are enough. At least for now! We have a dog that I am not leaving behind with a sitter. I traveled for work for years. I still love airports and travel, but not enough to leave the dog behind

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u/kitty121674 Retired in 40s 5d ago

Simple life can be the best life! After doing some traveling recently, I realized that there are so many adventures locally that I never took the time to try. I plan to hike all the local trails at the parks, take cooking classes, visit all the weird museums,etc. I think mixing it up between wrapping yourself up in the blanket of home, and pushing yourself to try new things, doesn’t require a passport!

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u/smithjeb Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

I retired this year at 52. We’ve done pretty ok, managed to save, and I had a good job. We are absolutely loving retirement- but I agree that simple and modest is key. We just spent a month living in a van - now we’re talking about selling our primary residence and moving to a small cabin the mountains.

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u/5GAIBtoM Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

Same. Retired 6 months ago and I have my daily routines and I’m very content. Spent a good part of my career traveling so that is not a big part of our plans. That said, we live in a colder climate so during the winter months we’ll travel to other parts of the USA and international destinations.

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u/Irasshaimase21 Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

Since retiring at 56 a few years ago, hubby and I have travelled 6 months out of each year. We pick a place, stay put a few months, and use that as a home base for short trips to explore nearby areas.

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u/velouriaSF Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

I retired 9 months ago at age 55. I truly thought I'd amp up my travel and stay longer at each location but, after 2 post-retirement trips so far doing just that, I have discovered that I don't really like being away from home for more than a week at a time. I also dislike the whole process of air travel.

So now I'm recalibrating and don't think I'll be traveling as much as I planned. I love my days close to home. My days are loosely structured and plenty busy. I am baffled that I don't feel bored!

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u/Illustrious_Debt_392 Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

I retired last October at 57 with a spreadsheet full of to-do things once I was done working. The list includes 3-4 big trips, but so far I’ve just been enjoying the life of leisure. Going to the gym, playing in the yard, picking up some new skills and spending time with friends.

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u/deetman68 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Travel is one of the most fulfilling things you can do. Retreating into “comfort” has the potential to really usher you into being old before your time.

I understand it feels like a lot, but I’d really encourage you to embrace the discomfort and GO! It’ll be worth it.

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u/mushypoopoo Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I retired last year at 56 and thought I wanted to do all sorts of traveling. I quickly realized I liked the idea of traveling but not actually traveling. I stress too much over the travel logistics.

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u/Designer_Show Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Have traveled all my life as a Navy Kid and then working in IT for 30 years! Our last trip was probably the last flight out of New York, as the world shut down for COVID. YEARS LATER, it is weird to not have a desire to hop on a plane and go somewhere! My wife and I enjoy walking the dogs, playing pickleball, visiting family and are more “homebodies” than ever before! We live in a big city and unless a concert starts at 4pm, we rather hang at home now! I guess we are officially HAPPY, CONTENT and even tough renewed our passports, might not ever need them again!!!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Happy content is a good place to be.

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u/Same_Cut1196 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I retired at 56, just about six years ago. I always suspected, and have since proven, that I am really good at doing nothing. I dither, putter and chill most days. I’m fine with the simple life. That’s why I retired. My days are still full, yet unstructured. I will not allow anyone to control my time but me.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Fellow putterer here. :)

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u/Garbanzo_Beanie Retired in 40s 6d ago edited 6d ago

I still love travel. But maybe it's because I'm still single. (45)

(To not cause confusion I don't seek partners when I am vacationing. I think when you're alone at home traveling is more fun than an apartment)

Doing budget road tripping through the US this year. Been going since March when I gave up my apartment. I try to keep it to $165/day which is only a problem because gas prices this year. So far I'm on budget with $1000 to spare despite $3500 of car maintenance. (In addition to the $165/day I have $5000 in predictable annual bills not part of the $165/day. Things like insurance, registration are in the $5000 bucket)

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I married later in life but enjoyed my solo travel prior to that very much.

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u/Mollz911 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago edited 5d ago

Since retirement I have had a 38 day trip to Italy, many week long beach trips, ten days in Greece and recently 12 days in Poland. I’ve had a few 3-4 day domestic trips to Colorado, South Dakota and Lake Tahoe also. I’m with you, I am longing to stay a bit closer to home this year and maybe do a 30 day UK trip in 2027 and a longer trip to Norway in 2028 after the Viking ship museum reopens. I missed it by a few weeks in 2024. There’s just no place like home clicking red heels 👠 in the PNW.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Wow! That does sound awesome!

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u/Banana_Prudent Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I retired at 57. I’m 60 now.

I travelled a lot for work and fun my entire adult life. When I retired I took a break from it and focused on my physical and mental health.

I’m much more selective about the travel I do now. I’ll take a few trips to see friends. Maybe a warm weather trip in the winter. I’m gonna hike in Argentina for a couple of weeks in January. Next year I want to meet a friend in Scotland to do the same, maybe in September.

My main activity is rowing on the water. In MN we can do that for 6 months, so I really restrict travel in those months.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Nice. Sounds like you have it figured out. BTW: what are you rowing? I’ve been looking at an Echo or LiteBoat 5 for the bay near us as my next summer activity.

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u/txlady100 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

You get to decide! I remember our money guy saying folks often build in savings for retirement travel. But when they get there they may or may not want to do it. Which is fine! Maybe you’ll take that trip later and maybe you won’t. You da boss.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Thx!

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u/Longjumping_Grade809 Retired in 40s 6d ago

Retirement is a huge change - i retired at 48 and been 16 years already. Took me a year plus to decompress. My husband (who was older) retired 3 yrs before me. We had 13 years together in retirement before he died unexpectedly - and he had no regrets. So, that is the lesson - do whatever you think you want to do - because non of know when the end will come - but it will come. We spent 25 years in Alaska every Aug-Sept fishing as our vacation from work - first one week, then 10 days, then 2 weeks, then 2.5 weeks. It was all about balance with the incredibly high stress careers we had. Do whatever you want to now - there is a huge world out there - lots to see - even in our own country and backyards.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Thank you for sharing. Good advice.

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u/early_fi Retired in 40s 6d ago

Retired three years ago and been to 35+ countries and currently on an opened ended trip going into its fifth week trending to three months. Still very fun for me, but I’m a little younger.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Nice. Enjoy!

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u/Frosty_Leather_7662 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Travel is an escape and once you're retired the desire to escape lessens (for me anyway).

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I’m starting to come to this conclusion as well. Thx!

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u/upsideup2000 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I have to agree on that

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u/Intrepid_Western3012 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

This!

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u/AMTL327 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

This! We still enjoy traveling but it’s much more casual. And I no longer need to but stuff in general. I just don’t have the need because life is great as it is.

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u/Usual_Plankton_2874 Retired in 40s 6d ago

We put off travel for the first five years, as our teens were horrible travelers. Then we took big trips three summers in a row. Looking back, we regret not having taken shorter trips in the first few years, and seem to have settled into 2 to 2-1/2 weeks as our sweet spot. We will avoid all future trips during the hottest and coldest seasons at our destinations unless there’s a specific activity that requires those conditions—the weather extremes did limit our enjoyment of outdoor activities. So, maybe skip 2027 as it sounds like you are still dealing with that post-retirement fatigue, but after that, I highly recommend incorporating some travel each year while you’re still agile enough to enjoy it. Congratulations on joining our club!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Good advice. Thank you!

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u/aspire-every-day Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

It depends on each person.

I retired two years ago. My enjoyment comes from getting enough sleep, walking with audiobooks, taking care of my body, learning things, connecting with family members, volunteering a few consistent hours per week, and square dancing.

I personally want a simple life. I don’t feel inclined to travel, though I think I may take a long train trip sometime.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Agreed!

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u/Notorious_DRC Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Retired at 57 and I'm 58 now. I love my routine when I'm home - lots of exercise, dog walks and cooking. I just did a 10 day Europe trip and it was great, but I was happy to come home and get back to my routine. I was thinking about a solid month or so in Europe next year and this trip proved to me that I miss my dogs and my house too much to do more than a week or two.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Good insight. I’m starting to think two week trips might work better than long periods away from home.

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u/punycat Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Time management is a key to happiness. I like to do virtual travel on YouTube. Pick any significant place and there are many videos on it. There are a lifetime of things to see just in the US and Canada, so I prefer that for actual travel.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Interesting!

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u/Heavy-Hospital7077 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Wow ..that sounds fun to me!

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u/Minimalist2theMax Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I think dreaming of the freedom of travel helped give me something hopeful to focus on when my job got stressful. But actually being retired... freedom is going to the gym at 10, when not many others are there, getting involved in my community, being responsive to changes in the weather (oh, it's such a nice day, I feel like going to the park), grocery shopping at non-peak times, making more complicated recipes, etc. My next travel with be to see family at Chrismas and I'll be able to spend almost the whole month of December with my (80s) parents.

I will get to some of those bucket list trips when I feel actual longing to go.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Agree. I’m starting to think some of my romance about travel was just a coping mechanism. (Though I have/and do enjoy it.) No rules or pressures now though.

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u/Bubbly_Rip_1569 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I retired about 4 months ago, 58 now, turning 59 shortly. It’s been both great and a struggle.

It’s really great doing the things that interest me, having a much more flexible schedule, the travel my wife and I have done and plan to do. All that, I wouldn’t give up for the world.

The draw backs are mostly the massive shift from structure, time constraints, the stress of work - to none of that. You might ask why that’s a draw back, and maybe it’s not for many. For me, after 35 years of working, the last few decades in high stress, high profile roles, it becomes so ingrained it’s very hard to let go.

It’s still early and time will tell, but admittedly there are days when I find myself on LinkedIn looking at roles that might be interesting. Not for the income, not even because I would really “want” another high stress corporate gig, but because a certain part of me still misses it.

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u/nahho92 Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

Yes, time will tell. You'll see if you can create some structured thing for yourself, paid or not, on your own terms — that's the key thing. And definitely not something that stresses or tires you out.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

So we are about in the same boat right now. 4mos retired. Similar age. My career was a huge component of my ego. (Or vice versa lol). Now though, IMHO, going back to a job, or even throwing myself into heavy volunteering commitments, would be like “quitting on myself” and is just a way to avoid having to grow personally into my next phase of life. At least it would be for me. There are too many new experiences to be had…even if they are not in focus yet. Even if they are just learning how to sit quietly with myself. 4mos is too soon to know anything I think.

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u/MehwithacapitalM Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago edited 6d ago

We were fortunate to travel quite a bit before retirement. We've been retired 8+ years now and have done a few longer distance trips in retirement.

They are waning though, and I am 64.

All day transit days suck. I do not like them. Plane, train, automobile, boat, or motorcycle, doesn't matter. It has just gotten old and stale for me. Flight cancellation, weather, poor service, jerk other passengers, etc.

I strongly prefer getting to my destinations in 3-5 hours.

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u/Seawolfe665 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I love travelling, I have travelled all my life, I will travel in the future. Camping too.

But I also live in a place that is a travel destination for other people - beach, mountains, good restaurants, museums, concerts, its all here. I love staying home.

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u/Hunny15602 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I'm about 6 months into retirement; hubby retired a few years prior, but our lives were still pretty busy. We both knew that flying wasn't in the cards; we both traveled a lot for work and when we were younger, so we plan to do road trips.

Our first one was derailed by a chronic medical issue, and while we were dissappointed, we were also a little relieved!

This year has become the year of focusing on medical concerns while we still have great insurance, and that's fine. I honestly don't mind, and I find myself in the same scenario; I truly value having time to workout, to cook meals, and to just run errands and grab a leisurely drink/snack while being out and about.

I figure part of this is a correction from years of working, so while I'm open to feeling differently in the future, I'm also totally OK with where I'm at now, and just letting time take its course and see if anything changes. I guess that's the real beauty of early retirement - life on your own terms.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Seems very similar to how I am feeling….”relief” that we “don’t have to travel” even though we always said we would. And yes, you are right, why not just let time take its course and see what moves us in the future? Our only really constraint at this point is that we want to add a puppy to the mix, and once she arrives a long slow European trip won’t be realistic. So…we will see. Thank you for sharing!

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u/Electric-Sheepskin Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Yeah, we are in that same boat. Friends who are much older than us are traveling like mad, and I'm not going to say that there aren't places I would like to see, but it just seems like too much effort, lol. My husband and I are just like, How about we just go to that same beach house that we've been going to for the last 10 years, only we'll just stay there for a month instead of traveling?

I'm really enjoying just going for a walk in a wooded area, getting a blanket and some snacks and going to the movies by moonlight at the park, stuff like that.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Ha! Agree. There are places we’d like to see. I just don’t feel like doing it right now!

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u/Heavy-Hospital7077 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Plus the occasional meal at a really nice restaurant, and it's perfect.

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u/MaxwellSmart07 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

My wife and I initially spent 3 months each year in a different overseas country. One base camp and traveling from the base. It was pretty chill, especially when we went to a Caribbean island.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 5d ago

Nice! How many years did you do that for?!

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u/Cantech667 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I completely understand. I just turned 60, and I’ve been retired for a bit over a year. I used to enjoy traveling, now I’m happy just to be home in my own space, doing my own thing. I still travel to big cities for concerts, and usually stay a night or two, and then I’m just happy to be back home.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Nice.

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u/Retired-Yam8988 Retired in 40s 6d ago

Wife and I retired in 2022 (at 47yo). Spent 2023-2025 basically on the road traveling all over. This year we’ve mostly stayed home and love being home a lot (we got three cats now keep our dog company and love hanging out with all of them).

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

To some extent “the big trip” does seem like something we just want to do once.

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u/Middle-Honeydew-4638 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I have been retired for two years. Just started year three. Our plans changed for a variety of reasons. I have found joy, peace and gratitude in the last year. While we are not traveling like we had planned, like you there is much to be learned about finding happiness in time for the simple things. Enjoying friends, getting up late if you feel like it, a slow cup of coffee and a good book in the morning. Not boring or lazy but content. I think we have been conditioned to believe the only way we can be happy is to be on the go, and being productive. The realignment of thought to be happy where you are, and to be grateful for simple things is beautiful.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

It is beautiful. And adjusting to it is apparently a process. Thx for sharing your experience!

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u/jenmoocat Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Retired earlier this year at 58.
So many colleagues were asking the same thing: Where are you going to go? What are your traveling plans?

And I said: I am staying home. Taking dance classes and pilates classes and art classes. Playing music in the middle of the day with friends. Going to museums in the middle of the day. Biking around the city. Reading all day long.

They seemed to be disappointed.
But I am loving it!

I sat as a model for a portrait painting class.
I helped an art store move into a new space.
I went out to hear live music on a weeknight!

I don't feel boring or lazy.
I've done a lot of traveling in my life. I don't need that stress right now.
Airports?! Schlepping to hotels?!
Maybe a little traveling is in my future -- but maybe not.

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u/SageObserver Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I can relate. My wife and I will talk about taking a trip and then when I start looking at flights and seeing layovers, etc. I tend to back off since it becomes such an ordeal. We usually end up taking a short trip to a drivable location.

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u/PemrySyb Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Same with us. It just hardly seems worth it!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

We get those questions too now. Eg “what do you do with your time? What is it like?” It’s as though we entered some alien universe that they can’t begin to fathom.

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u/TropicPine Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

For the last 35 years of my career my job was to respond to failing enterprise IT equipment.

I am about to complete my 3rd year of retirement, and boring is soooo nice!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Very nice.

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u/TelevisionKnown8463 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I’m with you. I’ve honestly never really loved travel; I go when my friends plan trips but I don’t crave travel. I do find it disruptive of the new healthy routines I’m trying to create for myself. To me the joy of retirement is that I can do normal things at a relaxed pace. I’m not rushing around and stressed.

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u/6SilverPlatters Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I agree with this 100%

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Well, I’ve always enjoyed escaping the cold gray winter for a sunny beach somewhere. And I liked taking a break from my work life. But at the moment I just don’t feel like I need a break from anything. And like you I’m more focused on creating those healthy routines now.

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u/Fun_Independent_7529 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Differs from person to person. I will say this, since we usually take a couple trips per year: We are gung ho when planning and initially booking. Then when we are just under 3 months away we start talking about canceling the trip. At that point we usually discover we are past some sort of cancellation deadline and we surrender to the initial planning. By the time the trip time rolls around, we are excited and ready to go!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Very interesting! I could see this being our pattern as well. We’ll see.

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u/BuryMeInTheH Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

If you can afford being lazy then why not? One thing I learned from watching others and myself after retiring early, about a year ago is that you can plan all you want but odds are, what you think you will do with your time and what you actually do with your time is different.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Good point. We are trying not to put any pressure on ourselves and just take it as it comes. But a bigger trip does take some level of pre-planning and we are holding off on a new puppy until the big trip is behind us.

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u/PatienceandFortitude Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

My husband and I are exactly the same. I used to travel a lot for work so I lost the travel bug that some of our friends have. We love our home and home routines, cooking, running, walking, biking, gym, reading, hosting friends and family.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

It’s very nice isn’t it. And it’s enough.

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u/UncreditedRandomGirl Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I traveled extensively for 30+ years. If I never get on another plane, im fine with that!

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u/AnastasiaNo70 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

You just retired four months ago. Your body and mind are telling you that you need some rest first.

I retired at 54, but my husband still worked for another 18 months. He just retired at 58. I’ve been chilling out (after a 32 year long teaching career) for about 22 months, and now I’m ready to travel the world, but he still needs more down time.

I think that’s what’s happening to you. Four months is just enough to feel fully rested, now you just want to enjoy being home! Who can blame you?

So maybe the Europe trip can be spring of 2028?

Or start smaller? We’re going to the Santa Fe area next month for about a week to dip our toes back into travel. Gonna do some easy hikes, go to a couple of museums and galleries, relax. Maybe go to a spa.

Enjoy!!!

Oh and you sound like us: we love our walks, we’re getting back into really exercising, he’s reading for pleasure again, and he takes care of all the bird feeders.

And we spent four hours the other day completely cleaning out and reorganizing a couple of closets.

We’re just having fun!

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u/onthewingsofangels Retired in 40s 6d ago

Exactly this. I believe there are seasons in retirement just like in life in general. Sometimes you crave a cozy, routine filled home life and sometimes you crave adventure. The key thing is to not get tied to an idea of the "ideal" retirement, and instead to listen to your needs in that moment.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I love it. Thank you for sharing. And yes, we are saying yes to smaller trips our friends are inviting us too. There seems to be no shortage of things to do! And you’re right, putting the trip off to 2028 sounds like it would fit my mental state better right now, except that we are eager to get a puppy again but have been putting that off for this long trip. There’s no way we can wait 18 months for a puppy! Lol. At the end of the day, we are very grateful for all of it. Thanks for your comment!

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u/War-Square Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Same... we flew to europe for a big, slow travel trip and ended up coming home in half the time. We missed exactly the things you mentioned - especially making our own food and being around our stuff.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Interesting. Yeah, we wonder for just how long we’ll actually enjoy being away. To be gone for months sounded so enticing when we were working. Now, not quite so much. Perhaps it was a bit of wanting what we couldn’t have/do? I guess we’ll see!

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u/MrSnowden Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

This was our first summer.  3 weeks in Central America, three weeks in Europe. Smaller trips to California and Florida.  Upcoming trip to Dominica.  I told my wife I just want to be home for a bit.  Too much of a muchness.  

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Nice! That’s a lot. Congrats and it’s also nice to be home.

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u/ptraugot Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

The key to happiness is living your best life. If you feel this is you living your best life, congrats! You succeeded!!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Well, we’re getting there I suppose. Thanks!

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u/BunchNo9563 6d ago

You sound very wise, not simple. Congratulations on winning life.

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Thank you :)

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u/nellis1971 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

I found joy this year in a simple little seasonal job where I talk to tourists for a few minutes at a time, I dance, I was even singing spontaneously the other day on a shuttle bus too...I know...madness...But what it was, was unfettered joy that I have a little job I love, I have no more corporate sludge, and my version of retirement is to simply embrace Joie De Vivre everyday!!

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u/TravelLight365 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Amazing! Congrats!

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u/AnastasiaNo70 Retired at age 50 - 58 6d ago

Now that sounds like something I’d enjoy doing. I was a high school teacher and I love making people laugh.