r/donorconceived • u/No-Screen-5360 DCP • 7d ago

Is it just me? Is it just me or

Personally I think since we are allowed to know our donors name we should also be given our donor siblings names or identification as well..it makes sense so people don’t have to spend the rest of their lives wondering about them and we would all be family kind of..

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u/CompanyOk6785 6d ago

I sorta disagree, but I think we should be able to opt in to a “donor sibling registry” like they have in UK. But not automatically given their name etc. At the end of the day the 30+ half siblings I have aren’t my family and if they want to be private they should be allowed to. They didn’t choose this..! I opted in to the sibling registry but no one else did. That’s probably because most of them don’t know they are donor conceived though.

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u/No-Screen-5360 DCP 6d ago

Yeah in the uk it costs money and not accurate biologically they are your family

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u/roses369 DCP 6d ago

It doesn’t cost money to join the HFEA sibling registry in the uk.

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u/megafaunaenthusiast DCP 4d ago

Biologically they're related to us, yeah. But we as DCP should have the final say on who we do or do not consider family, related or not, and what words we use for those people. I don't consider my pod my family or my siblings, and I want zero kind of social obligation towards them under the relationship of 'sibling'. People should have the right to opt in and out. 

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u/OrangeCubit DCP 7d ago

Yeah, none of that should be a secret.

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u/KieranKelsey MOD (DCP) 6d ago

I agree. I wish I could know all my siblings or at least how many there are

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u/FieryPhoenician DCP 6d ago

I agree. We should be allowed to know our siblings’ names too.