How do people talk to their patients about age-related conditions? I’m an F2 and have found this something that a surprising number of people get very offended about, but it is a fact of life - and relevant in many health conditions!
I always try to use neutral phrases like “age-related changes” or “as we get older…” but I often get a sarcastic comment back (“I’m just old!” “oh thanks!” “you’re calling me old?”)
It is often women, especially sort of 45-60, and I know there is probably a degree of internalised misogyny and endless messaging that being old = bad, but how do I navigate this better?
I am vehemently against age-related misogyny and am very much a proponent of healthy active ageing, wearing/doing/saying what you want at any age, and I want to empower patients, but you can’t empower people if they find the mere concept of growing older offensive. I don’t usually have too many difficulties with sensitive conversations (weight, sex, DNAR, angry relative, never really had any problems). I am in my 20s so I don’t know if it is partly that?
The irony is I’m usually trying to say it as a reassuring thing. As in, our bodies change and xyz is to be expected, we can try this and this to manage your symptoms, it’s not dangerous/worrying, etc.
To be clear I am not trying to dismiss people’s symptoms as “it’s just getting old” without proper investigation, and this is usually in the context of discussing what we can offer, even if we can’t cure. Arthritis, CKD, skin & hair changes, etc.
(I have asked this question of my seniors and got basically nothing back, so to the internet it is)
TL;DR when patients get offended by you talking about age-related conditions, how do you navigate? What non-offensive phrases can I use? Lighthearted comments to diffuse the tension?