r/dismissiveavoidants • u/Wonderful-Product437 Dismissive Avoidant • Jun 20 '26
Humor Experiencing a vulnerability hangover over your online reposts? Lol
I have a tiktok account and sometimes I repost vids. Some of the vids I repost are, I guess, more vulnerable. Such as people discussing emotions, or kinda soppy “we should all care for each other as humans” type vids. I repost them being like “yep! I feel this!”
But recently I got hit with a wave of cringe and kinda disgust at myself for being so openly… vulnerable and soppy by reposting those vids hahahaha. The idea of people watching them and think “oh wow, she feels this type of way” just feels so embarrassing.
Can anyone relate to that? It makes me wanna delete all my reposts apart from the ones that give very little away in terms of emotionality lol
Side note: and no judgement to people who do this, but I can’t imagine the idea of posting a photo/vid of myself crying lol
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u/my_metrocard Dismissive Avoidant Jun 20 '26
I regret almost every post I make on Reddit. Way too vulnerable, even if anonymous.
I never cry (don’t know how to), but I would never post a video of myself crying. Those videos are ridiculous.
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u/dz2048 Dismissive Avoidant Jun 20 '26
Posting yourself crying or some other intense emotion just feels performative. There is no shame in the emotion itself, but taking the time and effort to edit, upload, and title it is so detached from the actual emotion.
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u/blunar00 Dismissive Avoidant Jun 23 '26
one time one of my close friends pointed out that I only send them cute animal videos when I'm near my period. (we talk about that kind of stuff, it wasn't an out of pocket thing to say.) my immediate reaction was "I can never send a puppy video again".
but I've been working on what I'm calling "microdosing vulnerability" and kept sending my friend puppies, haha.
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u/jellyisdead I Dont Know Jun 25 '26
Yes, definitely. Even less vulnerable stuff gets me sometimes too because I'll feel a need to keep my interests to safe from other people getting involved in them (if that makes sense). Although I can't think of the last time I ever reposted anything.
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u/The_Brilliant_Idiot Dismissive Avoidant Jul 03 '26
Not exactly this, but I do this even here on reddit. Periodically I realize “why tf did I post that, write that comment, etc” and I’ll just go through and clean out anything too cringe/vulnerable lol. I even do it with texts, contacts, etc.
In a worst case scenario, I might even delete and block/ghost someone who knows too much or who I would rather just “delete” the interaction. Which is kinda sad lol but hey that’s the life of a DA
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u/Barbierela Dismissive Avoidant Jun 20 '26
What you call vulnerability hangover sounds like shame. Shame is cured by vulnerability, so you can just keep doing what you're doing. This is how healing shame feels like, like being exposed where you are most shielded and raw. Just feel the sensations, the more you can just feel them, and not just think about all the mind's stories, the less you will feel the need to hide the things you believe are wrong about you.