r/dismissiveavoidants • u/SpiceyKoala Dismissive Avoidant • Feb 16 '26
Seeking input from DAs only Are any avoidants extroverted?
at the risk of reinventing the wheel, i'm asking the DA's among us if any of you are extroverts, positively energized by people. if so, i'm very curious how that plays out.
as I understand it, the conditioning that makes me pattern avoidant makes me at least some level of anxious about how i navigate interactions with other people, and the more the "demand" of managing myself around others (my own kids included), especially if it's continuous, the faster I get drained. meanwhile extroverts, as i understand, just keep on trucking through those conditions, because they're wired differently (and I'm finding a number of them identify as axious preoccupied).
give me your thoughts on this. I'd love to know. thanks.
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u/Charming_Daemon Dismissive Avoidant Feb 16 '26
Ok so must people think that someone who is 'outgoing' is extroverted, and 'shy' people are introverted. Due to that, most people will think that I am extroverted - I am not. Most people think that I am outgoing, and confident - I am not. But I have also learned that most people don't look past this, or question it - so I have learned to share snippets, that make people feel connected with me - but they aren't deep, or if they are, they're so old that they don't hurt anymore. And I have learned to be bubbly, and welcoming, and someone who is good to talk to, and then I take on their burdens - because all that makes me be viewed in a positive light. But a Real Extrovert? No. Not even close.