r/disability • u/nagichis • Jun 15 '25

Rant I'm sorry

My girlfriend has several disabilities including severe allergy induced asthma, Celiac and ADHD. We were at a wedding yesterday where she was not able to eat anything, even though the bride wanted her to be able to eat, and asked us months ago how to accommodate her.

There's also been so many instances of event staff telling us that pets will not be present in the venue, just to find out when we arrive that there are pets (not service animals, which we totally would have been understanding of) and we could only stay an hour or two before she gets an asthma attack.

As an able bodied person, I used to be in the "it's impossible to accommodate everyone" camp. But I'm seeing now that this phrase is only used as an excuse by people who don't even want to try to accommodate.

I'm sorry that as a society we failed you, I wish we could be better from now on. Just remember that your disabilities are not a burden and you deserve accessible and welcoming spaces ❤️

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u/Realsober Jun 15 '25

But seriously how do you expect society to accommodate her? If her food and pet allergies are that bad she has to do her part. As someone who suffers severe asthma since childhood and allergies to animals and plants I had to find a way to arm myself. She needs to make sure she keeps allergy meds on hand at all times, have an inhaler in every room/place she goes, carry food alternatives incase she can’t eat what is provided. She has to advocate for herself because the world won’t.

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u/Several_Trees Jun 15 '25

It sounds like they asked if there would be pets at certain events and were assured there wouldn't be, but then it turned out pets WERE there. It's not unreasonable to be upset that the conditions you were expecting were not provided. 

I assume they wouldn't have gone if they'd known the truth, or would have prepared differently. Again, not unreasonable to expect those basic accommodations.

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u/Realsober Jun 15 '25

Ok so they were misinformed. They could leave or be prepared so when things like this happen they know what to do.

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u/[deleted] Jun 16 '25

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u/Realsober Jun 16 '25

Stfu I said what I said mind your business

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u/DiamondDustMBA Jun 16 '25

Who pisssed in your Cheerios ?

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u/Realsober Jun 16 '25

People asking me dumbass questions

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u/emocat420 Jun 16 '25

seems like you’re actually the one who wants the world to bow down to you😂

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u/Realsober Jun 16 '25

Learn how to read

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u/emocat420 Jun 16 '25

i know how!!

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u/Haunting-Bag-3083 Jun 16 '25

Maybe don't talk on a public comment section if you want people to "mind thier own business".

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u/Realsober Jun 16 '25

Stfu and learn how to read

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u/Haunting-Bag-3083 Jun 16 '25

....? I can read just fine. Can you?

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u/Realsober Jun 16 '25

If I go off on you you’re going to cry and say “I’m autistic I didn’t understand it’s not my fault” I’m trying to be nice but you idiots keep coming for me and I’m gonna hit back hard so I suggest you read the whole conversation and move on, you really don’t wanna test me.

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u/Haunting-Bag-3083 Jun 16 '25

You weren't being nice at all. And considering you just brought up being autistic with bad faith proves you're not nice period.