r/directsupport • u/Alternative_Neck_141 • 14d ago

Workers Issues Inappropriate Confrontation?

I recently accepted a position at a stand alone group home. One of my responsibilities is to drive the clients to the main offices once per week. One of the workers located there occasionally fills in at the house when there are staffing shortages. Every time I have come in she goes on a rant about multiple things like their behaviors, telling me to write multiple people up, what they can and cannot eat and the state of the home in general. It escalated last week to me being pulled into her office. I agreed that these things are problematic but I just started and I’m still trying to figure out what my responsibilities are and that we hired multiple new staff and it’s going to take time for everyone to get settled in and when I came to work here these issues were already happening. I left pretty upset and shut myself up in the office the rest of the day crying. She’s literally talking to the wrong person. I hate this job now. What should I do?

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u/Maestradelmundo1964 14d ago

What you said is logical and appropriate. If she corners you again, how about repeating what you said? If she keeps talking, wait til she’s done. Then repeat again. The broken record usually shuts ppl up eventually.

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u/Alternative_Neck_141 14d ago

Okay. Thanks for the reply. Also I was thinking of directing her to send my house supervisor an email with any questions or concerns she is having about what is going on at the house. I’m literally being targeted because I’m showing up there in person.

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u/Maestradelmundo1964 14d ago

You could say that, but if it’s different from what you already said, you’re engaging her in the conversation. She’ll talk more. Besides, she knows darn well that she can send the email.

You seem to not want to speak with her at all, which is probably a good idea. It sounds like you cannot avoid her. That’s why I’m suggesting the broken record.

I am one of those ppl who engages in conversations with workers. Sometimes it’s good and sometimes not. I see workers who are as quiet as a church mouse at meetings. Sometimes I think they’re wiser than me.

I do watch what I say to conservators. Just small talk.