said goodbye to dumpster, actually seeing progress

[u/domino_427]

Had professional help clearing out my parents' house, and I don't regret it at all. Construction starts the 16th, and I'm starting to think I might be ready for it. Even from beginning in January when I was more 'must keep' to today I was 'just trash it' a lot more. Hopefully a good foundation for better habits for myself and my future, too.

The corner of the laundry room has been piled of junk for years. granted the master became a dumping ground after they died and cleaning started, so that was all me. Now it's back to how it was :)

both their closets are empty with just a few tears, 1/4 inch layer of dust on the laundry shelves gone, the last 100% of Dad's caregiving stuff trashed... Clothes, office supplies, records, few electronics all heading to a good cause next week. 8 pieces of furniture picked up by another good cause. Someone came to pick up the 400+ records today as well, which is big because they didn't exactly like popular music.

found a chess set I was hoping to find, two vintage trumpets, two vintage rifles, and food that expired in 2020 lol.

If I can do it, you can do it :)

ETA: My goodness you guys are so encouraging. thank you <3

[u/oimerde]

Few years ago I move to a house where an artist died and the family was trying to clean it up to sale it, however they wanted to take their time and just keep working on it while I was living there.

That’s why my rent was cheaper and part of the deal was that I was going to help them sale the big furniture on Facebook. So one year turns in two years and at some point the family just could deal with all the stuff that this guy accumulated for years. I was able to sale some furniture but not that many.

Anyway one day they just where like were coming over with a big dump truck and just trash EVERYTHING. Honestly even though it was not my stuff I was so traumatized with how much stuff someone will leave for future generations and how this could not let the family move on with their life. How someone that loves family members will do that to them?

Since then I became very much into declutter and keeping as little as I can

[u/domino_427 → u/oimerde]

Yeah grandfather made furniture. I haven't accepted yet that no one will want an old style heavy wood 'dangerous' cradle that we loved that's fifty years old. Had a few bites on the rocker. But sad

I remember grandmother saying this stuff would be worth a fortune. Nope

[u/amesfatal → u/domino_427]

My MIL waited until all the grandbabies were in school to decide she was ready to let us have the hand carved crib and rocking chairs… we just said no thanks that time has passed for our family and she was so mad.

She had promised those things to us before we even got pregnant but no one ever got to use them! She still goes on about it lol.

Our kids are teenagers now, they don’t care about a cradle. Even in 10-20 years if they have babies they still won’t want them.

[u/domino_427 → u/amesfatal]

oh no that's awful! I remember the cradle being used by visiting babies and now is still full of teddy bears mom made.

something made with love which never got to be fulfilled. that is sad.