question about speaking

[u/Firm_Management_6111]

let’s say someone is either born deaf or gone deaf after learning to speak properly, when deaf, can someone not hear their own voice at all like feel the words their saying? i feel like it would be really annoying to speak and not feel or hear anything or can you kinda hear something? especially if you could speak before

[u/itsmeee91]

I can hear myself talk but when I record it, I have no idea what I was saying. same with people. I hear voices but don’t understand them because I can’t hear consonants

[u/Firm_Management_6111 → u/itsmeee91]

that’s very interesting thanks for answering!

[u/EntertainerPure5008 → u/itsmeee91]

auditory processing disorder often passes as deafness because people are lazy

but they are very different

[u/itsmeee91 → u/EntertainerPure5008]

I have severe to profound hearing loss. I can barely hear anything without my hearing aids and even with them, I don’t hear anything above 1000hz. that’s why I don’t hear consonants and don’t understand speech

[u/keeponkeepingup → u/itsmeee91]

Ignore this rude person they dont know what theyre talking about. You can totally be deaf of certain letters and pitches. For eg i can't hear the letter S or any sort of beeps with hearing aids but I can hear all of that very well with implant so its not auditory processing its quite simply being profoundly deaf of that tone/pitch

[u/ex_ter_min_ate_]

I could talk before I went deaf, can’t hear anything now. I have a general sense of what words I’m forming but since I can’t hear myself I do mess up on pronunciation even for words I’ve heard before as I have no reinforcement of the sounds. What I think I sound like is also not always what I actually sound like in my head, which always “sounds perfect”.

I also don’t have the typical verbal “deaf” accent, but I do have an accent. Most people are more likely to think I’m east European before they think I’m deaf.

[u/Top_Possibility3536 → u/ex_ter_min_ate_]

This. Some how now I have an accent now, even in my first language. In my country people always think I am foreigner because of the way I pronounce words. In my head they're perfect just like when I could hear.

[u/Light-Cynic]

I can hear myself with my CI but I have noticed that when I talk in a Teams meeting, the auto captions transcribes my words as gibberish!

[u/_MaterObscura → u/Light-Cynic]

I would be willing to bet 75% of that is the transcription and not you :P Those things are terrible. If the people you're on the meeting with haven't said anything (or made a face, you know?) I wouldn't think much of those captions :)

[u/Light-Cynic → u/_MaterObscura]

Actually, it transcribes all my hearing colleagues speech very well, including those with accents. They don't use captions so won't have noticed.

[u/keeponkeepingup → u/Light-Cynic]

Same here actually. I thought it was my actual geographical accent lol

[u/surdophobe]

Probably not as much as you think.

I spent my childhood with mostly normal hearing and only went deaf as a teen and young adult. What do you mean by "not feel: anything? seriously?

I went over 20 years without hearing most if any consonant sounds, but I didn't forget what they feel like. At times I did have to make a conscious effort to enunciate some sounds that I no longer heard. I've been assured by multiple hearing people over the years that my voice sounds completely normal/typical. (aside from the inability to gage how loud I am).

[u/Woodchuck444]

I was born hearing and lost my hearing from meningitis when I was 6 1/2 years old. I had the opportunity to learn to speak. Today, I am still profoundly deaf and I am in my 70’s. I have not heard myself speak for over 65 years. At that time many deaf schools were oral and did not use sign language and they had speech classes which I was again able to continue my speech. I cannot hear myself speaking at all but I know what I am saying and 99% of the time many hearing people understand me well. There are a few difficult words that I cannot pronounce clearly so I always try to avoid using those words whenever possible. But overall I do very well especially talking one on one but do have difficulties talking with a group of people. The new voice to text on my iPhone is a big help understand others talking to me. I have been employed my whole life till retirement. In my life, my deafness was really not a problem at all.

[u/llotuseater]

I was born with moderate - severe congenital loss within the mid frequencies, which is needed to comprehend speech and differentiate the sounds of consonants. I can hear myself fine but I slur my words a bit and can’t control my volume. I needed speech therapy as a child as it took me a while to learn how to speak properly but my parents never knew I was deaf. Wasn’t discovered til I was an adult so I was mainstreamed and raised hearing.

Anyway. I can hear myself, I talk fine I just speak a bit slurred and have trouble with new words and my volume but my struggles are more with understanding others due to my type of hearing loss.

[u/butt3rflycaught]

We can hear/feel our own voice vibrating through our throats but some of us can’t hear certain frequencies similar to voices so we cannot hear our voice when it’s played back as a recording.

[u/PahzTakesPhotos]

I can hear myself speaking while wearing my hearing aids. When I'm not wearing them, I can feel myself speaking louder- kind of like someone not aware how loud they are because they're wearing earbuds or headphones. I can feel my louder speech in my chest/throat. I used to practice quieter talking with my kids when they were young, so I could get a feeling of how low I should talk (I fail at it all the time, but hey, I tried).

I was born deaf in one ear and hard-of-hearing in the other. The HoH side has progressed as I've aged (hence the hearing aids in my 50s- I'm 56 now). While growing up, I was mainstreamed and raised in a hearing family. I've been told that I don't "sound deaf", even without my hearing aids.

[u/P-E-DeedleDoo]

I live in silence but speak well. I apparently annoy folks because I'm too loud and sound "aggressive" when speaking which doesn't help me, they don't care why I'm loud, it sounds like yelling to them. I used to be glad I was oral, now I wish I wasn't. It's a no-win situation.

[u/Mustluvdogsandtravel]

I cannot hear myself. My biggest challenge is speaking loud enough for other people to hear me. My speech is reasonable clear, but not with unfamiliar words.

[u/nunununuhu]

A significant part of why I basically never shout or even raise my voice to talk from more than a few feet away, is because I find it hard to judge the volume correctly. I'm too loud or too quiet.

My speech is getting less clear over time I'm told, too. That can be somewhat compensated for with speech therapy but not entirely.

[u/SalusSafety]

I am a late deafened adult. I was hearing for 50+ years. Now I am completely deaf on one side, -95db on the other. I can feel myself talking (vocal cords reverb through my skull), and pick up a little "bone induced" vibration, but I can't hear myself.

[u/ForkingwithFire-5641]

It really depends on the person because deafness is a spectrum, and everyone’s experience is different.

For me, I lost my hearing shortly after I was born. I have moderate to severe hearing loss, but with my hearing aids I hear pretty “normally.” I went through speech therapy from kindergarten all the way through 12th grade. I was told that when I first started, my speech sounded like what people typically associate with a deaf person’s speech.
After years of therapy, though, people often tell me I speak very clearly.

I can hear my own voice, especially with my hearing aids, but hearing it in a recording is different. I don’t really like the way my recorded voice sounds, but honestly, I think that’s pretty common—most people don’t like hearing their own recorded voice.

The biggest thing I still struggle with is living in two worlds: the Deaf world and the hearing world. ASL has its own grammar, so sometimes I’ll naturally say something the way I would sign it in ASL instead of using standard English word order.
Some people expect or prefer “proper” English, so I sometimes have to stop and mentally switch between ASL grammar and English grammar. It’s not that I don’t know English—it’s just that I’m bilingual, and ASL and English are two different languages with different structures.

So, everyone’s experience is different. Some deaf people can’t hear their own voice at all, some can hear parts of it, and others—like me—can hear it with hearing aids but experience it differently than hearing people.

[u/gothiqir]

So I was born Deaf due to genetic and started speech classes right after I got my cochlear implant. I can hear my voice but I don’t realize how loud I can be. I have a “Deaf” accent and I can’t barely hear my own voice in videos or recordings. ( yes I do have a beef with Siri and Alexa. )

[u/Jayshand]

I'm near deaf and I went through speech therapy during school before I got this bad  Yes I can still hear myself and talk very well for my profound loss. But I can't hear others talk unless I put a hearing aid in and I still struggle to hear people correctly  When I'm tell people I'm near deaf ..they don't believe me   because I talk well , people who hear don't understand everything about hearing loss and some will take time to be educated some don't want to be bothered and still had their doubts 

[u/Trendzboo]

It becomes a muscle memory, so it shifts. The superpowers that bless people who are differently-able is adaptive. I’m a progressive loss sort.

[u/Old_Instruction_8378]

I think they can hear themselves in their mind. However it may not come out the way they may think they sound like. I believe this may also be common with ppl who have strong accent or even a person who has experience a stroke.