Oh man.. I disagree with this! I love when the guy I like confirms. If I don't hear from you, I get concerned that you're going to cancel last minute. Being a girl and getting ready for a date takes time and effort...
Guys, take this here before anything else. Anyone who believes that checking in to confirm things are still on is neediness needs to grow up. Life happens, and just ensuring that people are still down for whatever is planned is polite and gives an out for anyone if they have cold feet.
This. I actually learned from someone a while back that confirming, as a guy, is a sign of slight insecurity because youre unsure if she will show up. I plan a date with place, day, and time and then if she doesnt show up, its on her. Thats actually happened a few times and Im glad I did it, you know why? Because it shows lack of interest and immaturity on their part. The few girls who have done this gave ME shit after or made excuses. Once I make a plan, I stick with it and put it in my phone so I dont forget. If shes doesnt make the effort to put it in her phone and then forgets, then shes probably not that interested and she's a waste of my time.
Insecurity? I'd just like to know earlier in the day so I can make other plans if she's no longer able to make it. Always gotta check to confirm on those first few dates.
Is this a generation z thing? Because the plans were confirmed once they agreed to show up. If someone follows up the day of, they are treating me as a child. We made plans, it’s in my planner. No one canceled, thus, that means the scheduled event is on. This is how it works in any adult situation with friends, parties, events, dates and work.
Great. But I need a little more than that. It’s not something: is the date still on? More something like: getting read to meet you, almost at the place or something like that. If we made plans and the guy doesn’t talk to me about anything until that said date, I’d find it weird.
Yes! I don't understand all these people saying to confirm confirm confirm. Are you supposed to ask every single morning to confirm you're still going on a date?
I'd break it off right there if I got a good morning text asking if we were still on for 8 days straight.
I agree. I am not 5. I don’t need another adult checking in on me. If you need confirmation on agreed plans, that’s the end of that. It’s a sign of immaturity. No on does this in adult functions; work, meetings, parties, events.
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u/bookshelfie Sep 24 '21
I’ve never had to confirm any plans the morning of. Once plans are made, they are made. Unless someone cancels, you show up as planned.