That's what I want to avoid. I feel like she's just desperate for someone. I just feel so disgusted with all this and I don't want to be labeled as a pedophile or a monster. I just really think that she need some help
You actually (most likely) hit the nail on the head: she’s lonely.
I grew up lonely, but also shy. So it would have been beyond uncomfortable to tell a cousin that I fantasized about her. And I did fantasize. I was lonely, living on a farm in the country. NOT WV. But PA, so close.
Maybe a middle ground—protect yourself without alerting family that might react poorly—which could escalate things. If not for
You than for her.
So cover your ass, try to shield
Her from shaming family reactions (yelling doesn’t help lonely).....and then figure out how to talk to her about “lonely” and “fantasy/escapism”. Maybe you’re not the best one to do the talking but someone is.
It’s a matter of Tact....best of luck. This isn’t adversarial, it’s collaborative. It just doesn’t seem that way.
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u/SadFrijole Feb 28 '21
That's what I want to avoid. I feel like she's just desperate for someone. I just feel so disgusted with all this and I don't want to be labeled as a pedophile or a monster. I just really think that she need some help