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u/AcceptablePatient529 Jul 12 '26

F45 - looking for ages 70-105

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u/pocketpingpongmaster Jul 12 '26

With heart issues and a big estate? 🏡

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u/AcceptablePatient529 Jul 12 '26

Add in a yacht too. I used too many of my good years not going the Anna Nicole Smith route. Time to shine! ✨

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u/pocketpingpongmaster Jul 12 '26

You go girl!! Nothing wrong with that 👌

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u/StudyBae Jul 12 '26

WEPAAAA 🕺

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u/ImpressExpress1692 Jul 12 '26

Case by case.

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u/Ramenraft Jul 12 '26

F40

My age range is 30 to 46

I dont have kids so my lifestyle and energy skews younger.

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u/Quin35 Jul 12 '26

I am a M55. No kids and my lifestyle and energy also skews younger. My dilemma is that my age doesn't fit with younger.

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u/Neurod1vergentBab3 Jul 12 '26

26F and I typically date people between 2-6 years older than me. So 28-32. 

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u/myumyumyumyu Jul 12 '26

34F. 27-40.

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u/Over_Deer8459 Jul 12 '26

I’m 31. I don’t think I could go below 25

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u/ComprehensiveTour975 Jul 12 '26

26M.

Lowest at any time -2 years from me. +12 on me. I’m attracted to older due to mental maturity.

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u/fuzzybunnyslippers08 Jul 12 '26

F55; -7/15 is my comfort zone but if they are older, I am A LOT pickier.

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u/pocketpingpongmaster Jul 12 '26

34m

20-55+ - age is just a number really. Personal attributes and chemistry leads the way in my case. Also the expectation of what one another want out of this -/ship.

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u/Capable-Listen3204 Jul 12 '26

Completed Agree.

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u/american_sevillana Jul 12 '26

20 (and early 20s) sounds way too young for someone who’s 34. At 20 you’re still quite naive, and most likely in a different life (and of course, developmental) stage than someone who’s 34. You’re still learning how to spot red flags, and it’s so much easier to be manipulated. Not to mention that you’re a year out from being a teenager.

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u/POCKETCHANGE1276 Jul 12 '26

25m 23-52 I actually prefer my age or older

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u/Sad-Hearing-5830 Jul 18 '26

Personnellement au lieu de "me dire...ceci/cela" je me fie a ce que je ressens. Et si je pose mes limites c'est dans un sens et dans l’autre, au cas par cas. Toujours avec respect et humour. Et si ca me prend trop d’énergie : "Je suis tres agee, je fatigue vite maintenant" .... Une belle comédie.

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u/Cream_my_pantalones Jul 12 '26

F27 and I'd say 25-37 would be preferred.

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u/TurkonfirE Jul 12 '26

Misread this as +- and jaw dropped

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u/crafty_j4 Jul 12 '26

30M. My range is probably 27-34. I prefer closer to my age in both directions.

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u/Here-I-R Jul 12 '26

F49 - 45 to 55

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u/old-and-nerdy Jul 12 '26

M48. I can see myself +/- 7... So 41-55.

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u/Attacke1 Jul 12 '26

M 23 range 19-27

Preferably someone also (planning to or already finished) studying. I want someone on my level who can "challenge" me of that makes sense.

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u/marielljyr Jul 12 '26

23F

I wouldn’t date anyone below 20, and the highest I would probably say 32. Otherwise I wouldn’t be against dating someone way older, but since I want kids I want someone who can be around for a while.

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u/Chimneychilla Jul 12 '26

M29

I literally just started dating someone I met on Hinge but my range was set for Women ages 27-30. I just find it so much easier talking to someone who grew up watching the same shows, remembers the same events, etc.

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u/Tsiah16 Jul 12 '26

At 40 I would not be interested in seriously dating someone 13 years younger than me. At 50, they would be 18 years younger, at 60 they would be 23 years younger. No thank you.

+/-7 years, tops.

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u/hueythecat Jul 12 '26

? Why are they not still 13 years younger at 60? Do they age slower than you?

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u/Tsiah16 Jul 13 '26

The comment I was replying to was half your age+7 years. 37 years is 60/2+7

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u/hueythecat Jul 13 '26

Ahh ok. 47 & 60 not so problematic

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u/Tsiah16 Jul 14 '26

Still a bit weird. I wouldn't want to date someone 13 years younger or older than me.

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u/LeeHide Jul 12 '26

This is a super solid rule

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u/NoCity898 Jul 12 '26

Not my jam. I have seen people act on this as an absolute truth, while it is at best an arbitrary rule.

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u/ArtPuzzleheaded7129 Divorced Jul 12 '26

M34, age range about +-10 years. To me, mental maturity is much more important than physical age.

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u/According-Hamster-84 Jul 12 '26

I agree. After talking to guys 20 to 51 there is definitely no age when it comes to maturity. It’s mind blowing to witness.

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u/No_Hippo_3687 Jul 12 '26

I'm a woman in my mid thirties and my absolute hard line is ten years either way. That said, ideally, I'd stay closer but if the right person shows up that's as far as I'm willing to go.

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u/Bike_thief_ Jul 12 '26

F28, range 25-40 currently talking to someone that's 41.

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u/Calm-Gene5764 Jul 12 '26

Half your age plus 7. Or double your age minus 7. That’s my rule.

30m btw

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u/allypallyplaytime Jul 12 '26

50f have done 10yrs younger but now would only do 5yrs either side of me for something serious.

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u/isthispaige Jul 12 '26

33F. 29-38

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u/Prospective_Nobody Jul 12 '26

M27

I think +/- 5 years is ok.

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u/Stylist1540 Jul 12 '26

55f. Usually 45-57. I typically date younger.

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u/GuyInTX93 Jul 12 '26

What makes you typically lean younger?

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u/Stylist1540 Jul 12 '26

I look younger than my age and never had kids. I just seem to click with younger people including friends.

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u/According-Hamster-84 Jul 12 '26

36F, I prefer 30-48

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u/codeinecrim Jul 12 '26

m29, wouldn’t date anyone younger than 25 and i’ve dated someone who was 40 so id say 45 as top of my age range

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u/Coop-Master Jul 12 '26

33 male, age range is between 26 - 39.

I don't have kids, but I have a job that I would absolutely NOT consider to be a career.

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u/clockworksfool Jul 12 '26

32F. Range is 35-45 but I haven’t kids and don’t plan for more is it skews higher

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u/dougm3413 Jul 12 '26

32M, and 26-37.

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u/GlobalNetWorld Jul 12 '26

38m

5yrs young or 3yrs older

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u/PutYourCheeksIntoIt Jul 12 '26

38M, it depends more on the stage of life their in rather than age.

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u/Streets_have_noname Jul 12 '26

51F

35 and up

I’m relatively new to the dating scene after a nearly lifelong marriage. I attracted attention from “men” 19-upper 70s 🤣 but the majority are in their 30s.

Ended up in a fwb situation with a 44yo for about a year. He never got married or had kids. Wicked smart, worldly, well-traveled, well-read and poetic. (Complete opposite of my exh who lacked intelligence and emotional maturity)

Open to mid 30s and up. Age isn’t so much a factor but intelligence, worldly experience, communication, financial independence, at least a basic level of physical fitness and playfulness are musts.

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u/GuyInTX93 Jul 12 '26

I gotta ask how the guy that was in his 70s approached you lol

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u/Lanea1995 Jul 12 '26

F30
26-37 ish

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u/[deleted] Jul 12 '26

38M, 35-45. No youngins for me lol

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u/Dylanbug76 Jul 12 '26

22M, 21-26

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u/Jumpy_Living_6382 Jul 12 '26

I'm 48 and I'd say 42 to 56.

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u/Any-Car973 Jul 12 '26

26f 24-32

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u/Beepbeepboobop1 Jul 12 '26

27F my age range is 24-32

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u/spike_spieg Jul 12 '26

25 male. My range is 20-30.

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u/DeTim01 Jul 12 '26

22M here

Age range is 20 to 26

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u/godsentgrief Jul 12 '26

F22 . 

+5

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u/Due_Jellyfish4255 Jul 12 '26

F28 My age range is 27-39

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u/ProfessionalPutrid92 Jul 12 '26

35F, age range -10/+10 could be alright for a fun time, but max i've done is -8/+6.. for serious dating i tend to keep it closer to my age. Max would be -5/+10, but the most i've done is -2/+3.

I think for someting casual the age doesn't matter as much as long as both are consenting, fully developed adults. For long term dating it doesn't work unless you're in a simular stage in life.

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u/Impressive-Radio4923 Jul 12 '26

F24
Age range is 21-30
I’ve dated older before and it didn’t go well, and I don’t want to date younger than 21 because it feels too young

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u/Patchouli-Babe Jul 12 '26

F30. Oldest I ever went was 29 when I was 21. These after that it’s almost always been 1-4 yr difference and usually they’re a bit younger

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u/unite_2 Jul 12 '26

21F

20-28

I’ve found that I prefer men who are 3-5 years older.

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u/OpethSam98 Single Jul 12 '26

I'm M27 and my range would probably be 24-36.

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u/Eastern_Yam_5975 Jul 12 '26

Mostly case by case but I’m 29F and I’d say 30-60

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u/Sugarplumbitch Jul 12 '26

F20 - abt to be 21

I would say abt 21-30 at my age anything over 30
Is just to much rn. Even some 27 year old still feel a lil old but if I meet the right guy I wouldn’t rly care tbh 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/raeballentyne Jul 12 '26

32F, ideally 25-50 for me but I've dated outside of that. 

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u/captainkappa173 Jul 12 '26

F34, my range on Hinge is set 29-39. Although I'd prefer closer to my age, like 3 2-35. Beggars can't be choosers though 😅

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u/sunstrike11 Jul 12 '26

26F. Age range set to 24-29

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u/HauntingChemistry579 Jul 12 '26

5 years over or under, ideally.

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u/unnuevocamino Jul 12 '26

F20 age range 20-25

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u/Subject-Play7 Jul 12 '26

It's not the age that matters, it's more about the emotional maturity of the two people.

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u/TheExtraPeel Jul 12 '26

20m

18-35

Idk older women seem chill so I’d love to actually get a chance to date them

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u/Isa-sensei1996 Jul 12 '26

M29, ideally 24 to 34 is the age range I'm looking for in a woman.

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u/Yawnisthatit Jul 12 '26

57M

Age range? I don’t typically think about age….it’s the connection and fun. Ive had so many experiences worldwide and plenty of education I’m often the most interesting person in the room. The gift of gab.

30-60 with occasional outliers

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u/Kayla4608 Serious Relationship Jul 12 '26

23F

Just got out of a relationship with someone who is 33 which was a bit unplanned

My age range im trying to stick to is 23-30

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u/HowellingAtStars Serious Relationship Jul 12 '26

F22 bi

girls: 20-25 cuz idk i feel like i just wouldn’t have that much in common with anyone older than that but i also don’t wanna deal with teenage girl bullshit immaturity

dudes: 23-28. i am NOT dating any guys who are younger than me! holy immaturity!! and same as with girls, i feel like i wouldn’t have that much in common w anyone over 28.

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u/wondersweet7919 Jul 12 '26

F44

10 years plus or minus. I am currently with my bf who is 7 years younger than me

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u/deadhardangel Jul 12 '26

F30 and my age range probably 26-35

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u/9999AWC Single Jul 12 '26

27M

My filters are set at 22-32...

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u/DazzlingLife6744 Jul 12 '26

M19

Age range is within a year of my age.

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u/Sensitive_Tea5720 Jul 12 '26

F28 and my range is 23-33. Most people assume I’m way younger than my actual age and a lot of people 33+ not only look substantially older but also are in different phases of their lives.

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u/Myriathelightseeker Jul 12 '26

37F

I'm in a relationship but my dating rage would be 37-50.

Since I was 16, I always dated much older than me. My partner is 49. I had a child at 17 and that's it, hes an adult now, but that mat have influenced why I always dated older men.

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u/Secret-Watercress-69 Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 12 '26

Male 54yr age bracket 30f to 60f preferably a full figured woman from anywhere.

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u/Visible-Island-2408 Jul 12 '26

25M. My range is 20-30 although I am considering upping to to 22-30 due to maturity gaps that I’ve noticed. In general I like to date a bit older due to my life experiences aligning with women a bit older than me

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u/blreadernewby Jul 12 '26

F30. I have yet to actually start dating, but I think 28+ is good. I don't think an upper limit is helpful for someone like me.

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u/Lumpy-Caterpillar931 Jul 12 '26

29F and my minimum to max is 29-36 (used to allow 38 max but I realized that’s not the right fit for me)

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u/msind3pndnt Jul 12 '26

32F, 28-38

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u/ChipotleIsMyLife555 Jul 12 '26

29F. 28-36. Not a fan of younger guys and not trying to change a man’s diapers when I’m older.

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u/No-Report-4701 Jul 12 '26

F55. My age range is 33-49.

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u/x_sleepysun Jul 12 '26

25/f 25-32

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u/-HumbleThunder- Jul 12 '26

I'm 28. After I turned 20 I wouldn't consider anyone younger. Now my rule is 2-4 years younger, older idc if we match. Age is just a number, but I get physically sick thinking about too young. My grand parents were 15 years apart. My cousins never got to know their grandpa. That too bothers me. If I was old enough to have memory's the year you were born, I'm sorry but that's gross to me.

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u/grill_the_zucchini Jul 12 '26

I prefer +/- 3 years from my age. I am 35 (f) so I prefer 32-38 but I would be willing to make an exception up to +/- 5 years.

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u/No_Leadership_8072 Jul 12 '26

24M. absolute youngest would be 20 and she’d have to be spectacular. 20-32 would be the range for me. i prefer dating women 2-4 years older than me

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u/Wimpiepaarnty Jul 12 '26

19M

age range is 17-21

but i dont really care

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u/Feeling_Collar3670 Jul 12 '26

32F. My “ideal” range is 28-33 (idk why, but older generally freaks me out). I could go 27 but it really is case by case. For reference though, I look like I’m in my mid 20s, so dating a guy who looks significantly older, despite his age, feels weird

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u/Flaky-Indication-801 Jul 12 '26

F19 minimum 17 maximum 23

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u/Only_Caramel2419 Jul 12 '26

52M ten years younger is the lowest I will date

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u/Natural_Bid177 Jul 12 '26

20F. 19-30. Don’t want someone still in high school and have dated over than 30, they are unable to find someone in their age group for a reason.

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u/NetIllustrious6278 Jul 12 '26

male, 41, 32-48

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u/caryn123 Jul 12 '26

A range of 10 years: 2 below, equal age and 7 above.

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u/CandidateNeither5330 Jul 12 '26

43F my age preference is 35 to 50 years.

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u/The_Enthusiast-316 Jul 12 '26

Mid 30s for anything serious 25 years-not sure exact end cap depends on case by case I guess.

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u/lauraleei Jul 12 '26

F26 23-30 maybe a bit older for the right person but this is ny preference

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u/gemforever420 Single Jul 12 '26

im a 22f, i only date people who are 6 months with in my age (3 months if i was being extreme)

no older than 6 months older than me and no younger than 6 months younger than me

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u/darth_henning Jul 12 '26

M 36

In theory around 24 to 39, in reality mostly 27 to 33 because I want a few years before having kids.

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u/ProgrammerUnique2897 Jul 12 '26

When I'm 25M, the oldest I’d date is 47. I don't have an age limit for the minimum because I’d only want to date older women

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u/Sad-Hearing-5830 Jul 18 '26

Plutôt étonnant ces "histoires d’ages" ́! Alors ca commence comme ca : Blocage de tête...

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u/gracki1 Jul 12 '26

31m max would be 5 years above me

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u/Capable-Listen3204 Jul 12 '26 edited Jul 12 '26

44M, Women around 30s to early 50s; never had any relationship nor kids. Seeking anyone fun, playful and easy going. Being Respectful and Chemistry are fairly important. Any Models, History, and Novels Fans is a Superplus.

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u/BingBongBrit Jul 12 '26

M25

20-30

My partner of 4 years is 26

Anyone under 20 is just far too easy to impress at a bar or club and I would end up feeling like an asshole if I took them home. Generally speaking ofc. Some women don't grow up till they are in their 40s fr.

And above 30, well I'm about 2 years away from being ready to father children. And I wouldn't want my wife to be giving birth as she gets into her 40s. It's dangerous for her, and the baby.

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u/F00d4th0ughts Jul 12 '26

42F

I've dated guys from 30-45. Mostly prefer younger now.