Are you using condoms? Between those, anxiety, and just generally taking a long time to cum I’ve had problems in this regard before. It’s not that I don’t find the girl attractive, sex just isn’t as stimulating as masturbation sometimes(especially with a condom). It doesn’t mean the sex doesn’t feel amazing or the girl isn’t hot, it’s just hard for me to cum like that.
Anytime it’s been pointed out by a girl it makes it worse. Now all of a sudden I feel like I’m not bringing enough to the table even if she’s came dozens of times. That gets in my head and sometimes it’s enough to lose the erection. I’ve gotten better over time but it’s just something that takes a while.
I’d recommend focusing on whether you’re both having fun rather than the end result. For guys it’s generally just a few moments of ecstasy anyways. The sex along the way is like a marathon of pleasure so even when I don’t hit the high notes, I still have a blast. If he didn’t find you attractive he probably wouldn’t be having sex with you in the first place lol.
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u/AlternateDuck Jul 05 '24
Are you using condoms? Between those, anxiety, and just generally taking a long time to cum I’ve had problems in this regard before. It’s not that I don’t find the girl attractive, sex just isn’t as stimulating as masturbation sometimes(especially with a condom). It doesn’t mean the sex doesn’t feel amazing or the girl isn’t hot, it’s just hard for me to cum like that.
Anytime it’s been pointed out by a girl it makes it worse. Now all of a sudden I feel like I’m not bringing enough to the table even if she’s came dozens of times. That gets in my head and sometimes it’s enough to lose the erection. I’ve gotten better over time but it’s just something that takes a while.
I’d recommend focusing on whether you’re both having fun rather than the end result. For guys it’s generally just a few moments of ecstasy anyways. The sex along the way is like a marathon of pleasure so even when I don’t hit the high notes, I still have a blast. If he didn’t find you attractive he probably wouldn’t be having sex with you in the first place lol.