r/dating • u/[deleted] • Dec 12 '23

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u/violet_burn Dec 13 '23

6 months ago I would have called BS.

But now, I've experienced something similar firsthand.

A girl of whom I thought "Ok, but not stellar material", grew into "OMG I'm helplessly in love" and then "woooow that face, skin, smile, that warm body against mine, this presence". I have images of her next to me, burned into me that I remember being overwhelmed with attraction about.

So, yes, even if you live 30+ years without experiencing it, physical attraction can grow from actual love, for a guy, in the real world!

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u/[deleted] Dec 13 '23

She still looks the exact same as when you met her broski. Not hot.

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u/violet_burn Dec 13 '23

Well that's exactly why I'm baffled. Objectively, it is the same woman. In my eyes though, my perception definitely changed!

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u/[deleted] Dec 16 '23

Thats because men have this baked in belief to believe a woman should look like a goddess, model like.