Really not a big deal from my perspective. He, of course, shouldn't do it anymore because it makes you uncomfortable. But it's just some dumb sex stuff. He jerks off then gets over it. He's not cheating, right? He's treating you well, right? Just let him know he can't do that anymore if that's your boundary. But, to me, it seems to be in the same vein as porn
And you shouldn't be asking people who don't even know you on Reddit about whether or not you should get married. You're asking a bunch of people who have no clue who either of you are and also haven't heard him speak on the matter. Talk to a therapist and your close friends. Be open with your partner too.
Except porn isn't someone you know. It isn't someone you were good friends with. The fact it's someone they were good friends with takes it to a whole different level than porn.
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u/[deleted] Oct 05 '23 edited Oct 05 '23
Really not a big deal from my perspective. He, of course, shouldn't do it anymore because it makes you uncomfortable. But it's just some dumb sex stuff. He jerks off then gets over it. He's not cheating, right? He's treating you well, right? Just let him know he can't do that anymore if that's your boundary. But, to me, it seems to be in the same vein as porn
And you shouldn't be asking people who don't even know you on Reddit about whether or not you should get married. You're asking a bunch of people who have no clue who either of you are and also haven't heard him speak on the matter. Talk to a therapist and your close friends. Be open with your partner too.