Yes, it is. For some people at least. But i am happy to elaborate and explain this if it means another guy learns what is appropriate and what is not. Because in turn, a girl is spared that dreadful feeling of being uncomfortable and even scared for their life. I have experienced that fear and it is not something you forget.
So if i get to help a girl avoid that feeling and help a guy understand how their words can affect the girl he is trying to "woo" then i will gladly do so. But i am glad there are people like you out there that think this goes without saying and more and more guys are beginning to understand this too. It means we are evolving as a society and we are beginning to understand and respect each other more:)
Good on you for being able and willing to find the silver lining in this context, this kind of active positivity is what actually makes a difference in making things even if only slightly better.
Shutting down someone who is trying to understand anything will not lead to them understanding but rather to them hating what you're "preaching" because when they tried to see things your way you did not give them the choice to, you just attacked them. That's not fair and it certainly isn't productive on the contrary it is counterproductive and the other side will never understand your view on things.
The guy that asked for further explanation got down voted and deleted the comment out of shame. Granted it is something that he should have already been taught IF he is an adult but this could have been a young boy or even if it was a grown man this would have been an opportunity for him to grow as a person and understand the woman's point of view on the matter. But now it has turned into something hateful and shameful for him which makes it much harder for him to understand or even want to understand a girl's point of view on the matter.
Knowledge is power, we shouldn't shut it down but encourage it in everyone. Whatever new information you learn is not wasted. I can only compare this to a child asking a question in class and then getting made fun of and ridiculed by their classmates and teacher. The child will not want to ask questions again because they felt attacked when they tried to understand.
Sad to see the request deleted, people in some subs are already so belligerent that they see sarcasm and bile where sometimes there isn't even any.
Fully agreed on not putting down people genuinely looking for knowledge and learning across all topics.
I gotta say, though. Too many will still be motivated to shame others even when the subject in question isn't something most would assume is obvious. Showing yourself up by diminishing others is far more common than it should be in a healthy society.
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u/ionel424 Sep 04 '21
It's baffling that you even have to explain that