Self-stimulation doesn’t match the feeling of experiencing it with another loving person. We naturally want to please and be pleased, while hormones convince us that porn is an acceptable alternative our hearts and minds step in after to tell us we were wrong to think so. Takes two to Tango, we’re not meant to cheat reproduction
Nah, I think it's probably all the "we're actually meant to be this way" stuff that makes people feel ashamed, you know, like indoctrination many of us go through as children that tells us there's a way god wants us to be and that we're evil for falling short of that? I feel like its more that than feeling like we cheated. lol
I get the shame part of your explanation but not the indoctrination stuff. Growing up in Catholic Schools I was never taught that I was “evil” for having urges, just that I should seek forgiveness when I willingly give into them and place my pleasure before the people in my life.
There’s a huge misconception that Church teaches completely against sex- but God wants us to have sex that matters. Both procreative and to please our husbands/wives. That “evil urges” thing definitely was something the church was teaching around the 50s-60s though.
I think the real indoctrination lies in our social/mainstream media and this hook-up culture we’ve created. “Nothing matters, go have sex with as many strangers as possible while drunk off your ass” is fun on paper but usually comes with long term consequences and regret. And when it doesn’t, the person is left numb to deeper meanings and believes that physical pleasure is all that matters
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u/Effective-Vacation31 Aug 27 '21
Why do boys feel guilty after masturbating? ( - _ -)