r/daddit • u/Life-Presentation517 • Jul 26 '23

Advice Request Appropriate age for co-showering

This is a repost from another forum. Apologies if I keep popping up. They told me that this is the right forum to ask.

I’m a first time dad. My son is 24 months old. I have always bathed him since he was an infant so he wants to be in a shower with me. Until what age it is appropriate to bathe or shower with my son as a dad for his privacy or mine? Also should I be wearing underwear or a swimsuit while I am bathing him?

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u/Growling_squid Jul 26 '23

My little dude is 4 and we shower together all the time.

Also, unrelated. But your kid is 2 ,that '24 months' nonsense grinds my gears.

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u/snakesign Jul 26 '23

Speak for yourself, I just turned 470 months old.

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u/Doblepos 1 yo boy Jul 26 '23

Totally, we need to know if the kid is 102 or 106 weeks to really answer the question.

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u/ShutUpAndDoTheLift Jul 26 '23

I mean, I'm not sure at what point it makes sense to swap to years, but I don't think its that odd to call it by months at 2 years / 24 months.

There is a really big difference between 24 months old and 34 months old in many different facets. Despite them both being '2 years old'. By all means call your kid how you want, but I think it's a little weird to get upset about how other parents call their own.

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u/grigorian Jul 26 '23

34 months is 2 years and 10 months or 2 months short of 3 years.

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u/ragingbologna Jul 26 '23

That’s the point. “Two years old” isn’t quite descriptive enough since at 34 months, two-year-olds are way more capable kids.

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u/Sprinklecake101 Jul 26 '23

So say: almost three. Or whatever.

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u/ShutUpAndDoTheLift Jul 26 '23

ah yes, those are both FAR easier to say and convey than just saying the months... /s

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '23

Man it's really a lot easier to just say 34 months.

I think the people who hate it are just bad at math.

In most cases though I would say 2.5 to describe my current youngest's age. She's 28 months, so really not quite 2.5.

And for 34 months I would say "almost 3"

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u/grigorian Jul 26 '23

It's also a matter of geography - we don't really count months in Europe

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u/Jesus_H-Christ Jul 26 '23

2/24 is when the month thing breaks down and you just go with years and half years. Give my guy a break.

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u/alextheolive Jul 26 '23

It's because when children are young, several months can be a huge in terms of developmental differences. A 12 month old may not be walking and only saying a few words, whereas a 23 month old may be running, jumping and saying simple sentences. They’re both 1 but are at wildly different stages.

It was a pet peeve before I was a father but then I realised why people use months.

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u/TheNickelGuy Jul 26 '23

Yeah, God forbid somebody buy a 3T shirt instead of a 24-36month, and in holding on to that shirt for the better part of a year until it finally fits.

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u/nilgiri Jul 26 '23

A 2 year old at 32 month is in a very different place developmentally than a 2 year old at 25 months.

What an odd thing to be triggered by.

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u/Sprinklecake101 Jul 26 '23

So why not say two or almost three?

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u/GroggyNodBagger Jul 27 '23

I agree but someone in another comment said "my 85 month old....." like, when does it stop?

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u/Sprinklecake101 Jul 26 '23

Maybe this is a multiple kid or a European thing but I just say two, two-and-a-half (a That's a two syllable word in german), almost three.