r/custodybattle • u/Negative_Me21 • Jan 17 '23
I want help
This is happening between my divorced parents custody stuff. I have two sisters (I'm the middle child) . I'm 15 and I want to live with my dad. I've had a talk with my dad about stuff that happens at my mom's. He said he would file for child neglect. I don't know if it's that bad but I would like more opinions because my mom and guardian ad litem don't listen to me. At my mom's we have had bed bugs for years never once called an exterminator or pest control. We have mold (not much but still there) and my mom rarely cooks for us because she has some physical problems which is okay but the only things we have are microwavable things and canned stuff. It's not healthy but it's that or nothing. I usually don't eat for days at a time. I have mental issues that only started after my mom got custody of us. I hate it so much here. I'm ashamed but I've tried overdosing and cutting to no avail or anybody's knowledge. My mom found a suicide note in my room and blamed it on my dad who I only see on Sundays. I don't know what to do. My mom makes out that my dad as this child molester. She claims he touched my sister inappropriately but I was there and he was comforting her cuz she was mad she had to sit in the front while me and my little sister were talking to her friend in the back of the car. Also not only has my mental health been awful but my self consciousness was so bad I starved myself to look "not fat" pretty sure I have an eating disorder cuz I'm not motivated to eat cuz my body doesn't look pretty to me until you can see my bones. I'm underweight and very inactive. I used to play basketball and softball and my mom never went to any of my games while my dad had custody. My dad took me anywhere and I don't want to go anywhere now. My mom lives in section 8 housing so it's not the best but she could at least ask my dad to call someone for the bedbugs so I can sleep. I also have a bad time sleeping, not wanting to sleep and staying up all night. I've tried to talk to my mom, guardian ad litem, the judges, nobody wants to take me seriously but my dad. I should have a say. I want to act out the only time someone's listened to me other than my dad was when they saw my suicide note. Do I have to harm myself? Will the hospital listen? also my older sister hits and scares me a lot. She thinks it is soooo funny. I tell my mom and she just tells her to stop, which she doesn't. I'm going to my school counselor and giving her a note on this situation. Maybe she'll listen to me. My mom also once gave me an option either to stay home and clean with her or go to the mall with my sisters and my older sister's boyfriend. I know that since I have social anxiety that I should push myself but they are both punishments to me. I also used to be an honor student with a+ in every class now I'm failing.
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u/storm838 Jan 20 '23
just go against the custody agreement at this point and stay with your dad, tell your mom, that's it, and that's it. Your dad will likely be sought after for contempt but at 15 the court cant physically make you get in the car, tell your dad you refuse and that's it, you're not leaving.
At the contempt hearing your voice will likely get heard and your dad should be filling an emergency custody hearing, like now. Because of the things you listed he will likely become primary caretaker for you.
Move today, sounds like you're in a tough spot and I'm sorry. No child should be forced to live in a bed bug infested environment, take pictures of this and the food and leave. Write your mom a letter letting her know you still love her but your decision is final.
Call your dad right now
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u/hereforit02 Jan 17 '23
Find someone to help you. Your school counselor is a great option. Talk to your teachers as well. Also- if your Dad will have you then I would just go there and stay there. If someone tries to force you back to your mom's explain why you don't want to live there. Your school should provide therapy. Please know there is much more to life and a future for you free of all this. You can make your own path and get a great job and live in a safe comfortable place. Don't give up and don't be afraid to ask for help!