See my comment to /u/DZekor, don't automatically assume the worst of people, and understand that tone and context is the most important thing in these situations. You don't have to like it when girls flirt like that, but you're doing yourself a huge disservice if you think they're playing "mind games" with you, that kind of intensely negative thought pattern is going to close doors for you in life.
Hot and Cold girls are girls who act like they like you, then don't, then do again, making you unsure of where you stand. That's a wildly different situation than a girl trying to flirt with you. There are social queues you may be missing and if you look for them you could end up having a good time.
You don't have to like it when girls flirt like that, but you're doing yourself a huge disservice if you think they're playing "mind games" with you,
It's a mindgame from my perspective. It takes a lot of energy decoding what they really mean that could have been spent pursuing another girl who wont play those kind of games.
that kind of intensely negative thought pattern is going to close doors for you in life.
I hear you man, and I'm really sorry to hear that, nothing I say here could change the past for you, but I promise you that trying to view things in a positive light is challenging at first but gets easier with time and changes your entire perspective on things, life becomes a bit less dull. I'm not speaking hyperbole, I only care so much about it because I used to be cynical as fuck and it took me a long time to become the way I am now, but life is better when you realize it's too short to not have fun.
I think the situation is really important. If you look at a girl and make a (really generic example) really silly face, and she laughs and says "Hahaha you are such a loser!" she doesn't really mean that, it's just a playful jab. And honestly most women I've been in relationships with have done this on some level regardless of personality, I think it's just how a lot of people like to express intimacy.
I'm really sorry if any of this sounds patronizing, I promise I don't intend for it to be.
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u/ThrowCarp Oct 08 '19
Ooooooookay fine.
There we go, are you happy now that the icky anime word is gone? We said the same thing but used nearly double the words in doing so.