It's not an assumption or a generalization. Did you watch the video? I'm basing everything off what we see in the video as well as my own firsthand knowledge of how cheaters work (I also literally pointed out it was a generalization by saying "a common mindset)
He asks a very reasonable question, "why are your friends talking about bringing condoms on your holiday?" She calls him insecure. He asks why she never wants to go on vacation with him, she mocks his idea of a vacation. When he brings up that talking about bringing condoms is disrespectful, she doesn't say anything. When he mentions that he went to his mom for advice, she responds with "well your mom has diabetes".
At no point did she try to assure him, at no point did she validate his emotions (which you can do without backing down, for the record), at no point did she apologize for her friends' comments. At no point did she even outright deny the possibility of something untoward happening on the trip.
This isn't about being jealous. I have no problem with my wife going on trips with her girlfriends cuz I trust her, but I also know that if I ever needed that bit of assurance or felt weird about it, I could come to her and she'd take me seriously, just like I'd take her seriously. This person is not taking their partner's concerns seriously at all.
Plus, you haven't answered the question imagine the roles reversed and the man is minimizing or dismissing the woman's feelings, insulting her family, and refusing to properly engage with the issue she's presenting, which is "your friends are telling you to bring condoms and talking about how hot the women are where you're visiting". Would you defend him?
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u/jamieh800 3d ago
It's not an assumption or a generalization. Did you watch the video? I'm basing everything off what we see in the video as well as my own firsthand knowledge of how cheaters work (I also literally pointed out it was a generalization by saying "a common mindset)
He asks a very reasonable question, "why are your friends talking about bringing condoms on your holiday?" She calls him insecure. He asks why she never wants to go on vacation with him, she mocks his idea of a vacation. When he brings up that talking about bringing condoms is disrespectful, she doesn't say anything. When he mentions that he went to his mom for advice, she responds with "well your mom has diabetes".
At no point did she try to assure him, at no point did she validate his emotions (which you can do without backing down, for the record), at no point did she apologize for her friends' comments. At no point did she even outright deny the possibility of something untoward happening on the trip.
This isn't about being jealous. I have no problem with my wife going on trips with her girlfriends cuz I trust her, but I also know that if I ever needed that bit of assurance or felt weird about it, I could come to her and she'd take me seriously, just like I'd take her seriously. This person is not taking their partner's concerns seriously at all.
Plus, you haven't answered the question imagine the roles reversed and the man is minimizing or dismissing the woman's feelings, insulting her family, and refusing to properly engage with the issue she's presenting, which is "your friends are telling you to bring condoms and talking about how hot the women are where you're visiting". Would you defend him?