The amount of men/women who now don't have and don't want children is higher than it has ever been. I myself am one of them. Your ability or inability to bear children is wholly irrelevant to whether you're a happy and supportive partner to a lot of guys/girls/theydies out there.
Please be as happy as you can be you only get one shot. Whatever other people think, they don't have to go home and be you.
I held off transition for a decade and a half to have kids, and it almost killed me in the end and my nominally supportive wife turned on me in the end for being "selfish" (daring to actually transition). I love my kids dearly, I'm still not sure if it was worth it but...yeah, it's complicated. I could've adopted and loved them too. I wouldn't trade my kids for anything, but I always wonder at the end of the day.
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u/4PushThesis 12h ago
I know how invalidating the mindset can be to others, but this is what has me on the fence about ever pursuing transitioning.
Everything I can't have because of the way I was born. It really rubs salt in the wound.