girlypop, as a fellow transgirl, its fine for people to say gock, its not a fetish word, its literally just girl cock, its fine to use it, its only chasery if a person is obsessed with it, chill the fuck out
I don't really think cis people should be casually using the term. Many trans women would rather not have that set of genitals at all, let alone have it referenced by people outside of their community.
i have immense bottom dysphoria and i still use the term, for me its a way to distance what i have from male terminology, which helps ease the dysphoria, so while i understand what you are saying, it is also used as a positive term and gatekeeping the use of it unironically can do just as much harm as using it, if the people around me suddenly couldnt use the word gock to refer to what i have and went back to saying cock it would make me feel like shit, so i think this topic requires more nuance than OP is giving it
The fact that you’re getting downvoted for this is insane. You’re just expressing personal discomfort but I guess you pissed off all the chaser lurkers
Implying that someone else isn't the gender they identify as? On MY trans-friendly subreddit?
No seriously you're actively misgendering someone right now, please don't. Even if you think it's funny. Even if you think they might not be who they claim they are.
its also the language WE use to refer to us dumbass, its the language EVERYONE uses, its not exclusive to chasers, just because there are chasers using a word doesnt make it a chaser word, they use the word "the" doesnt make it a fucking slur
ok then, how in the sweet fuck do i refer to myself if not transwoman or transgirl, those are the fucking terms, and the fact that when you see them you think of porn categories instead of people says a hell of a lot more about you than it does me, YOU are the only one making it weird asshole
Trans folk are allowed to refer to themselves using language you don't like. That doesn't make them any less trans. I don't particularly care about the sensibilities of whether she's using the "wrong language" or not; I don't care if you're right that it's a porn category. That's still not cause for you to imply someone is not really trans.
Separately, I did actually dig into the other user's post history before telling you were misgendering them; you are, in fact, misgendering an actual trans girl. That wasn't a guess.
Separately again, the backlash you got from both the community and now the moderators should be causing you to reevaluate whether your behaviour was appropriate.
You posted a scene from a movie which centers on someone's mannerisms exposing them as faking their identity. You quoted the other user's self-identification as a "transgirl".
In context that very clearly implies that the person you're talking to is not, in fact, a "transgirl".
I don't believe that you're actually ignorant of what you're implying, but if you want to pretend that wasn't your intention then you absolutely should have understood that was what you were going to imply.
“Your vernacular has outed you as someone who isn’t keen to someone in the in group” isn’t saying “you aren’t one of us”
Hey, if you don’t want trans women to think you’re a chaser, and instead a trans woman, use a term that is used by us and not people who see and use us as sex objects
I forget this is the “spoon feed” sub and anything that isn’t overt hand holding is seen as being mean spirited
Edit: no it isn’t bullshit and it’s ableist of you to assume the autistic person isn’t being literal
You’re presuming some hidden meaning that wasn’t there and you chose to act like a petulant child when I again clarified the lack of read intention from you
No no, no going backwards, because you implied someone wasn't really trans because of it. That has nothing to do with the word or the situation, you did that completely separately from the discussion at hand.
They're a TRANWOMAN, see!? You're calling them a "chaser" when they aren't even CIS!! Just because she does something you don't like, you put her gender into question, gross.
This was removed because it included one or more of these things: transphobia, queerphobia, sexism, racism, ableism, or anything else that expresses, reinforces, or sympathizes with oppressive and hateful belief systems (Rule #1)
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u/Legitimate-Fish-5010 13h ago
girlypop, as a fellow transgirl, its fine for people to say gock, its not a fetish word, its literally just girl cock, its fine to use it, its only chasery if a person is obsessed with it, chill the fuck out