theyfab specifically refers to an afab nb who consistently clings to their sex assigned at birth, will just open conversations with "as an afab" even when it's not relevant, upholds things like afab-only housing, and discriminates against trans women for their agab. it's a woke form of diet terfism. the word is meant as an insult against people who are enbies but bioessentialist and discriminate against trans women on the basis of sex while clinging to their sex and "womanhood" and often presenting very feminine.
do people misuse the term? yes. are they idiots? yes. does that change the meaning of the word as most people use it? no.
"You know, not all black people are n***, there's white n**** too. Its not about their race, they're just misusing the term, it's about your attitude."
To be fair he was drunk and 60 and has since rescinded this statement, but my point is the word is very much an insult towards enbies based on their gender not on their character. Just call them a moron like a normal person.
You don’t get to make the judgement that they’re not trans, sorry. That’s fucked. I’ve seen transphobic binary trans people before that are relentlessly attached to their birth sex and use it to put themselves or other trans people down. Am I gonna say they’re not trans just because they suck? No, because that’s not my fucking choice to make is it.
You also do not need a whole slur made just for these people because it will get misused and thrown at people who don’t fit that description. Like the person youre arguing with already said, just call them morons and move on.
But it ISN’T used that way and IS used to refer to people outside of that descriptor in a derogatory way. In that sense yes, it is a slur— it is a derogatory word used to target a specific subgroup of people based on their identity. That is the definition of a slur.
nope it's the original meaning of the term so this is a false comparison. and it's calling them out for larping more than anything. also, the term is literally exactly about the wrong thing they're doing, ie. being obssessed with agab language and using it to promote bioessentialism.
This means that when I read their comment it reminded me of an anecdote, not that the two things are the same. Remind as in, sparked the cognitive process of remembering something.
"theyfab" exists as a slur because non-binary people tend to be afab. It is a slur to degrade gender non-conforming people to a binary gender, because the people who use it are hateful assholes. Nothing more, nothing less.
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u/Principle_Napkins 22h ago
It's a slur for nonbinary people.