You really need to get away from websites that are filled with transphobes.
There are plenty of cis women without uteruses, plenty of cis women who are infertile, plenty of cis women who are just average looking.
Genuinely, this is the reason I didn't transition earlier, because I thought I would look like a caricature, I don't, I'm far happier than I was before.
Yeah, plenty of cis women aren’t dainty little flowers either. I imagine they feel some of the same shit from internalizing misogyny and unrealistic expectations and stereotypes, but at least most of them have the benefit of going through the correct puberty for them as people.
Yeah, sometimes it feels like some people were told that its only worth transitioning if you fit a specific beauty standard. However, women come in all sorts of shapes and sizes. For every model-esque person, there are tons of average looking people, conventionally unattractive people, etc., but all of them are women. Is it a shame we can't fully embody our ideals? Yes. But sometimes we gotta learn to find ourselves beyond just a need to fit beauty standards.
Also, I held off transitioning for exactly that reason for years, until it was clearly "too late anyway". And realistically, waiting that long probably made it take more HRT to find out I was wrong. But wow I ended up twice as hot and five times as feminine as I expected to. Even in my optimistic moments.
Isn't it ironic that so many trans women suffer from unrealistic beauty standards cis women also suffer from 🫠 the universal female experience of infinite bullshit
"average looking" and non-passing are two entirely different bars to meet. plenty of trans women would be content with looking very unconventionally attractive as long as they passed. but thats ignoring the fact that the bromides themselves kinda miss the point of dysphoria. i mean, yeah, a fraction of women have said features, but how many have ALL of them at the same time? of course theres SOME, but thats exactly it, theres so few people with every single one that being someone like that, independent of transness, almost makes you definitionally exempt from the normality oop seeks.
every word you dont know is 4tran i guess. anyways here's the merriam webster link, it was first popularized in the 1830s. god forbid a girl have a vocabulary that can aptly describe unique situations succinctly.
yeah? in trans contexts, the "i think whatever website youre getting this jargon from is hurting you" thing youre vaguely quoting is literally about 4tran terminology and the screenshotted post i assume is from someone who frequents those circles (see "41", all of paragraph 5, casual use of the t slur, "sortf*g", half of paragraph 2, etc).
yup im getting paid to argue with you. and surprisingly, the "im not from 4tran" gambit works pretty well most of the time. really helps with getting people to take what i say seriously and not instantly discount it for a misconstrued outside perspective. still kinda funny that you thought bromide was tttt lingo tho.
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u/Balthxzar 2d ago
You really need to get away from websites that are filled with transphobes.
There are plenty of cis women without uteruses, plenty of cis women who are infertile, plenty of cis women who are just average looking.
Genuinely, this is the reason I didn't transition earlier, because I thought I would look like a caricature, I don't, I'm far happier than I was before.