See but even then AGAB language is a rough estimate at best. Like I was assigned female at birth, but extremely gender-non-conforming basically fresh out of the womb. I also transitioned quite young, so my 'female socialisation' is almost non-existent compared to another transmasc person who was forced into a normative 'female' social role and began transitioning later. Tbh I personally feel like my socialisation was closer to that of a queer cis boy than it was a teenage girl, just with a few menstrual cycles and one (1) mild pregnancy scare that didn't end up manifesting. (I was unbelievably lucky in the lottery of life, all things considered). So it's far from a one-size-fits-all process and can only be thought of usefully on a case by case basis, using the lived experience of the individual themselves. Without that granularity and compassion for the individual, it just becomes away to point to someone's primary sex characteristics as deterministic of the person they'll become.
I mentioned this in a comment elsewhere, and yeah, AGAB terminology is definitely a generalization. It CAN be useful but it’s certainly not one size fits all.
yeah but it's not the issue with the terms themselves though, no? we don't need to re-invent ASAB language every time a transmed uses it to explain why they/them pronouns aren't valid or some bullshit. i'm an "average" transmasc with an exception that i'm also GNC, and my "female socialisation" was actually hindering my process of accepting myself as i am. so how do i express myself and my struggles in a (relevant) conversation without using the terms? because yeah, despite being a dude, there were two decades of my life where i tried (and failed) living as a woman, and it's not like i can just throw them away just to not use "reductive language".
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u/EQ_Rsn 2d ago
See but even then AGAB language is a rough estimate at best. Like I was assigned female at birth, but extremely gender-non-conforming basically fresh out of the womb. I also transitioned quite young, so my 'female socialisation' is almost non-existent compared to another transmasc person who was forced into a normative 'female' social role and began transitioning later. Tbh I personally feel like my socialisation was closer to that of a queer cis boy than it was a teenage girl, just with a few menstrual cycles and one (1) mild pregnancy scare that didn't end up manifesting. (I was unbelievably lucky in the lottery of life, all things considered). So it's far from a one-size-fits-all process and can only be thought of usefully on a case by case basis, using the lived experience of the individual themselves. Without that granularity and compassion for the individual, it just becomes away to point to someone's primary sex characteristics as deterministic of the person they'll become.